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Because of Money, I Lost Trust In My Friends
Blog #58 November 5, 2021 #BECAUSEOFMONEYILOSTTRUSTINMYFRIENDS "Money is so important nowadays, for it is what we need to buy for our daily needs." Many times in my life, that I experienced some shortages in terms of money. Having not enough money makes me stressed. It makes me stressed thinking where I should get some penny to spend every day that's why every cent that enter my wallet, I valued it coz it's not easy to earn it nowadays. We need to work hard to have it in our wallets. That's why when God gives me this opportunity to earn in these two great platforms, I made sure not to waste this given opportunity. My earnings save us when we are out of budget at home. Because of money, I lost trust in my friends Friends? Yes, not just one, not two but three. The first one borrowed money because she said that she will use it to buy rice so they would have something to eat. I gave her almost 2 dollars so she can buy 1 kilo of rice and viand coz I feel pity for her children. I trust her coz she said she will return it once her husband came home but many weeks passed, she didn't pay it back. I just think that maybe she still doesn't have a budget until this time. But one day, I saw her on the road together with her friend. I was about to approach her but she just ignored me as if she didn't know me. I just let it pass coz I don't want any trouble. The second one borrowed 10 dollars. She's a single mom and I know how hard it is to raise her children alone. My partner and I agreed to let her borrow the money coz she will spend it on buying their basic needs. And also she promised that she will return it once she will get her monthly allowance from her sister in Manila. That's what she said that time. A month passed but we haven't heard anything from her. One time we saw her coming from the grocery store, my partner approached her and asked about the money she borrowed. That time, we badly needed some money because my partner doesn't have work yet, still waiting for his boss to call him. But she told us that she didn't have any, and what's worst she was like having tantrums. So to avoid making big trouble, again we just let it pass. We just wait when she will return it but I guess she doesn't have a plan anymore because when we saw her, she doesn't say anything at all. The third one borrowed more than 2 dollars and promised that she will pay it the next day. Without any hesitations, I let her. But a week passed she hasn't returned it yet, so I messaged her on messenger. She said ok so I think that she will pay for it but when we met at the school, she avoided me. To make the story short, until now they haven't paid for it. What's worst, the second and third people that I mention are always posting their "gala or adventures on Facebook". Sometimes they went to have pizza, halo-halo, or anything delicious in my eyes. The total money they borrowed is 14 dollars. Maybe that's is a small amount for them but me, that's huge already. Who would give me that amount of money if I just sit at home, I think no one does right? We still need to work hard to earn it. From then, I said to myself that I should not entrust my money to others. Not all are good payers, some are just good in words but not in actions. Lessons I learned from it Never let my emotions decide - when I let them borrow the money, what I felt at that time is a pity. I felt pity for them because I know what it feels like to have nothing in our pockets. Never trust your friends - not all are true to us. Some are just there for benefits alone. Learn to say no when it is needed - Saying no doesn't mean that we are selfish, sometimes we also need to think for our own sake because when things come to worst, our so-called friends aren't there for us. That's all!!! Thanks for reading! Lead image from Unsplash Flexing my generous sponsors. It will be nice if you take the time to read their wonderful works. To my sponsors, upvoters, commenters, likers, and readers thank you so much for the effort you take every time I published my works. Your efforts are highly appreciated! Happy Friday! God bless and keep safe everyone!
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Madali lang mahanap ang pera sissy pero ung trust ang mahirap eh. Nakaka trauma na magtiwala pagdating sa pera
*True sissy, ang hirap na magtiwala kung pera ang pag uusapan*
Pagdating sa pera sissy ewan bakit ngbabago ang tao,nakakasad lbg. Ilang beses nako naloko ng mga tao. Mabilis kc akong magtiwala
*Same sa akin sissy, madali lang kasi akong maawa sa iba kaya siguro minsan natetake for granted nila yung kabaitan ko, kaya naloko ng iba*
Ahay sissy same na same. Minsan ginagawa n nga tayong tanga eh, real talk
*True sissy, nakakasad lang talaga pag may mga taong ganyan*
Don't trust again sis to any of them,the money is not easy to earn
*Yes sis, lesson learned na yun talaga. Walang ng susunod.*
Dapat talaga sis magtanda kana nakailan na sila eh
*Kaya sis, yung pera ko ngayon inipon ko na kahit magsabi silang manghiram, sinabi kong wala akong pera*
Oo making wais kana talaga dapat
Inaakala siguro nila pinupolot mo lang yung pera, ganyan din nangyari sa mama ko. Ang worse pa nga sila pa yung galit at thousand din yung hiniram nila hanggang ngayon hindi pa fully paid.
*Ay yan talaga kung sino pa yung nangungutang sila pa yung galit. Grabeh yung sa mama mo noh, ang laki nun. Hindi pa din pala sila nagbayad hanggang ngayon?*
Oo hindi pa din fully paid.
*Tagal na nun, dapat magbayad na sila. Pasalamat sila kay buotan imong mama, kung lain pa na pwede na sila gikasuhan*
Ohhh my God! Sana naman mahiya sila sayu sis! Pero pkay lang at least alam mona attitude nila, hindi ikaw ang mag sisisi, kundi sila dahil pagdumating ang panahon na lalapit pa sila sayu, sorry nalang. Kasi kapag ako? Kaya kong kalimutan utang mo pero never kanang makakatikim ng tulong galing sakin! No way! Sana sa susunod sis wag kana magpakampante, kahit friends payan di yan ang taman, mga walang hiya sila hahahah
*Wala na talagang susunod sis, maliit nga lang na halaga, hindi nila kayang bayaran how much more kung malaki na kaya pag pera na ang pag uusapan, wala na silang makukuha sa akin ngayon. Kahit di man sila magbayad ngayon, at least nalaman ko na yung totoong ugali nila kung pera ang pag uusapan.* *Haha, natawa ako sa last comment mo sis*
Hahhaha dapat lang sis dahil yan ang totoo. I will make content with this heheh
*Ay sige sis, pagbuhat na kay akong basahon*
Ay naa juy ing ana sis oy ,paita nalang jid .Friend bitaw sa ako bana mag 1year na karong january pohon ,3k to kay nalooy lage ako bana ,hangtod ron wa pa ningbayad ,ingon sa ktapusan daghan ng katapusan minglabay wapa jud tawn ,basin katapusan sa kalibutan🤣 bitaw oy ambot asa na kha to siya.
*Haha, daghan ra ba jud ng katapusan sis, kana ganing ugma daghan pud, mao di na jud ko maglaum nga magbayad pa to sila.*
Mao jud sis ,deretsohon nalang unta nang unsang katapusana ,katapusan bas kalibutan🤣
*Ahaha paita bitaw anang katapusan na word oi, maglibog man sad to unsa jud ila gi mean ana😅*
Grabe naman po, dapat in the first place kinausap ka po nila in a nice way hindi yung iiwasan ka pa po nila. Ang hirap po talaga kitain ng pera ngayon kaya kahit maliit na halaga, Malaki na po para sa atin. But good thing na rin po na nakilala nyo na po kung ano yung totoong ugali Nila🤧
*Yes mahirap talaga pero may mga tao talagang hindi marunong magtanda ng mga obligasyon nila or yung iba hindi responsable sa mga bagay na nahiram. Pero ok na lng yun at least nalaman ko kung sino at ano yung ugali nila.*
Pag fake friends talaga hindi marunong mahiya. They will only take advantage of what you have. Kaya dapat di tayo basta basta magtitiwala. 😔
*Kaya nga lesson learned na yun, hindi na sila makakaulit pa*
I almost fought with mine some years ago but I was careful so I don't ruin our 7+ years of friendship. She later paid it even after avoiding me for days. This is why I don't borrow anyone Money. What I do is to only give out what I can easily forget and not expect again. Even if they bring it back, collect it but do not let your mind be there. Give what you can afford to lose.
*Yes, today we don't ask them to pay for it, if they will pay then we are thankful but if not then its okay. What is important is that I learned from it and I know if they are true to me or not.*
When lending out money was Just like risking our tokens to crypto world, invest what you afford to lose. Hehe another thing to learn from the crypto verse sis😅
*Thats true sis, kung Hindi binayaran yung utang parang same lang yan sa mga tokens na maganda sa presale pero pagkatapos waley lang pala*
Haha, hamo n sila good karma for you sa kanila si bad.
We should kind to others but at the same time we need to think at least twice before spreading our kindnesses to someone. Whatever happens is for the better, the lessons you learned from them it will help you from being cheated again in the future. Do not worry and just forget about their behaviour. Do not ruin your peace of mind because of some ungrateful people.
*Yes, that's what should be done. Forget all those to have peace of mind. I am just thankful that at the early stage of our friendship, I already know who they really are when money is involved.*
I think we should not involve money in friends. Because you are right, money makes your friends enemy. After all, everyone needs money nowadays just for living a luxurious life. You should avoid those friends who are with you just because when they need help.
*Yes, the least we can do is to avoid those friends who only stick to us when they want something.* *Thank you mate!*
Ay grabe sila sis, para sa maliit na halaga mas pinili nila ang friendship over. Naku sakin naman kamag anak, nakakaloka, I don’t want to elaborate further pero pag pera talaga ang involved nag iiba ugali ng tao
*Ay true sis, pag may kailangan ang babait pero pag wala naku, kabaliktaran yung pinapakita*
Kaya nga eh, kaya minsan wag na lang magpautang at least friend pa din kayo, ay ewan pag di mo din pinautang aawayin ka din
*Yes Friend pa din kami pero yung trust nabawasan na. Kailangang maging wais din kasi kung hindi, ako yung kawawa sa susunod*
Malooy nalang ko mag huna-huna sa mga ingana nga taw sis, may lang sila magpakiluoy ug mag kinahanglan pero ig sukton na nimu sila pay masuko .hays sakit sa bangs😂
*Ay na mao man sis oi, kung naay kinahanglan hastang luoya sa mga dagway pero pag paninglon na sa utang, kabaliktaran na tawn. Hahay buhay, ahaha*
Naa gyuy ingon anah nga tao bah,, walai utang kabubut on,, dli angai pasanayon
*Haha niya saon man sis nga nisanay man hinuon, mas nidaghan man sila*
Sometimes money allow us to make friends and also allow us to lose friends. But that doesn't deny us the fact that we should help others when they are in need
*Yes we need to help others who are in need but we should Also put limitations on it so that we don't be taken for granted.*
People are terrible when it comes to paying back the debt they owe.. It has been said, don't lend money to friends
In my case ate, Mama at Papa ko lang yung pinapautang ko pero alam kong di na babalik. Ginagawa ko na lang pampalubag loob yung pagpapalaki nila sa akin even need ko po yon eh. Nakakasama lang ng loob. hehe kasi sasabihan kang madamot even nagbibigay ka naman ng kusa. Nakakasama lang ng loob since they already borrowed an estimated of Php. 20k on me, at may sama ng loob pa yon. Ni minsan nga, hindi man lang ako mabilhan ng gamit na para sa akin hayst na gusto. Lahat ng binibigay nila, parang gusto nila lagi may bayad hayst. Pag pappaalahanan ko, sila pa galit hayst. Understand at tUlonG na lang ang pampalubag loob ko haha. Ilang beses na akong na-scam ng sarili kong kadugo haha :))))). Instead na isipin ko yon, iniintindi ko na lang sila kahit halos wala nang natitira sa akin eh hehe
*Dba nag-aaral ka pa? Ano pala work ng mama at papa mo? Kung tutuusin, hindi mo naman obligado magbigay sa kanila, kasi yung pagpapalaki sa iyo ay isa yun sa tungkulin ng mga magulang. Hindi naman investment yang anak na dapat paglaki, obigadong magbigay. Dapat nga sila pa yung magmotivate sa iyo na mag ipon para sa future mo eh* *Kasi sa akin na part, kung lumaki na tong mga anak ko mas mabuti yung perang kikitain nila is isaving nalang para sa future nila. Hanggat kaya kong magtrabaho, magtrabaho ako kasi ayoko kong maging pabigat sa kanila.*
Need lang naman po talaga pero ang sakit lang isipin hehe though alam ko na mukhang sapilitan kasi kinokonsensya ako. Alam mo ate yung di ka obligadong magbigay pero dahil pinapamukha ka nila na wala kang silbi, no choice ka. Kapag bumalik papa ko na wala yung motor na sinasabi niya, di ko talaga ate papansinin yon hehe. Hindi ko alam kung saan niya pupulutin yung hiya, Hangga't maaari, I'm keeping my earnings silent from now on. Ayaw ko lang kasing mastress ng todo kaya binigay ko na hehe. Peer pressure kubmaga. Dami kong iniisip tungkol sa studies ko recently hehe, ayaw ko lang may madagdag pa.
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