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Spending Between Our Needs And Wants Blog #222 April 19, 2022 Spending between our needs and wants was sometimes a struggle for me as a mom. When I go out to buy things that are needed at home I made sure that I already knew what I really wanted to buy or there were times that I already calculated how much I need to spend on those particular items that I needed to buy. But sometimes, I can't stick to the list especially when I have kids with me. **Do you know why?** It's because there were times that I felt pity seeing them looking at other kids or people who are eating and I know deep inside they wanted to have something to eat too. I was been a child before who envied others who had food to eat while their mothers or parents are doing groceries but since we didn't have much money before, those envies were just kept inside me. That's why today, as long as I have extra money, I had to buy food for my kids even if they have to share it. My kids are not like those others who throw tantrums when they didn't get what they want. Even those smallest things that they receive, they are happy with it already and when it comes to food, even if they only have small shares of it, they are contented and thankful that I bought it for them. I'm thankful that they also can understand if there were times that I can't buy anything for them especially when I'm on a tight budget. Last Sunday, as we went out because I need to let my kids have their names tags to be printed, Adam kept on pointing to the ice cream shop. I told him that we didn't need to buy it but he kept on touching me until I would give in to his request. Seems he craves ice cream because even if I rejected him many times with his request, he was still very persistent in persuading me until I said yes.
After how many times of telling me about his request, I finally said yes. Upon hearing the word YES, he smiled so widely and I can see in his eyes that he was happy. When we went home, his siblings were shouting Yeheey after seeing the box of ice cream. Seeing my kids happy made me so happy too.
**Name Tag Story** Last school year when a pandemic hadn't started yet and the twins were in kindergarten, their teacher requested us to have name tags for our kids. During that time, I was tight on a budget that's why I only made their name tags and they were the only two whose name tags are written while the others were all printed. So when the face-to-face had started last Sunday, I asked the twins if their classmates are having name tags too because I wasn't informed by their teacher, only the Kindergarten teacher had told me to have a name tag for Adam. When the twins said that their classmates are having it, I decided to have their name tags printed not because I'm lazy to write their names but because I want to let them experience having what their classmates had because wearing name tags doesn't happen every year. When they reach higher grades they won't be needed to have those already so by this time that they are still required to wear them, then I will make them wear name tags that are printed. After the owner of that school supplies store handed us the laminated name tag, Xander was emotional. I knew he had been longing to wear it but he just didn't tell me.
.Look, how happy they are wearing it. They were too excited to wear it. Do you know what amused me most? At night after having their names printed, Xander and Adam wore their name tag even if they were sleeping. That scene when I woke up seeing them having their name tags while sleeping melted my heart. It made me emotional because their actions said it all. I know that they were really happy. Since the pandemic, most of the time my kids are just here at home so I didn't buy new clothes for them because I think that they didn't need to have those since they aren't going out but when I was able to go out to run some errands, I happened to pass by the area where there are lots of Ukay-ukay sold that only cost 10 pesos or $0.19. I was thinking to buy one pair of pajamas and long sleeve shirts for each one of them. My purpose for buying it is to let them have new clothes to wear even if they are at home. I also want to see them happy wearing all those. When I went home and distribute those new sets of clothes to them, the happiness that I can see on their faces was very priceless. I only bought them new clothes once in a blue moon that's why they really are happy having those. Closing thoughts **Those things might not be our needs at that moment but only wants but I realize that it's also important to grant kids' requests sometimes or let them experience some things that I hadn't experienced before when I was a kid to let them enjoy and be happy as a kid. Letting them experience having the food that they want to eat or other things that they could enjoy like toys are already a big thing to them. It could make them feel blessed and loved by their parents.** *****Thank you so much to my dear sponsors who stay with me up to this moment. Thanks for your support and trust. I prayed and hope that God will bless you more.***** https://read.cash/@BCH_LOVER/i-wish-i-had-known-cryptocurrency-a-long-time-ago-421728d5#thank-you-so-much-to-my-dear-sponsors-who-stay-with-me-up-to-this-moment-thanks-for-your-support-an *****To those who take time to read my articles, leave an upvote, comments, and likes on my published articles, a million thanks to all of you.***** https://read.cash/@BCH_LOVER/i-wish-i-had-known-cryptocurrency-a-long-time-ago-421728d5#to-those-who-take-time-to-read-my-articles-leave-an-upvote-comments-and-likes-on-my-published-art
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As a middle class girl I know that our life is rotating b/w needs and wants. But parents always try their best to fulfill their children wishes many blessings come to you and you fulfill your children every wish and needs😘
*We parents really tried our best to give what's best for our kids that's why when I have extra budget, i have to give what they really needs and so too with what they really want...Thank you so much*
I also feel the same happiness on their faced in the picture. Keep it up dear you struggle a lot to make your children life better
*They really are happy in that picture and everytime i saw it, it makes me emotional.. Thanks a lot dear*
Tawn pod. Bisan unsa ka tight ang budget, mangita jod paagi ang mga nanay para ma provide ang wants sa mga bata. Mangutang oa gani ang uban.
*Tinuod jud na sis. Bisan sa kalisod, Mangita jud ug way para lang mahatag ang gusto sa bata pero with limitations lang jud. Kung walay mahatag pasabton ang mga bata, kung naa saka pa pud ihatag.*
Mkahilak mn sd ta ug thumbtacks sis ui hehehe. Bitaw sd matouched mn sd ta name tags ky geubn jud nila sis pgtulog. Ubn bata jud nho pg di matuman ang gusto mgwild, ginoo ko maulawan mn sd ta sa dalan hehehe. May gni imo mga anak sis ky simply ra jud ug mga gusto.
*Gani sis, makahilak jud Gani ko maghuna-huna ato na time nga nag name tag natulog. Kana reaction ni Xander nga pagdawat namo sa ila nametag, murag gikilig bataa lagi.. Ako man sila gi ingnan sis kung unsay mahatag or ma afford Kana lang jud, di na mamugos kay di jud ko ganahan anang mag wild. Pastilan, maka hinumdom jud ko sa amo silingan sauna nga kung di mapalitan sa gusto, mag wild dayon anang kalsada. Makaulaw kaayo*
Tawon sd c Adam hehehe. Lipay kaau sila sis nho. Mubo ra jud sila ug kalipay sa pgakakaron. Sus sis wa jud ko muagi ka cj anang mgwild wild pg di mapalitan sa gusto ky muana mn ko daan nga wa tay dakong budget ana ky tuition pa lng nimo hasta ng mahala. Mao pilion nya sis kdtong 20php lng nga duwaan twn.
*Maayo kay kabalo sad Tawn musabot si CJ sis no? Sa kadto Iya panahuna, nindot naman sad ang 20 pesos nga duwaan diba?..Lipay jud Tawn sis. Gagmay ra kaayo ug kalipay Ning mga bataa*
Uo sis mao pasalamat ko ni cj nga maski the only one ra na sya for few years pero di jud demanding same sa ubn. Pasabton lng jud ang bta para sd mkasabot ug dli e tolerate. Nindot mn nuon sis ang 20 sauna ky dugy sd maguba.
*Mao jud sis, kanang pasabton ang bata ang kinahanglan jud. Pwede ra man ihatag ang gusto pero not all the time. Naa pud siya'y limitations dapat ..Mao Lage sis, ang 20 sauna nindot niya dugay maguba*
Mas kinahanglan bya nato Ang daily meals sa balay sis ug needs sa mga bta so mao jud unahon diba. Pg naa sobra ayha pa sd palit. Lahi ra mga duwaan sauna sis ky leg on bhla barato.
I really admire twins sis. Ang bihira magkatwins tapos boy and girl pa. May lahi po ba kayong twins?
*Wala sis, yung sa papa ba side nila ang May twins na girl and boy din*
I like the names of your kids sis. Tawon pud. Super happy jud siguro sila nga nakaprint and laminated najud ilang name tag sis. Dili na sila masuya sa ilang mga classmates. Mga buotan buyag imong mga anak sis. Kamao na sad sila makontento. You're so blessed to have them and of course, they are also blessed to have you as their mother.
*Oo sis, super happy jud sila kay imagine bisan sa pagtulog Naka name tag Tawn. Makahilak lagi ko mag Tan aw..Thankful kaayo ko ani mga bataa kay kabalo ra sad sila musabot sa sitwasyon. Kung unsay naa, Dawat lang pud sila nga walay reklamo*
You taught them well sis.
*Thanks sis...kinahanglan tudluan jud pag ayo sis kay di jud mi kwartahan*
Teary eyed ako ate while reading this,I admire your children po kase they know how to appreciate your efforts for them and apaka simple lang po nila.
*Simple lang talaga sila bhe kung ano lang ang meron, kuntento na sila at marunong din silang umintindi*
Sis grabe. Napaka emotional ko habang binabasa to. Sobrang bait ng mga kids mo sis. Nagmana talaga sila sayo sis kasi super bait mo sis. Yung uuwi ka sis tas may dala kang ice cream sobrang happy nila. Parang ang saya ko. Naiimagine ko yung happiness ng mga kids mo sis. Marami pang blessings na dadating sayo sis.
*Maraming salamAt sis...Ganyan yung mga bata sis kapag galing ako sa labas para mamalengke, naghihintay yan sila sa May pintuan tapos nag aabang kung May dala akong pagkain, kahit yung simpleng tinapay ug kahit saging lang yung dala ko, tuwang-tuwa yan sila*
A person has to face alot of difficulties in his life to become a successful person
Those smiles says it all ;).
*True sis, their actions and their face expressions says it all*
My dear friend, I was very emotional while reading your article. How beautiful it is that you, as a mother, try to provide your children with what you didn't experience as a child. You are a very kind and compassionate mother, and how great it is that your children are grateful, and understand your situation so well. Such a mother is certainly raises children with this wisdom and knowledge. Children are like angels, and their feelings are really pure and beautiful...
*When i become a mother my friend, one thing that I said to myself is to never let my kids experience what i have been through before that's why I always tried my best to give what i think is good for them. I may not be a perfect mother for my kids but I'll made sure to always do my best for them...Thank you so much my friend. Your words put smiles to my face today*
it is difficult to avoid sometimes needs must be met so that the completeness of life can always be fulfilled but compulsion becomes a challenge when seeing a child's desire becomes a burden if it is not fulfilled. try to always teach children and talk to them about the real existence of the family maybe the child can understand but also with love.
*My kids are very understanding. There are times that I told them that i can't buy things or foods for them coz I'm budgeting well the money and they understand it and are contented on what we will give to them*
Needs first before our wants. Savings are important nowadays. It is important to have extra money for the unforseen things that might happen.
*It's true, it's needed to have savings for future emergencies.*
The needs and wants are very necessary in a family. In a case where the Needs of the family are met, the wants should also be handled occasionally. Nothing is sweeter than seeing those epic smiles on the face of your kids. God bless you for all you do for the family
*Right, the needs and wants are necessary. I always made sure to buy first the needs of my family and just buy those things that I want for my kids. But the wants of the kids are not granted always, I always made sure to put limitations to it...Thank you so much*
It's very clear by their look that they're very excited wearing that. It's good you prioritized your actions and spending to put smile on your children faces. What a joy!
*It's really a great joy seeing their reactions. I'm always happy to see those faces with smiles always*
Things aren't really easy, but it is good to see you're doing the best you can for your kids. I commend your efforts, Also, it is good to see they are contented and appreciate your efforts too. Well done!
*Yeah, things aren't easy as a mom who struggles between the needs and wants of my children but I'm thankful that whatever I can give to them, they are happy with it already. They also can understand if our situations always*
Some children are so understanding. They get and understand their environmental easily. That is depends on training for their parents. I ma proud of you. That you control your children from now otherwise like my sister children h omg always comes with news demands 😅.
*It's okay to grant kids' wants but we must put limitations to it. I really don't like to see kids always demanding about this or that and if they aren't given the things that they want they would start to have tantrums, that's why as much as possible i need to let them understand every situations because not all the time, i can't afford giving them what they want*
Iba talaga pag nanay sis Noh? Mabigay lang natin kahit Minsan mga wants NILA talagang Masaya na Tayo kahit NGA Wala Tayo nun Basta Meron sila masayang Masaya na puso natin..
*Oo sis, yung mas importante sa akin ngayon ang yung kaligayahan ng mga bata kaysa akin. Makita ko silang masaya, masaya na din ako*
Yes, you should give free hands to your children but limited way. I really appreciate your efforts for your children. May God bless them and make them a success full person.
*Yeah, i put limitations when it comes to their wants and they understand it..Thank you*
Hmm that’s like a good mom 😅😉
That was heartfelt indeed. One of the most beautiful things in life are those priceless ones like that. Cute kay silag mga names tee.
*Hehehe, thank you. Mga letter A ang ilang initials*
You're welcomee.♥️
It's alright to let the kids have what they want as long as it was being limited. And you are such a good mother even though you can't provide a printed name tag before to your children because of having a tight budget but you let them have it when you have a extra budget for it.
Happy na Ang kids. Ganyang din ako sa mga anak ko sis even Hindi kailangan Basta may extra akong money binibigay ko sa mga anak ko. Kasi Hindi ko nga naranasan noon kaya bakit ko pa ipaparanas sa mga anak ko Yung naramdaman ko noon Diba.
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