Am I A Bridge?

I have been stressed these past two days about the issue with my replacement. After 2 days, a day of observing, and a day in training, she said that she wanted to quit already and transfer to another employer. Her reasons were that she is not used to waking up early, she was afraid of our Boss' loud voice, and she can't memorize her loads of work because she is forgetful. Those reasons were too shallow and unbelievable. We don't believe that it was the real reason behind it.

Before she flew here, I already explained the system here to her clearly. I told her what is the attitude of the boss, the salary, the loads of work, and the day off. Her ticket and travel allowance were even covered by the boss and she was even fetched in a good car when she arrived at the airport. She has good sleeping quarters here, free commodities for sanitation, unlimited foods and beverages, and an internet connection since we do have a good WiFi signal here.

Her loads of work are very simple and the boss doesn't even get angry with her nor reprimand her. The boss just has a naturally loud voice that sounds like she is angry but in reality, she isn't. We did our best in explaining that to her and the boss is really a good person. We told her why not give it another shot and observe for more days. It seems that we can never twist her decision anymore.

We gave it up, then. We asked her where would she go next if she leaves here now. She said that she would transfer to her Aunt's Restaurant Manager's custody in the next City. We thought that maybe she wanted to be a waitress than a Personal Assistant here, but I'm surprised to know that she would be a nanny to that Manager's 2 years old kid. I may remain calm at that time but I'm already laughing so hard inside.

Her work here is simple and she doesn't have any work to do anymore in the afternoon which means she has more time to rest and for herself, then she just has to wait for the Boss to clock off and assist her home. After that, she would also clock off. Despite that, she still chose her Aunt's offer and leave here to be a nanny.

She never thought it through to what would be her situation there. She maybe thinks that being a nanny is easy since she is fond of taking care of her nephews sometimes in the province. However, that wouldn't be the case anymore when it is full-time work. I advised her that it would be like hell. As a mother, myself, I experienced that firsthand and I'm telling her already that she can't have a proper rest there and she can never have complete sleeping hours there.

Taking care of a child isn't easy as her job here. You have to take your time and have long patience in dealing with them. You shouldn't be irritated if they play while eating and you can only eat if the kid finished eating. You have to watch over them every time they play. They would even play at night if they still feel that they are energetic and as a nanny, you have to be there at their side all the time when they are awake.

It's only nice if the child is behaving but if the child often cries and has tantrums, that would be like hell. But of course, even if you want to raise your voice to discipline them, you can't do that since the mother wouldn't allow it. If something happens to the child and affects their health, you'll mostly be the one to be blamed since you are the one who is watching over them. Also, it's tiring since 2 years old kids often want to be carried and cuddled.

Well, there's really nothing I can do anymore if that's what she wants. It's her decision, not mine. The most important thing is that we don't lack in advising her. We didn't do anything to harm her here for her to be that traumatized (as if). Our conscience is clear. It's up to her already to how she will survive her stay her Manila.

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I haven't written anything for 2 days because of this. I'm so stressed in dealing with her. She left me hanging her and got myself embarrassed here to my boss. She didn't even say "Sorry" for what she did and the inconvenience that it had brought to us all. She also didn't even say "Thank you" to me here for helping her to come here to Manila. I'm still thankful that I have known this much earlier, at least I know their real personalities now. They just used me as a bridge to get here and composed a plan to leave immediately. I was irritated with what she did and her not-so-good manners, so I didn't allow her to leave without paying all of those expenses that Madam have spent for her. Her Aunt paid for it when she fetch her here, then they left.

It's a lesson learned to me now. I shouldn't have trusted people easily even if they are my relatives. Sometimes other people are much better than your relatives, who are not even blood-related to you.

That's all for my rant as a comeback. Thanks to those who take the time to read this.

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