Going out and partying with friends are what teenagers or youths are commonly up to.
But, I am not basically like them, because aside from I am not fond of going out in a crowd, my parents are so strict to let me hangout with random guys.
As I am having my class earlier, my messenger app kept on popping notifications in my phone, and messages flooded our specific chat room. Honestly, I was distracted with the incoming messages, but I am also curious about what could be the topic of my former classmates to send bunch of messages like that. As I open our chat room, I got to back read all the messages which made me further concluded that they are planning to have a friendly outing particularly in a resort.Ā
They are specifically planning to have a night swimming which will be held in a resort located in other city and is scheduled next month, during weekdays. As Iāve read all of these, I immediately decided not to go out with them considering the factors that I think would hinder me to do that.
These are:
1. My parents are so strict to let me go out alone at night
Sometimes, even if itās day time, my parentsā canāt easily give me permission unless my reason for going out is valid. What more if itās night time? I understand them for being like that as itās really not that very safe outside considering the pandemic that is still ongoing, and also, they donāt want me to be in danger as some people nowadays are unethically doing something even if they know that they would end up in jail, and that commonly happens at night, when everyoneās silent.
Aside from that, my parents donāt want me to be the topic of gossipers here in our place. When our neighbors saw me going out at night, they will eventually conclude and spread the news about me, going out to meet my imaginary boyfriend and end up being pregnant at this age. Yes, they sound horrible. Thatās the truth about them. HAHAHA
2. I have my online class during weekdays
Being in college is so tough and I canāt just disregard my daily class just for the sake of having fun. To be honest, weāre just in prelim period, but I am already stress with reports, activities and continuous classes. Yes, having fun for quite some time will somehow help me relieve my negative feelings, but having fun while having my studies to be compromised is something that I donāt want to happen.
On that note, since the schedule of that outing is on weekdays, I have no time and interest to go with them. Some might say, āit will happen at night, your online class wonāt be compromised?ā, hey, I have to do my reports and activities at night for me to be ready on my next online class in the day time. I donāt want to disappoint myself and anyone if I got failing grades in the finals.
3. I donāt personally know those former classmates of mine
The former classmates that Iām talking about here are my classmates when I was in first year college. They are supposed to be my classmates again this 2nd year, but they transferred in another school due to some reasons which are mostly related to financial aspect. I am studying in a private institution and the tuition fee is quite high thatās why these classmates of mine decided to transfer in a state university offering free education.Ā
Since we spent our first year in college with distant or online learning, we never had the chance to get to know each other personally. Yes, I got to meet some of them in few instances, but I am not pretty sure about their real attitude and personality, thatās why I am quite hesitant to go out with them especially at night.
CLOSING THOUGHTS
Anyway, itās not that I am killjoy upon othersā happiness, itās just that I am really not the type of person who is always on the go, and can go out whenever others asked me to. We have different personalities and state of life. Others donāt have strict parents that will hinder them with whatever they want to do. However, there are these people like me who canāt just go outside because their parents donāt permit them to do so. Regardless of age, young or not, asking permission to our parents is not a sign of being dependent, itās a sign of respect wherein they are the highest authority at home and they are the ones who are taking care and protecting us at home.
But, it all depend on the nature of children. If they are the type of person who never asked their parents about his matter, I also respect them.Ā
I am just stating all of these to emphasize the differences we have, and that no one deserves to be called as killjoy just because he/she donāt want something that anyone elseās are fond to do.
Author's Note:
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Date Published: January 29, 2022
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Growing up in a conservative family is difficult but it has its advantage too. Just take your time and enjoy life.