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What makes argument worse?
Disagreements occur when two parties disagree on a topic; most arguments are the result of minor misunderstandings between two persons. Let's take a look at what can make argument worse; Using the other person's past against them. Using generalized words e.g always,never. Using silent treatment or guilt tripping. Focusing on unrelated issues and comparing. Using the person's insecurities against them. **1.Using the other person's past against them**; When two individuals have a minor misunderstanding, they frequently use each other's past against one other, which is not appropriate; such friendships will lose trust if you both bring up your past to settle a quarrel. **2.Using generalized words e.g Always,never**; These two words (always,never) have a lot of power. As we all know, the words we speak have a lot of power, so we need to be careful what we say during misunderstandings and in life in general. **3.Using silent treatment or guilt tripping**; For those unfamiliar with the term "guilt tripping," it simply refers to the act of making others feel guilty without accepting responsibility for any mistakes you've made. **4.Focusing on unrelated issues and comparing**; Most times during any argument the two parties focus's on unrelated issues which makes arguments grow worse and can't be handled amicably. **5.Using the person's insecurities against them**; During a disagreement, one party may want to use the other's insecurity, which is similar to exploiting someone's weakness. During a battle, which would exacerbate the conflict. Let's look at how to conduct a courteous argument now that we've looked at what might make disputes worse. Listen to the other person without interrupting. Seek to understand and solve,not win or be right. Validate the person feelings and viewpoints. Keep your focus on the subject at hand and employ the I statement. **1.Listen to the other person without interrupting**; During a dispute, we should strive to listen to each other's appeals as much as possible without interrupting each other; there should be space for each other to speak so that the situation can be resolved amicably. **2.Seek to understand and solve,not win or be right**; We must endeavor to understand and resolve misunderstandings inside ourselves in order to resolve them in a courteous manner; we must not strive to win in any dispute, but rather to understand each other and recognize the errors that lead to the misunderstanding. **3.Validate the person feelings and viewpoints**; Examine each other's perspectives and feelings in order to have a calm and amicable disagreement. **4.Keep your focus on the subject at hand and employ the I statement**;In any argument, we should aim to keep our attention on the issues that lead to the disagreement between the two sides and also use the "I" statement to maintain a courteous tone. **In conclusion.** We should not attempt to win in any disagreement, but rather to identify the flaws that led to the misunderstanding and correct them. Disputes can be resolved amicably if we listen to each other's mistakes and give each other the opportunity to express ourselves. Meet my sponsors ❤️. **Cover photo; "****14****" on "****pixabay****" (Modified)** https://pixabay.com/users/ulotkidruk-1016503/ https://pixabay.com/photos/paper-brown-texture-background-1468883/ Thanks for taking your time to read this piece, I appreciate your kind gestures towards me and would try to reciprocate what y'all have done, thanks for coming by and have a wonderful week ahead.🥰❤️
21 comments
That's right, most people we call friends are just waiting for a little misunderstanding between us so they can spill out our insecurities to everyone around.
That is why we must be cautious about disclosing our flaws to others, as they may use it against us.
Argument may occur when there's a misunderstanding between two parties. Yes that's true my friend, it may becomes worst if there's also comparison happens. It's not really good to compare one thing/person to another. It creates chaos and conflict.
You are right, it makes the situation worse than the start when they start comparing their past to the present situation without finding out the errors which led to the argument.
This is so true. When I argue with my husband, I hate the most when he mentions situations from the past and uses them against me, linking them to the current topic of arguing. Comparing situations, he goes into some topics that go far from the focus of the argument. 😊
Sorry to hear that, hoping he changes and listen to your pleas without comparing your past to the present argument.
That's pretty right, sometimes people tend to bring the mistakes that we did to our past and they will not listen to our explanation to the point that they will compare us to others
You are right, whenever there's a little misunderstanding they tend to bring our past mistakes just to win over the dispute.
Another spot on article. Yes, most people generalize because they would rather be right than wrong. They make others feel guilty so they can get a free pass not to face the consequences of their part in the arguement.
You are right, most people tend to make others feel guilty when they claim to be right in any argument.
Exactly. It's the human way.
Disagreements can drive to both persons to a worst situation that is why people who avoid this situation .
You are right; dispute can lead to a bad condition in a friendship; all we need to do is learn to have courteous debates.
Korek, we must avoid that. It can broke frinedship
The main point is that, we should know how to listen and lower our pride in times like this.
You are right; we should pay attention to other people's mistakes that led to the misunderstanding.
Communication is the key. Instead of raising voices and trying to make a point, calm down and talk it out. Disputes happen, we are humans after all. But the way we react and handle them shows how much we value peace.
Disagreement can create bad impect in any bonding.
I think no argument is worth having If in the end both parties are not willing to arrive at conclusion and let things be.
I seriously hate that number 3 eh, it simply shows the person isn't matured. A matured person will communicate and own up to their mistakes, silent treatment na nonsense abeg
Well written. All of the points are very important.