The Best Approach is Often a Friendly One

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In the last decade, I have developed a hobby of observing human behaviour, and I daresay that it is has been fun observing people. For one, it gives insights on what is socially acceptable, and the new trends. Of course you'll come to find that individual behaviour vary from one person to another, and although there might be some similarities among individuals. In my many years of observing people, something I would say is a constant, and everybody has a soft heart for is FRIENDLINESS. People rarely find a friendly face repulsive, and even if they do, they usually pretend otherwise for as long as needed. This though is not ALWAYS the case. A friendly face is always welcome, and people usually find themselves drawn to friendly people.

A couple of days ago, I was observing my cousin and her home tutor, and his method of teaching was particularly the reason I am writing this article. There was a sense of cordiality between them, like they had known each other for long. As a student, we are usually better at subjects whose teacher is friendly and jovial, as compared to teachers who are usually stern and strict. That is not to say jovial teachers are not strict and disciplinarians, but you would agree with me that the best of teachers are often those who find the balance between being friendly and strict.

I remember reading an article by Β @Lucifer01 , where he talked about the approach he has adopted to teach his students, and how he has become good friends with them and also, making himself accessible whenever they need his help. I could relate to everything, as I have been a student, been a teacher, and still am a student. As a student, I find it is easier to understand what the friendly teacher teaches, as compared to an unfriendly lecturer.

Years ago, as a teacher, I had the erroneous opinion that being mean and stern was the best my to handle my pupils, I was wrong, as I noticed they became recluse and less open, even to the level that when they have questions or are unclear about anything, they are too afraid to ask. This reflected in their grades, and I felt I had failed as a teacher, thus, I had to change my approach and do better. I became more open and friendly towards them. This, I believe led to a significant change in fortunes, as their grades became better.

For most of last year, my classmates and I were involved in a lot of practicals and experiments relating to our field of study. This led to a lot of groupings and of course, squabbles and quarrels. One thing all of the tiffs taught me was that 'anger sharpeneth anger'. Why do I say this? A lot of the quarrels and squabbles could have been avoided if only a friendlier approach has been adopted. If I address a group of people with an angry or disrespectful tone, if not all, at least someone in the group would pick offense and may want to refute any suggestion or opinion I may have, just because of my approach. I have also observe a group of people support an idea -even though it is not ideal- simply because the other better idea didn't come through a friendly approach.

In conclusion, perhaps we would achieve more of our objective and goals if we tried a friendly approach. I am not say it is the master key to unlocking anything you want, as sometimes you need to use a fierce and strong approach. I am merely saying that if you've tried fierce and it isn't working out well, you can also try the friendly approach to see how it works out too.

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I can relate to this. No wonder most of my scholars then, when I was still in the teaching game; liked and loved me so much. It was kind of hard for them to get used to another teacher. I would play with them, take selfies with them, mimic how they usually cry... And it really worked. Being strict and mean would only make the victim afraid and less open. That's what our parents fail to understand. Thanks for sharing this knowledge.

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Thank you for your input, and I am glad you agree too. And have seen the results of a friendly approach

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Half of the world's issues would be solved if the people at conflicts just sit and talk..

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I agree, a parley will solve many problems before it gets too far

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"you get more flies with honey than with vinegar". A lot of world issues could have been avoided if approached with a friendly demeanor, but instead we have people trying to show how rude they can be and sees it as a competition

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🌝🌝 well, I agree with you

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🌝🌝 well, I agree with you

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Students always prefer a friendly teacher who will allow them to open up to him, it is good that you are trying to change your way for the better

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Thank you Lara. πŸ€—

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As usual, I agree with you. " The psychological approach is always better than violence". Being kind and friendly apart from the third best approach also involve less mental stress than anger which could only spoil things. About friends and classmates, there are some people whose duty is just to oppose you or make you angry 🀦. About mean teachers, I never get to fully understand their lessons as I was afraid of asking questions because they might scream or reply in a harsh tone which could be very embarrassing. I only cram what I can cram and forget about the rest

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🀣🀣🀣 Classic do what you can and leave the rest to God

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I prefer teachers who make learning fun but also a strict one in a sense. BalanceπŸ™‚

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That's the kind of teacher I prefer too. Thanks for coming by Bloghound

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I can't even remember liking any tiger teachers I had, at all. Students tend to see if their teachers' attitude corresponds to their intelligence. And if not, they would think that this unfriendliness they're trying to show is just a mask to cover their insecurities as educators.

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I agree, that is another angle students view it from. I am guilty of it as a student too

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Thanks dear. I always respect the special bond between student and teacher. That's the beautiful one.

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I agree, thank you dear Devil πŸ€—

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Very interesting your point of view on how to approach students in class, especially in the friendly approach. I believe as an educator that we should always know how to empathize with the students. I worked for many years in special education and then at the level of pedagogical reinforcement in learning difficulties and the last years in the andragogic modality with university students and I never stopped being friendly when the moment required it and of strong and strict character when the moment deserved it. Interesting your thoughts, lots to discuss.

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Thank you very much. And true, lots to discuss. And I am particularly looking forward to hearing your insights on special education. Perhaps you could write an article on that. I remember having a student once who had learning disabilities. Problem was she was in a class with people who doesn't share her special needs, so it sort of required doing extra work as she wasn't even learning what they were learning. It was difficult at that time, and I was particularly unhappy and uncomfortable with the situation as I felt she was being cheated or do I say not given the attention she deserved. Would like to hear more from you, and thank you for stopping by

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When a special education specialist goes into a classroom to integrate a student, he or she must first have a conversation with the rest of the group and with the classroom teacher (without the special student present) to make him or her aware of the student's cognitive, motor, visual, or hearing condition. Orient the group to the need to integrate the student and empathize with the student. Provide guidance and follow up with the classroom teacher. Always work as a team, including with parents. It is an arduous work but of many gratifications especially for the integration of all in the classroom towards the special student.

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I agree. Your input was helpful, thank you so much

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I think there is a time and place for everything and sometimes a teacher may need to be stern, however, I agree with you that teachers should first strive to be kind and friendly first or rather, as you said, strike a balance. Sometimes a learner might be scared or insecure and if the teacher's first response is to be stern all the time, it could be a deterrent. The same thing applies in all aspects of life.

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Well delivered! I agree that it applies to life in general

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