If I Was A Girl part 2

This is the continuation of my last article, you can read it using the link below:

https://read.cash/@Aimure/if-i-was-a-girl-part-1-ae5505e8

Without further, delay...

Will be Independent

Well, I particularly have a soft spot for females who strive to be independent. There is a social construct that men should be the one to provide for the family, and while it is something many people do not ascribe to, it is still a common 'culture' of the society. I am usually perplexed when girls who don't have money say they can only be in a relationship with guys who have money. Usually, when girls say that to me, I usually ask them if they have money? And if they say YES, I ask them why they need a man's money. If they answer NO, I ask them why they don't work for their money instead of depending on a man's money. The general question is: isn't that selling yourself to the man?

I had started striving to be independent at quite a young age. This had nothing to do with my gender per se, but on the kind of person I am. If there is something I really do not like doing, it is asking people especially for money. I genuinely usually feel bad when I do so, because I believe me asking them for money is an inconvenience to them financially. That is by the way.

In my society, I have heard guys describe girls as 'leeches' simply because they are materialistic. Sadly, in this case, since the male is the provider of these materials, he has the right to brand the girl he is providing for whatever. I heard a conversation between two people on TV recently about how everything is transactional. Of course, one can use the transactional microscope to view the world and there would be some truth to it. After all, it is a give and take world we live in, you take in oxygen and give out carbondioxide, you give your time and energy, and earn a salary, and so on and so forth. In this particular discussion, they were talking particularly about relationships though. In the example cited above about a relationship between a guy and his materialistic girlfriend whom he provides for, surely there is something she offers him in return for all the materialistic things he provides. Well, this is not the topic for today, so let me not digress.

I personally will not depend on any man for my financial needs if I was a girl, I will strive and work to be independent, work for my own money so I can provide for my own needs. Although, there is generally a notion that ladies who are rich are usually egotistical. I think this narrative is borne of the fact that because independent women don't need men for their money, there are a lot of things they can't tolerate. It is not uncommon to see some girls stuck in an abusive relationship because their partner provides for all their needs. It is sad, but it is true, and common in my society.

Will be Assertive When it Comes to Guys I Like

Hehehe. I had to laugh because this actually a topic I have discussed with many people of the opposite gender, and only less than a handful of girls say their are straightforward when they like a guy. What I mean is that when they really like a guy, they let him know that they like him, irrespective of what the outcome is.

Most girls are not assertive in that regard, especially when they feel the guy doesn't like them as much as they like him. There is a general female consensus that if a girl walks up to a guy to confess how she feels about him, the guy doesn't respect her or take her seriously. Well, I don't know about other guys, but if a girl walks up to me to express herself, my respect for her quadruples, because even though it should be a norm, it takes a lot of courage for a girl to do that. A lot of girls are of the opinion that it should be the guy's job to do the 'chasing/courting' well, I suppose that is another social construct, or maybe it is just natural order of things.

If I was a girl, if I like a guy, I would let him know how I feel about him, that can also serve as a litmus test for me too, as his reaction towards my confession would give me an insight on the kind of person he is, and whether or not he is worth the troubles. LoL.

In conclusion, I am a huge fan of women who know they are above social gender constructs and live their lives to the fullest, and are unapologetic about it too.

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