You Can't Control What Happens To You

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1 year ago
Topics: Control, World, React, Happen, Self

The world is a scary place.

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There's a lot of bad stuff going on in the world, and it can feel like there's nothing we can do about it. We can't control what happens to us, but we CAN control the way we react to it.

When something goes wrong in your life, it's easy to feel like there's nothing you can do about it. Maybe someone has hurt your feelings or done something terrible to you. Maybe your boss told you that they don't think they'll be able to give you a raise this year. Maybe someone just broke up with you.

It's easy to get caught up in a negative spiral of self-loathing when someone says something mean or cruel to you. But it doesn't have to impact your life forever. You're allowed to feel upset, and there are surely better ways to deal with those feelings than by lashing out at others or harming yourself.

We've all been there. And it's hard not to feel like there's nothing we can do about it. But here's the thing: You're wrong! While it might not seem like much, taking steps toward improving your own mental health and well-being will help make sure that when things go wrong in your life, they don't have as much of an impact on you as they used to—and maybe even less than that!

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If you find yourself spiraling downwards into depression or other mental health issues, seek help from a therapist or doctor immediately. If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts and emotions, take some time out for yourself—and remind yourself that this will pass.

No matter what happens in life, no matter how bad things get, there's always a way to look at the situation and find some kind of positive. Sure, sometimes that positive might take a little digging—but it's there!

I’m not saying that finding your silver lining is going to make all of your problems go away. I know that life isn't always easy, and sometimes things really do happen for no reason at all. But I do believe that the way you react to those things is what makes all the difference in how they affect your day-to-day life.

If something bad happens, don't get angry or resentful—instead, think about what lessons you can learn from the experience. You'll be better able to handle future situations if you've learned from past ones. If someone says something mean or rude to you, don't let it get under your skin—instead, think about how they may have had a different upbringing than yours and try not to judge them too harshly for their behavior because of it (unless they're being intentionally hurtful). If you can take a step back and look at things objectively, it will help you deal with whatever is going on in more productive way.

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In Conclusion

You can't control what happens to you in life—and that's okay! You can't control the people around you or how they act toward you, but what matters most is how YOU react to their actions and words. In fact, sometimes the best thing for your mental health is to let things slide off your back and do whatever makes YOU feel better about yourself and more empowered as a person.

When something bad happens, don't get angry or upset with yourself—just take a deep breath and ask yourself: "What can I do about this?" Then do it!

So today's tip: if someone says something mean or rude to you at work today (or even tomorrow), don't let it get under your skin—just take it as an opportunity to practice being kinder than necessary by ignoring their comment completely. You'll be amazed at how much easier it will be for them to stop bothering people like this if they never get any attention or reaction from those they're trying to offend.


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In some cases we can somehow control some things in our life, like for example

  1. Health- If you know that drinking too much alcoholic beverages and smoking si bad to your health then why will you drink or smoke? Right its your choice.

  2. If you know that some people in your place are bad people, gossiper do you want to associate yourself with them? No right?

In this cases we can somehow control the things around us, one thing that we cannot control is the word "fate" but of course your fate is influenced by your decisions in life.

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1 year ago

I agree with you.

I think it's important to remember that our choices have consequences. We can't control everything in life, but we do have a lot of control over what happens to us. A lot of people say they don't believe in fate, but I think that's because they're afraid of being accountable for their actions.

It's hard to know what's going to happen when you make a choice—you just have to figure out your priorities and try your best.

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1 year ago

I love what you said about the fact that we should not let whatever someone else gets under our skin. This has happened to me several times and it refected me a lot so right now I do not like it when what someone say, gets to my head. I can only control my feelings and not what others feel about me

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1 year ago

I'm so glad you agree!

I think that's the most important thing we can take away from all this, is that it's up to us to decide how we feel. Even if our circumstances don't change, we can always choose a different perspective and make the best of things.

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1 year ago

Yeah at the end of the day the only thing we are really in control of is our self and how we feel

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1 year ago

I think you're right. I've been thinking about that a lot lately, and I've come to the conclusion that we don't have much control over anything else. But we can always control how we feel and what we do with our lives!

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1 year ago

100% truth

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