There's a lot of bad stuff going on in the world, and it can feel like there's nothing we can do about it. We can't control what happens to us, but we CAN control the way we react to it.
When something goes wrong in your life, it's easy to feel like there's nothing you can do about it. Maybe someone has hurt your feelings or done something terrible to you. Maybe your boss told you that they don't think they'll be able to give you a raise this year. Maybe someone just broke up with you.
It's easy to get caught up in a negative spiral of self-loathing when someone says something mean or cruel to you. But it doesn't have to impact your life forever. You're allowed to feel upset, and there are surely better ways to deal with those feelings than by lashing out at others or harming yourself.
We've all been there. And it's hard not to feel like there's nothing we can do about it. But here's the thing: You're wrong! While it might not seem like much, taking steps toward improving your own mental health and well-being will help make sure that when things go wrong in your life, they don't have as much of an impact on you as they used to—and maybe even less than that!
If you find yourself spiraling downwards into depression or other mental health issues, seek help from a therapist or doctor immediately. If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts and emotions, take some time out for yourself—and remind yourself that this will pass.
No matter what happens in life, no matter how bad things get, there's always a way to look at the situation and find some kind of positive. Sure, sometimes that positive might take a little digging—but it's there!
I’m not saying that finding your silver lining is going to make all of your problems go away. I know that life isn't always easy, and sometimes things really do happen for no reason at all. But I do believe that the way you react to those things is what makes all the difference in how they affect your day-to-day life.
If something bad happens, don't get angry or resentful—instead, think about what lessons you can learn from the experience. You'll be better able to handle future situations if you've learned from past ones. If someone says something mean or rude to you, don't let it get under your skin—instead, think about how they may have had a different upbringing than yours and try not to judge them too harshly for their behavior because of it (unless they're being intentionally hurtful). If you can take a step back and look at things objectively, it will help you deal with whatever is going on in more productive way.
You can't control what happens to you in life—and that's okay! You can't control the people around you or how they act toward you, but what matters most is how YOU react to their actions and words. In fact, sometimes the best thing for your mental health is to let things slide off your back and do whatever makes YOU feel better about yourself and more empowered as a person.
When something bad happens, don't get angry or upset with yourself—just take a deep breath and ask yourself: "What can I do about this?" Then do it!
So today's tip: if someone says something mean or rude to you at work today (or even tomorrow), don't let it get under your skin—just take it as an opportunity to practice being kinder than necessary by ignoring their comment completely. You'll be amazed at how much easier it will be for them to stop bothering people like this if they never get any attention or reaction from those they're trying to offend.