I Trust People Who Don't Trust Me

I'm not sure what to make of this, but it's a feeling I've never been able to shake. It may be that I've spent too much time around people who are distrustful, and it has colored my view of people who aren't like that. I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing, but I've always been one to trust people when they say they have my best interest at heart.

Or maybe there's something else going on here. Maybe it's just part of the human condition—we have an innate need to feel safe and secure in our relationships, and when those things aren't provided by others, we look elsewhere for them.

One thing is for sure: I have come across some amazing people in my life who have trusted me despite my lack of trust in them. It makes me wonder if there might be some value in letting go of my own prejudices and trying harder to see others through different eyes. You know, I used to be the kind of person who would always trust people, no matter what. I mean, how could you not? People were basically good, right?

The more you put yourself out there, the more people who want to take advantage of you. The more you expose yourself, the more people will realize they can hurt you. It's an inevitable part of life—you just have to deal with it.

I'm not saying that this will happen every time you introduce yourself to someone new, but it's going to happen at some point in your life. You might meet someone who seems trustworthy and reliable, but they're actually a scammer who wants something from you. They might be a friend who wants something from you but acts like they aren't interested in getting anything from you. Or maybe they're an acquaintance who knows about your situation and wants to help—but only if they can get something out of it in return!

The point is: trust is a tricky thing. It's something that's easy to lose, but hard to find again. It's not just about whether or not someone is telling you the truth or not—it also has to do with how much value that person places on their own word versus what they think will benefit them from getting something from another person (like money or favors).

If you're like me, you probably do a lot of things that make it hard for other people to trust you. I mean, I'm not going to lie: I've been a jerk at times—I've been selfish and self-centered and judgmental. And those things can seem like they make it impossible for people to trust me, but I know that's not true.

I'm always working on becoming a better person, and part of that means learning how to be less selfish and judgmental and more open-hearted towards others. It's taken me a while, but now when someone doesn't trust me, I find myself asking myself these questions: What did they think would happen? What did they expect from me? Did they think somehow if they didn't like something about me or my behavior then that would make them feel better about themselves?

I know this because I've been there, and I've lost trust. And I know it's something that can be hard to get back—even when you think you know what happened, or how it went down.

But here's the thing: if you're just starting out on learning or gaining friends or have already been working in yourself for some time, it's not too late to start trusting again.

You might be thinking "but I don't want to trust people who don't trust me." But actually, people who don't trust you are exactly the people who will help you grow—because they'll be willing to show you who they really are rather than hide behind the façade of fake professionalism.

So if someone seems untrustworthy, just remember that there's a chance that person is trying their best to do right by you—and maybe even holding back information about their own skillsets so that they can give them away at a later date rather than keeping them for themselves.