It's very sad that sometimes the people you love and trust become the new ones that turn against you.
Yes, this isn't a new thing, and every day we all have the same or similar experience.
But every time it happens, I always have many questions running through my mind.
Could it be that I wasn't good enough?
Or better still, is it just in their nature not to reciprocate the same amount of love and care showered?
People find it weird when I tell them I don't have A best Friend.
I mean in a world where everyone is surrounded by people they call best friends, I have none?
They are very skeptical about it.
I have friends, but I don't have a best friend.
I don't even have criteria for choosing a best friend.
In all manner of conduct, I believe everyone I call a friend has different kind of roles they play in my life likewise I in their lives.
So I can't place the Best Friend Tag on anyone.
And it's not because none deserve it, just because I don't think it's necessary.
There are times I might expect some manner of treatment or care from the one or people I call best friends simply because of that name tag and it's something I never want to experience. So I can't take the risk.
I have heard stories of best friends who betray each other, fought one another, and do all manner of things to one another.
And then I ask myself, to what extend can I go betraying the person I placed a BEST tag on?
To what degree? I feel terrible when I know I have wronged a person even in the slightest way, the feelings hunt me like hell.
Then how do people go about betraying someone and feeling very relaxed and comfortable with it?
Trust? Secrets?
Please be corrected and be guided. Telling people or someone your secret is not a criterion or a measure of trust.
Some people define Trust wrongly and it's sad how many are ignorant of this fact.
What on earth do you wanna know about a person? That you use trust to threaten them about telling you their secrets if they have any?
When did we start measuring the level of trust in the things people confide in us about?
Many have missed the real logic because they feel or think that telling people the secret things they have done which no other person knows about is trust.
For crying out loud is it only bad things you confide in people about?
Trusting a person means you have confidence in the person and not because you are telling the person your secrets, please be guided.
Trust doesn't flow from the number or amount of secrets you have told someone.
Will You...?
When we hear that question Will You? often our minds have already configured the answer that would be a Yes or No
How many times have we fought the answers our minds signaled and give a questionable reply, which is the Why?
It's not a crime if someone asks you Will you marry me? and your response is Why?
You have every right to that question.
Yes, why should I marry you? Give me reasons why I should do that.
Yes we have been dating and we have been friends but why do you think I should marry you?
You may be blown to know that majority would be dumbfounded.
Likewise, will you be my friend? It should not always be a yes or no thing. Sometimes you gotta ask questions, demand reasons why that thing should be so, or go the way they feel it should be.
It's your right to know before jumping into something you will regret later.
To round this article up, please make use of the few subjects I mentioned here very well.
When you question every Will You..?, there are chances that you will make the right choice of friends and having to trust them wouldn't be a problem.
Neither will betrayal set in and having to seek a reciprocated love, care, and attention.
And then you will also realize that trust and secrets have nothing in common.
Trust is Trust!
Secrets Are Secrets!
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Same here, I don't have a specific person who I call bestfriend because each one of my friends are the best for me in their very own special way.