Regret But Forgive

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Regrets!
Why didn't anyone tell me its gonna be the last I would hear from Jones
Why didn't he give me a sign?
How could he leave me like this without saying anything? What am I supposed to do without him? How am I to live my life now? Will I ever be able to forgive myself?
I know I shouldn't have argued or fight with him the night before the accident.

I was wrong for trying to prove unnecessary points and throwing tantrums.
Maybe I even killed him. What have I done?
Perhaps he wouldn't have gotten into that fatal accident had it been we didn't argue that night until he was pleading with me.
No! I will never forgive myself for taking Jones's life.
I am a murderer and now it hunts me even in my dreams.
I am so sorry Jones for doing this to you.
I am sorry for pushing you to your early grave.
I never meant for this to happen. It wasn't my intention and I never wanted anything bad to happen to you.
I can't believe the words "Go To Hell...!" actually sent you to hell.
I really didn't mean it. I am bitterly sorry Jones, I hope that your spirit will forgive me for the life I caused you.



Two years and I am still regretting the night I fought with Jones my ex-friend.
The feeling keeps hunting me down like just yesterday. I still couldn't forgive myself for what happened to Jones.
I have been wishing things took a different turn.
I wished I never had to argue with him or fight him.
I wished I didn't get necessarily angry over minute issues.
I wished I didn't walk out on him that night which led to his accident (I guess)
Every time I sit reminiscing this with so many regrets and bitterness in my heart.
I have had sleepless nights and I wish I could just turn back the hand of time and change everything.



It's not easy and I know it wouldn't be but after speaking with a friend Matt, who told me I needed to forgive myself, forget the incident and move on with my life, I hoped for a minute that I can and I was willing to give it a try.

I met Matt some months back after everything that happened, I shared my story with him and explained the incident to him.
He told me that it was just a mistake and that I shouldn't have taken it all out on myself like I did and I was still doing.
He encouraged me and spoke some words to me.
He talked to me about forgiving myself because Jones probably might have forgiven me a long time ago but I was just taking it too seriously on myself that I couldn't find peace of mind.
He needed me to be strong, always talk to God about the situation and help myself by forgiving myself and letting go.

Yes like I said it wasn't going to be easy and I was right anyway. I had a difficult time forgiving and forgetting but after a few weeks, I slowly started adjusting and telling myself that I have been forgiven even when at some point I got scared all over again and I kept worrying.
But with time, I was able to give myself a break from regret and self-blame.
I knew I did wrong and I was sorry but I needed to let go of it all and be myself again.
I did it at long last and I have never been the same again after that.
I was so thankful to Matt for coming my way and helping me see reasons why I should let God help me heal.
And since then, there was nothing like regrets again neither self-blame.
I found my peace all over again.

The End!




Have you ever been in a situation that you cannot just seem to forgive yourself for something you did wrong or something that happened by chance and you blame yourself for it?
Have you accidentally caused someone pain or even their life that you live in fear and constant regrets?

I want to remind you that it's okay but it's time to move on.
Yes, it is high time you forgive yourself, forget whatever happened, and let it go.
Let God help you heal and you will never remain the same again.
Don't be afraid to let go of your past.
Let it go because you deserve peace of mind.
You deserve to be happy again and free from the slavery of fear.
I hope you can forgive yourself for whatever mistake you had made in the past and begin a brand new life.
Yes, you can start afresh and I wish you all the best with it.

Still your baby girl ;)


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Omg zelly, I feel this article hits me to the bone. Yes, I am in a situation where I can't forgive myself because I hurt someone who loves me so much. I wrote about him in one of my articles too but the feeling can't just seem to fade away. My heart is s aching.

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3 years ago

We can never give genuine forgiveness to other people if we can't even forgive ourselves first. It will always start with us. You cannot give what you don't have.

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3 years ago

Is it a true story, bestie? If it is, or not, regardless, forgiving one's self is really hard, but it is the first step to healing. Everything happens, sometimes out of our control. Hope everything's well now.

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Hi there dear bestie. No this is not a true story. And yes I know it's a hard thing to do but it is for our good

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3 years ago

i know someone who is still suffering from her past. and it's just so sad seeing her caged. i will just let her read this and think about this perhaps

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3 years ago

Oh that's very sad.. I do hope she gets better

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3 years ago

Forgiveness is a long process especially the errors nor mistakes cannot be forgiven but if you forgive, it is a gift of ourselves to have a peace of mind and having a self freedom from being hatred of a one thing.

God bless you..🙏❤️

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3 years ago

Yes we deserve peace of mind and we should always forgive ourselves

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3 years ago

Yes we must, we should. It helps you a lot to start a new...

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3 years ago

Forgiving ourselves is the best gift we can give to ourselves. It also means giving ourselves that peace of mind.. if this is a true story hope by this time you were able to give yourself that forgiveness.

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3 years ago

Yes it is the best gift ever. No this is not true story

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3 years ago

It takes time to move on. There are still times where things from the past kept coming back that I regret doing then but I'm moving on.

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3 years ago

Yes dear it really does take time but I am also glad that you are moving on

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3 years ago

This brought back me years ago when I did nothing but regret on things done to me🤣

But yes, forgive is the word I think. It does the magic in healing. Good one my princess

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3 years ago

First stage to recovery is to forgive oneself. One need to let go of the past in order to move on. If one doesn't one is only destroying the future with today.

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3 years ago

Yea, if one doesn't want to ruin their future then he or she should let go of the past, forgive his or herself and move on

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