The MDAS of Relationship

MDAS. What is it? Yes, actually it was not an "is" but "are". We can use is because it was an abbreviation and are when we state what it stands for. It was an abbreviation of the four orders of operations in pre-algebra or Mathematics.

Rather than using ASDM, we'll use MDAS so that it is more readable 😁..

When I was in grade 3, our adviser taught us this song. I don't know if it was made by him or there was really a song like it. So it goes like this. "Add more friends, subtract your enemy. Multiply your love but don't divide your heart."

It make sense right? I thought of expanding it into an article. Because I knew nothing of writing about crypto so let me just write stuffs unrelated to crypto. We have plenty of crypto contents nman which we can read and learn from. They're written by good authors here and most of them are Filipino writers out there.

Add more friends

Friends are the people whom we consider as our family. They rejoice with our victory, share the laughter and loneliness in our life. Someone to lean on and help us stand when we fall. Someone who corrects our mistakes in a constructive criticism though it hurts to yet they don't tolerate our wrongs. One we can trust. In short, they're halves of us.

However, people whom we consider friends aren't really who we expect them to be. So what's the use of having large circle of friends when they only share our happy moments and nowhere to be found when we're down? Having lots of friends isn't bad but we have to know the real ones.

I am an introvert and not a sociable type of person that being in a crowd seems like I am lost. Since childhood, I only manage to have one or two friend/s, people I can say I can count on. Of course I mingled with other kids my age but I silently observe those who won't let me down, them I befriend. That's why up to this day, I keep my circle small as it is.

Add more friends but be more meticulous in allowing them be friends with you..

Subtract your enemy

For once in our life we have someone whom we can define as an enemy. In school we have the bullies or we were the bully. Even at our workplace bullies exist or better yet called nemesis.

Frenemies or friends we don't really like. I don't know that there exists as such. Then we have the tough enemies. These were the ones who make our life totally difficult.

Enemies can either make or break a person. It depends on how one take and react with the treatment of such person.

However, there are things we can do to rid off people who doesn't like us and show hostility towards us.

1. Understand and observe them

Try to understand your enemy on which category they fall in. Observe what drives that person to treat you like he's doing.

2. Avoid and turn a cold shoulder towards them.

These are complete combinations to ward them off. Don't give them the pleasure of turning you down. Just by avoiding them and ignoring their presence even when they come near you. Remember that they only wanted to antagonize you with their words and actions.

3. Know their weakness and defend yourself

By understanding and observing these people you will know their weaknesses that pulls them down. Don't just keep quite in a corner though you have to avoid them. So learn to defend yourself most especially when you knew they're only making an ass out of you.

4. Don't stress yourself and move on

It may be stressful to deal with such but the best thing is to move on. Don't stoop to their level because it only brings them more pleasure when they see you biting off the bait.

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Without harsh treatment towards people who are considered enemies you have to work on your character. It is your character that define you and make other people know who is who.

Remember to show genuine kindness and stay humble. This two characteristics will probably kill your enemy with guilt.

Then, connect with people most especially your friends. It will help a lot to release the stress and it might help you forgive your enemy.

Moreover, know where you had gone. When you have real good friends to connect with listen to them that you might know your fault. The things that might've made that person hate and get mad at you.

So be open-minded and try to keep negative feelings at bay. Then if you must, lower your pride and to talk with that person when you knew you're at fault.

Multiply your love

Love. It is the strong feeling of affection felt by an individual arising out of kinship, tenderness felt by lovers and benevolence towards others.

You won't be able to expand your love if you don't love yourself in the first place. It all first starts with yourself before you will be able to show your love to others.

Love covers all positive feelings like caring, kindness, compassionateness, selflessness and other associated words.

But, don't divide your heart

Give your love to everyone but give your heart to only one. A smile formed at the corner of my lips when I remembered this quote when we were still younger. The "pusong salawahan" word suddenly came to my mind.. those were the terms during our early teenage years.

As I can understand it, one man-woman should really be applied to avoid heartbreaks and heartaches. Yay! Talking like a teenager here. But, no. It is most applicable to adult lovers and when you grew out of love and found another inform your girlfriend/ boyfriend about it rather than cheating. And for those who are married when you feel like love's not in the air, try to bring back the old days when you're still very much in love with one another. Don't find fault and make it as an excuse to cheat also.

Conclusion

The MDAS of relationship is a practical tool to live a happier and more content life. The world is a better place to live in when we have good circle of friends, less or better yet no enemies, lots of love being shared and getting rid of infidelity.

4/25/21

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