Introducing oneself?

Did you ever introduce yourself?

Not only here but in real life too I mean? It is one of the hardest things to do. Perhaps in real life, it's less needed to say something that makes sense. Some people need words, can catch their listeners with them, and wrap them around their little finger with each word that comes out of their mouths.

Others have a great appearance or fame does the job for them. From the moment they appear the people are attracted by them or... impressed by them.

The first impression.

"It is what counts most and you never get a chance for a second first impression", is what they told me. Believe me, it's not true. In a person's life, there are more first impressions as one can count. Frequently we are not aware of it. We think that interview or the (blind) date is important but no matter where you go you always give someone the first impression of you.

How?

By the way, we walk, talk, dress, move, speak, look, laugh, eat, behave...

24/7 someone is judging you if you like it or not. You can care about it or not. You can try to fit into the society that judges you most of all or let it be. You can like or dislike it but the only thing which you cannot change is to stop people judging you. The thing is that is what we really do. The first impression someone gives us makes us judge, even within a few seconds before the brain received the signal, the answer the instinct gives is present. Some see it as a final judgment but that is seldom the case. We, humans, learned it takes time to know someone, it might take years to know someone well, and even after 20 or 30 years living together one day you can wake up and discover the person you thought you knew you never knew at all.

The first impression might have caused it or the idea in our head did it.

People change. They change because they gather all kinds of life experiences but the way we think about the ones we know doesn't change that fast. We keep thinking it's the old friend we met at Highschool or it's our baby child.

Instinct is fast, brain, and soul need more time to finally discover how or what works and get over something. If you find the balance between the three of them it all works out fine.