Is there a need to be happy?
What means happiness? Isn't it just a feeling, one of those feelings we all have? A feeling that comes, stays for a few minutes, and next it is gone. It happens to all of us... from one moment to the next someone or something spoiled our mood/day.
The power of positive thinking.
Norman Vincent Peale, a USA preacher, published a book with this title in 1952. Most of us know this expression. Not because we all read the book but because these days you are negative, so wrong if you are not positive about everything that goes on in your life.
We are forced to be happy and jolly, it's normal or at least better to have or show a good mood, be optimistic, to ignore reality, the facts, the simply bad luck each human has to deal with. Was it Rhonda Byrne (2006) who made it all worse (you saw the movie The secret?) or is social media the reason why so many people feel bad about themselves, wear a mask and only dare to post positive messages with happy faces and tags like #grateful #icandoit, etc.
Let's stop this nonsense.
Nothing makes a person so unhappy, causes so much stress as hiding, pretending you are someone else. If you are only accepted because you are that jolly, always optimistic person there's something wrong with the friends you chose, the society you live in. No one can be friendly 24/7 it's simply not realistic.
We all getting tired, have hormones, get hungry, thirsty, deal with illnesses, have bad luck, and the fact you did not make the power of positive thinking one of your skills doesn't mean the entire world and university turned against you. It is just something people like Rhonda wants you to believe.
True.
Life isn't fair but no one said it is or?
We all need to work to achieve something and if you do not give that 109% or even more nothing will be achieved. You can set as many goals as you like but if you refuse to work for it, make sacrifices, you can forget about it.
(Sh)it happens. This is what is called life experience!
A part of us has a miserable childhood, a part of a terrible marriage, a part is abandoned as a child or once older. It doesn't make those people an exception, it is no excuse to become a criminal or end up as a loser. Why not? Because it happens to everyone. The fact you do not see what's going on in a person's household, life, mind, heart doesn't mean it does not exist.
Be yourself.
There is no need to pretend you are someone else. Why should you? You will not be liked more only attract different people. Many of these people will not even like you for real. They might like the friendly words you say which gives them a better feeling but ask yourself what it brings you. What does fake you earn with this behavior? Is losing yourself worth it? Will those happy, always smiling people show up on your doorstep if you feel miserable, are in need?
Do you believe Rhonda?
If so you are kind of doomed. The power of positive thinking tells us we are the ones who are masters of the university. We are the ones who attract good and bad and do it to ourselves.
Elizabeth Kneeland tested it out (2016).
One group of people read an article about creating your own emotions, the second group read an article that stated emotions are what they are. Everyone had to write down a bad memory they experienced. Each person felt miserable about it but... those who read emotions can be created felt way more guilty. This test proved that if you believe you can turn each bear on the road into a white one, you have way more reasons to feel guilty and depressed as those who take life, with its ups and downs, as it is.
Those people who blame themselves for everything that goes wrong or different as expected in their life suffer way more from anxiety, depression,ons, and are more lonely.
What life looks like if you always need to smile you can watch the Netflix series Black Mirror - season 3, Nosedive.
Your article is good. In my thought in our society everyone are not happy. But in my thought happiness is very important of everyone's life.