Love is all you need? We love the song, love to fool ourselves if it comes to love and what we need. Is love really all we need?
If we look around us, are objective we know it is not. We can not stay alive with only love. We need more. If there are too many issues we have to deal with, if stress, frustration and depression takes over love can not fix it.
Many relations end long before 'death separates us', even before we start loving someone for real. Broken relationships, divorces, bad marriages, cheating and lying proof it. If we open our eyes we notice there are more unhappy marriages than relationships that make each other happy. This fact should make us think, not only think about what went wrong but also about our expectations.
To love someone is to know that one for real which includes every aspect. Not only the good but most of all the bad side. If it comes to knowing someone and sharing we lie. Showing who you are is threatening. Being honest, yourself is good to be rejected. Trust and honesty are killing if it comes to relationships and so are problems. Living with the truth is easier said than done. The promise to be supportive no matter what, those words 'you can tell me anything' and 'love conquers all'.
In reality, the naked truth plays with the mind and once we know this knowledge changes everything. We figure out we cannot live with it, we can not forget. Sooner or later it will eat us. We will blame the other for being honest with us.
If it comes to bad, nasty things we rather close our eyes, shut our mind and hit the road. It all doesn't fit with the picture of the life we have in mind. Love should be good and perfect. The love of our life should make us happy instead of dragging us down and stand for everything we fight, what shocks us.
Love is special, to be loved feels special if we can feel it.
We are raised to find that one and only special person. Someone who loves us for who we are, our inside not the outside. It has to be someone who cares and is willing to sacrifice everything to safe us from being single, facing the world alone, fighting it alone.
If we meet someone we hope. If we feel attracted to someone, especially if we get attention from a charming person, we have hope.
A smile, a small gesture can make us fall in love and forget everything, see the truth. We go for the good feeling, the moment. Falling in love has no reason, isn't open for sense, or reality.
Falling in love is not the same as love but we ignore it because we still believe is being single is being an outcast and it's better to be in a bad relationship than no relationship at all.
They say 'love is all you need, life is so much easier being with two,' so why shouldn't there be that special someone for you?
Once the 'falling in love is over, eyes are opened we see the real person and... want to be ourselves again. There's no longer any need to brag, for keeping up appearances. We need space, our family and friends, our own hobbies. We feel tired of always giving in, compromising. Love is not what we expected, the person we are with turns out to be different from what we had in mind. It is easier to break up than wasting years in knowing someone and learn how to love one for real.
It's hard to formulate what real love is. It depends on your definition of what it means to you but also if it, if love is all you need. To figure that out you have to know yourself and be honest. Love is not selfish it shouldn't be. You can love someone but this doesn't mean you are loved back. Love is a personal feeling which can be caused by hormones, certain situations, a bond and much more. Some don't feel love at all and you are not a sociopath if you say 'I don't love you love' or 'love is not all I need'.
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