I am autistic, not an alien

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I got really upset recently

The challenges

Being autistic has its challenges. It is a fact that we live in a world led by and meant for neurotypical individuals. When you stand out from the crowd, you tend to be the odd one out. Being different is kind of forbidden; it seems to be a bad thing.

Mistakes are unforgivable

If I make a mistake, it is undoubtedly because of my autism. It does not matter if anybody else can make the same mistake; it is my faultiness that led to it. I am socially clumsy — sure, I often do not pick some subtle cues, and this leads to misunderstandings. I have mostly learned how to live in a society, yet my continuous analysis of people every now and then fails. So, this means that I am not a worthy member of society.

Oh, and my favourite is how I am incapable of understanding others and showing emotions. As if the attacker is in my head and knows what I am experiencing. Interestingly, if you claim I do not understand your way of thinking, why do you assume that you understand mine? Or maybe attacking others for the sake of picking on someone feels good on the self-esteem. I am not interested in knowing the reason. I just find it sad and hurtful. I mean no harm, so why am I treated as if this is all on purpose?

If you claim I don’t understand your way of thinking, why do you think you understand mine?

Ashamed no more

I might be different, I might be clumsy in one way or another, but I am honest. I have mastered the lessons of decency. I do not criticise others, even if I see something that is not quite right. I can notice a dirty spot on your shirt, but I would turn away my gaze to ensure you are not aware that I have seen it. I do not want you to feel embarrassed. But then… I am heartless. If you say so…

Sometimes criticism is overt. It starts feeling like I am not supposed to be here, that I need to be expelled. Am I expected to feel redundant? Or should I hate my very existence? Should I regret that I am alive? In the past, I would try to hide in a corner and wish I could bury myself under the ground.

Not anymore.

I need to be respected. I am part of society with all its quirkiness. I am well educated and employed at a 9-to-5. I do not depend on others. So why should I be treated as an alien?

“The odd one out” — an abstract digital artwork that I generated using the AI in the Wombo Dream app.

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Hahaha! Well, we are socially impaired. I for one, to be honest with it, which is why no matter how hard I tried to reach out, never mind. My old husband told me not be be overtly introvert but I already tried reaching out socially but I am not socially acceptable. No matter how much I tried, all fails so, at least I made some effort. But, I'm done with that now, I'm happier alone at home not trying hard anymore. So, I let social to be with my kids, let them reach out as they fit well unlike me! As for the socialization, at the office with the officemates, still alienated but people already know me here for working 10yrs, so... I really come to a point that I really don't give a damn anymore of what they think. And I am happy!

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We are, to a small or large extent. I've learned how to be appropriate, but I've had a huge series of awkward situations prior to that. To me, it's basically a trial-and-error run of what is acceptable. Then I write an algorithm in my mind on how to behave in situations A, B, C... and then suddenly a completely unfamiliar situation happens and... I'm again clueless...

Some people accept it, while others... just prefer picking on you because why not...

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Who cares! Let them pick on you and just make sure that it will not bother you. That's is just our norms. ok! Never slash yourself out just because we are different! We are different, so, there is nothing they can do about that but respect. We are not doing them harm, its just that their normal is not normal to us. We are already FUNCTIONAL, trying so hard to function despite our disability and trying not to be a hindrance on community development. We are trying so hard to contribute, so, in anyway we can, be it!

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Well, when the lack of understanding comes from people you often interact with, it gets a bit hard to keep the "I don't care" face. I tend to be a composed person and rarely get into arguments, but I internalise the experience, and it gets me off the rails.

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