How can we be happier?

How can I be happier? What should I do to live my life happier? If you ask questions such as how can I attract more happiness into my life and want to be happy, in this article I tried to mention the key points of happiness by listing how we can be happier. I have never done any scientific work on this subject. However, this article emerged as a result of combining what I learned from dozens of personal development books that I have read in order to be happier throughout my life and by incorporating Bioenergy and Spiritual Healing Systems such as Reiki and Shamballa into my life, and blending all these with the experiences I have acquired throughout my life. I would like to express with Love and Gratitude the Divine Guidance and Inspirations I have received throughout my life, which are obvious in this article and in all other articles. I am starting to write with the intention of bringing light to your life.

Reduce your expectations

Of course, it is very important that our expectations are low, among the tips of happiness. We all want the best and most beautiful things in our lives. We have numerous dreams, desires and desires, whether we have a great job, a perfect spouse, a lot of money, a summer house in Çeşme, Bodrum, our latest model car. However, if we do not put a limit on these, I can say that I learned by living that it prevents us from being happy rather than making us happy. In addition, our expectations from other people are enough to prevent us from being happy alone. Remember; Just like you, others have a life and dreams of their own. It would be selfish to expect them to be at the center of their lives and to meet our wishes, desires and expectations. For this reason, if we do not expect anyone to make sacrifices for us, our level of happiness will be greatly increased as we naturally accept everyone as they are.

Don't live for other people

Until an era, I was always the giver throughout my life. I was always the one who sacrificed in my relationships. However, as a result of all these sacrifices, one day I felt like I was exhausted. Why was it always me? If you give it all the time without logical return, it is inevitable that you will be exhausted. As in all areas of life, we have to establish a balance between giving and taking in our relationships. This is not selfish, believe me, at first I thought that. Because I believed that if I were a self-sacrificing person, I would definitely get paid. But the people in front of me did not perceive it that way. For them, I was a self-sacrificing person who always tried to cover up the shortcomings and flaws in himself, who did not value himself. Because I had created the image that they were valuable, even more valuable than me, and that I was very worthless. They were not considered unfair either. It is a good virtue to do something for others in our life, to be aware of their worth, but being aware of our own worth… We do not have to be unhappy ourselves to make others happy. Those who accept us as we are are those who deserve to be with us.

Keep the balance between giving and accepting

Matter is made up of atoms, and atoms are basically energy. We give money in exchange for something material. We earn money by spending your time and energy. We waste energy when we take an action, sometimes even thinking about something. For this reason, our most valuable thing is our energy. Often we need time to increase our energy. Time is our second most valuable thing. If we are wasting your time on someone, they must spend their time and energy on us, so that the balance is struck. It would not be right to spend a long time for someone who does not share their time and energy with us. In short, we must learn to be in balance in all matters, material or spiritual, emotional or mental.

Be open to change

Life is different even if we perceive it as the same. Everything is constantly changing. Like the captain managing a sailing ship in a rough sea, we must be able to turn the waves of our lives into a driving force for us to move forward. Because this is a gift that comes from our existence. The easiest and most effective method is to be aware of, accept and not resist change.

Open your heart to love

Love is more than just a feeling. It's both a personal feeling; both a unifying and very powerful positive energy; as well as a divine healing necessary for our spiritual health and integrity. Love is vital to a strong and lasting happiness. Otherwise, nobody would find fault in making someone else unhappy for their own happiness. And this selfish effort to be happy would be the compass of a world suffering from misery. That is why love is most necessary for all of us. If we want to leave a beautiful world to our children, we must first of all teach them to love.

Think positive

While most of us think of Polyanna when we say positive thinking, it would be to simplify it. Positive thinking is the ability to see the positive side of a situation we label as negative. If it only stays in the dimension of thought, we can come to a conclusion that it doesn't work. Thinking positively is to turn our perception into a positive, strengthen it, increase it, and feel the positive emotions that feed and strengthen us. A believer and a devout person is inclined to think positively. Because he has made gratitude, surrender, and not being too attached to worldly needs a part of his life. They have reached a more peaceful and happy life by internalizing positive thinking.

Have faith

Faith is necessary to be happy. I don't just mean religious belief. Believe and try to feel as if your dreams have come true over and over again and wholeheartedly. Visualize in your mind what you think will happen when your wish comes true. How would you be? Is he happier, stronger, kinder and benevolent? How did you start your day? What would your relationships be like? These are not necessities, of course, but they can help you become more convinced that you can achieve, be as you imagined. Thinking positively and believing in the previous article are two concepts that strengthen each other. However, if you include other items, you can develop a much stronger positive belief.

Find your life purpose

A life without purpose can be a life lived in vain. We all came for a purpose while each of us was born without exception. For this reason, we realize that we are really happy when we find our life purpose and live accordingly. Every person's life purpose is unique. Well, if you say how can I find my life purpose, realize what makes you happy the most. You feel happy, peaceful and whole while doing what you do the most. You will have found your formula for happiness in your unfolding of your life purpose. And when you live happily, you will begin to move forward with confidence and enthusiasm towards your life purpose.

Be aware of your own worth

In my opinion, the most important point of happiness is to know its own worth. It is very difficult for a person who considers himself worthless to be happy. Although he sometimes feels happy, this state is temporary. Either he felt valued even for a short time, or someone made him feel valued. We must never forget that each of us is one and unique in the universe. I may not do something that you can do very well as you do. But there is one thing that I do better than anyone else. Happiness does not mean being the best in everything. Even if we are good at everything, a single subject that we are not good at can make us unhappy throughout our lives. But if we all know that we are the best at something, we can reach happiness more easily. It would be wiser and more logical to be happy with something we are good at than being unhappy about something we are not. You are very important, valuable and special to this world.

Learn to see the good in others

This is one of the most important tricks of happiness. While we all have great, excellent and unique features, of course we have a feature that is not good. Likewise, everyone other than you has features that are both good and beautiful, and not beautiful, just like you. If we can focus on positive qualities instead of our negative aspects in ourselves and others, we will have more harmonious, more tolerant happy relationships and life.

Be honest

Being honest is one of the most important tricks of happiness. Lying or not telling lies is a choice for whatever reason. Being honest is not telling whatever comes to our mind. We call it a babble. Being honest is not necessarily to answer every question. Sometimes we tell the truth in silence, sometimes we lie even when we keep silent. When we make not lying a way of life, we can be seen as a lie detector for a while. But "I don't want to answer this question." you might say. If it's a topic not related to you, “Keep me off topic.” possible to say. At first, we may find that you sometimes become so habitual that you can lie automatically. Frankly, almost every time, the reason we lie is because of fear. It takes courage to be honest. When it comes to happiness, we believe that we are strong when we are honest. We respect ourselves more for doing the right thing. We are also happier because we are in harmony with ourselves and our essence.

Simplify your life

One of the key points of happiness in our lives is simplicity. The simpler our life is, the more peaceful and happy we will be. The more we have in our life, the greater our burden. As we get rid of these burdens, we feel lighter, more spacious and therefore more peaceful and happy.

Don't judge anyone

Another of the tricks of happiness is empathy. Without empathy, there is no tolerance. Without tolerance, there is no happiness. "How can I be happier?" If we are looking for an answer to the question, we have to learn to be tolerant. The way to do this is through empathy. Empathy doesn't mean approving someone. Empathy and sympathy are different things. Empathy doesn't mean confirming someone's wrongdoing. Realizing that everyone can make mistakes and accepting others as they are. The error is peculiar to human beings. There are always mistakes that I, you and everyone else on earth, we all make. None of us are faultless. It is good not to repeat mistakes, of course, but this is everyone's own initiative and choice. Never talk big about it, but whoever was in his place, in his situation, under the same conditions and with the same consciousness would make the same mistake. Even you… Therefore, do not judge anyone for his current consciousness, for his mistake. You don't have to acknowledge or love her mistake, but if you can accept her for what she is, you may feel lighter, happier, and more peaceful than taking responsibility for her.

Note: This article is the translation of the article published on kozmodans.com. I hope I was able to translate clearly. I apologize for translation errors. If you liked the article, you can send your appreciation and support.