Positivity, Pessimism, and Realism

I do not want to go into the meaning of realism and its meaning in art. In its simplest form, realism is about reality, not drama and emotions. Realism requires seeing everything in its simplest form, clearly and objectively. When emotions are involved, objectivity loses its meaning and the concept of realism cannot be mentioned.

Emotions, of course, are not bad. We are human because we have emotions such as sadness, fear, anxiety. It is one of the most natural things to be sad, cry and mourn when necessary. Depression isn't bad either. Just like physical diseases, this is natural, like the flu that we catch at certain times in our lives, because we are human.

But like any illness, we must be able to overcome depression, sadness, pain, fear and anxiety. And we have to stand up again and continue our lives in a healthy way. In the process of sadness, mourning, and depression, our family and friends support us to make us happy and to heal as soon as possible. The important thing here is not that our loved ones, family and friends are sad with us, but that we can be happy with them. We don't want the people we love the most to get sick like us.

Positive mood can accelerate recovery in the fight against the most serious illnesses. For this reason, the best way to help people who need help is to try to help them feel good, happy, safe and positive.

Crying relaxes us. This is true. Others don't have to cry with us. It's not normal for us to want this. What parent would want their child to suffer from cancer like they did?

It is wrong to expect others to grieve, cry and suffer with us. This is so selfish. It is as absurd as expecting your doctor, who is trying to bandage your wounds and treat you, to cry by your bedside.

There is innumerable beauty and good things in the world.

When we look at it from the perspective of realism, there are problems and solutions. In fact, the problems are not with the problem. Rain, snow, storm, hurricane, tsunami, these are just natural events. It just exists. Certain causes, effects and conditions may have consequences. As human beings, we can be affected by natural events. Natural events have no emotional meaning in terms of realism. We are humans who give emotional meaning to events.

Of course, it is normal for us to be upset in any event that happens to us. But it is not normal for us to want the whole world to be sad. One thing is for sure, everyone struggles with many problems in their own life. Everyone has a different way of dealing with their problems. Some people try to solve their problems by crying. Some overcome their problems with laughter and humor. But it is not nice of you to remind a laughing person of the hungry people in Africa and expect him to be upset.

All my life I realize that people who claim to be realistic don't know that they are actually pessimists. A realistic person is one who can objectively evaluate events and try to find solutions. He takes his umbrella with him in rainy weather. Those who build earthquake resistant buildings against earthquakes are realistic. People who ignore the beauties under their noses, but aim to see all the problems in the world, but instead of taking responsibility and trying to find solutions, people who constantly talk to people about problems are pessimistic and not realistic.

You are realistic if you can see everything objectively without involving your emotions. It can be said that you have positive attitudes and behaviors when you start to produce solutions and take responsibility in this regard and put the solutions you find into practice.

However, if you are constantly seeing problems and waiting for others to find or implement solutions, if you have a habit of being unhappy even in the happiest situations and spreading it to others, you are pessimistic.

If you have an inner urge to make a happy person unhappy, you are pessimistic.

When something happens to us, it is natural to feel sad, suffer, cry, and become depressed. We can recover and get back on our feet. We are very lucky if there are people who support us by smiling and supporting us during this process. But no pain, unhappiness, anger or fear should last forever.

We can see everything that happens in the world from three different perspectives. Realism, positivity, pessimism.

We choose our perspectives. If we choose our perspectives under the influence of our emotions, we are either optimistic or pessimistic. We cannot claim to be realistic unless we are objective. This is logic error. No need to fool ourselves. As long as we act under the influence of our emotions, we are either optimistic or pessimistic. Being realistic is another thing.

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