Of course, it is not right to compromise ourselves to please others. However, we should not neglect to be loyal to people who treat us well, love and respect us. Between self-love and Narcissism; There is a big difference between self-worth and selfishness.
Loving yourself, not loving anyone but yourself; to value oneself, not to value anyone but yourself; Accepting oneself as it is does not mean excluding everyone but ourselves.
We can love ourselves and still continue loving other people. There are enough people in the world who don't care about anyone else. We don't have to be one of them either.
It is important and necessary to love ourselves, to accept ourselves as we are, to know our own worth. But when we started to say, "This is me accepting myself as I am. Let everybody accept me as I am. I can treat everyone as I want. I can treat people in a rude, bad, ugly way. I can break the heart of anyone I want. I can humiliate whoever I want. The world revolves around me." This shows that we are beginning to lose our personality, character, and humanity.
We can respect others as much as we respect ourselves. We can love others as much as we love ourselves. We can value others as much as we value ourselves.
The world is built on balance. Loving ourselves and not loving others is not a balanced situation. After a while, we start not to love ourselves either. As we lose respect for others, we lose respect for ourselves. If we do not appreciate others, we begin to feel worthless after a while.
When we get to this point, we feel selfish, disrespectful, rude, angry, lonely, and exhausted. Because we have lost balance. Because we always expected love, respect, loyalty and goodness from others. We took it constantly. We forgot to give. And in the end, as we do not give anything to others, as required by the universal law of balance, there is nothing left to return to us.
Showing love, respect, tolerance, understanding, kindness towards ourselves and others builds a balanced mood and life. Love, respect and kindness are not one-sided. We can also love yellow, red, green, blue, purple, orange white, black and all colors. We don't have to choose one of these. At the same time, we can love ourselves and all humanity. As we love, as we expand the limits of our hearts, we can be filled with more and more powerful love. We are a wonderful being with the potential to love all existence. Our hearts don't really have the limit of love. We have simply imprisoned our love within the boundary we created.
To lose our love is to lose ourselves. We can love both ourselves and other people without limits. Our essence is love. Even if we cannot see people's auras, we can feel how beautiful, warm and comforting the energy of loving people is. Love is not just a saying, "I love myself." Loving is a state of being. Love allows us to be in a powerful and broad energy field that can be felt. Just loving ourselves is an illusion. This narrows the sphere of love. Actually, it is impossible not to love anyone but ourselves. It is like rejecting sunlight and being enlightened by candles only. And the candle ends one day.
We are not just drops in the ocean. We are the ocean. I, you, it, all of us ... It doesn't make sense to reject the ocean and see ourselves as a superior drop from the ocean. It is also untrue to claim that we are the ocean, even though we do not like and accept any drop in the ocean. When we go beyond vanity, we can find ourselves.
"I am me." Is often misunderstood and misused. This does not mean, "I am mine. You are you," by separating yourself from all other beings. Seeing God in everything that exists and within itself is a word that is said by feeling the work of God, the beauty of God, the infinity of God, the unity of God. "God is in everything. There is nothing but God. There is only God" can be understood in his consciousness. It is a word that has a very deep meaning. This is a word that can be understood not mentally, but within the consciousness of unity that can be felt from the heart, soul, with our whole being.
If we say "You are you" when we say "I am me." The important thing is not the sentence, but what the sentence means.
Not everyone who says "I love myself" expresses the consciousness of love.
To trust yourself is to trust your own capacity. This trust has nothing to do with anyone but ourselves. A confident person doesn't bother with someone else's success. On the other hand, arrogance is a mental illness that can wage war on everything and everyone except itself in order to be the best, the most successful and the strongest. An arrogant person can do anything to get to the top. The success of another person is unacceptable to an arrogant person and he necessarily wants to be more successful than him.
It is important for all of us to love yourself, to be confident, to know your own worth, to respect yourself, to appreciate yourself. However, while doing this, we should not neglect other people's love, respect, trust and appreciation.
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