The tears are OK...

With Sadness you just have to be able to ... Sadness is like an old woman selling carnations in pubs, you just have to pretend not to notice her, so she will turn around and leave, even though at first it seems that she will be whining at the table forever ... And watch out ... If you give her just a crumb of attention, she won't calm down until she fills your entire basket ... And then you're done ... Because Sadness never forgets the faces of gallant customers ... And he will never bypass you again ...
Sadness is a gem whose value is not so well known among the world. Not only do adults avoid being sad in all possible ways, but they also teach children from an early age. How many times have you seen or experienced a situation where a child breaks a toy and when the child starts crying, the parents comfort him: "Don't cry, we'll buy another" or "Don't cry, you're a big boy, you won't cry because of the toy" or "Don't cry , it's just a toy, you have 100 of them "etc. This sends the message that crying is not desirable, and that we should deny our loss in every possible way. Losing a toy for a child is a big deal, just like losing an expensive necklace or hitting an expensive car for adults. That is why an event like this is a great opportunity to show your child how to deal with losses in life.
Men may think that crying is "only for girls", that sadness is a sign of weakness, and some people can avoid sadness for fear that it will last forever and that they will never get out of it if they give in to it. Of course, this is not true, sadness is a process that has its very clear beginning, development and in the end even a happy ending. In contrast, the suppression of grief lasts indefinitely, because psychological resolution is prevented. There is a disorder called prolonged grief, in which case experts should be included, but the work is again focused on going through grief, and not denying it.

Grief is a normal reaction to the loss of a loved one or object to which we are emotionally attached. At the root of grief is psychological pain that when expressed and accepted brings relief. Grief helps us to continue living even though there has been a loss. It is a function of sadness and that is why sadness is a useful and healthy emotion. Do not resist feeling sadness and pain. Whenever you feel the need to cry, allow yourself to express sadness and pain. If the crying does not stop, that is, if you cry for days, then you are not grieving, but despairing. Despair always lasts longer, and includes imagining a terrible future, self-pity, feelings of helplessness and meaninglessness.
Whenever you feel anger, frustration or sadness, you suppress them, you stress your body. This can lead to high levels of hormonal stress, which leads to reduced immunity and poor thinking. Over time, stress leads to and works diabetes, memory problems, aggression and depression.

Children need to be taught that death and loss are natural processes that happen, they are sad, but they need to be dealt with. Avoiding going through the stages of grief leads to illness, most often to depression and addiction. It is important to go through each phase of mourning and overcome it, because without that it is not possible to continue a "normal" life.