Once VS Now

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Etiquette is the rules of decent behavior in society. They mean a nice way of expressing and behaving well-mannered and educated people. We live in a time when old values ​​and traditions have been set aside, and chaos reigns on the street and in interpersonal relations. Let us recall some rules of conduct, which are accepted in every society. The general rules of etiquette apply equally to ladies and men. If you care about other people's opinions, it is important that you know the rules of behavior in order to leave the impression of a nice, cultured and refined person. There are rules of conduct that until recently showed that a person knows good manners. Many of them today not only do not mean the same thing, but they are also - rude.


A lot has changed in the last ten years, from technology to fashion, which somewhat includes the way we behave, that is, manners. As society changes, so does our way of life, because we adapt to the world around us. Here are some rules that our parents used to stick to so as not to earn the label of a man without manners, which today is losing a bit of meaning.

Old rule: Waiting for a formal introduction to meet a certain person.

This used to be a tactic used at work or in elite clubs. It was a way to limit socializing based on race or gender. Fortunately, this is a practice that is no longer acceptable today. Today, even the idea of ​​having to wait for someone else to introduce you before you meet is considered a sign that you are too polite.

New rule: Self-presentation is now polite behavior.

Old rule: A thank you note must be handwritten. Handwritten thank-you notes are still a nice gesture and people often appreciate and cherish them. But taking the time to find the right one, write it down and send it is often not easy, and the act of gratitude itself is much more important than the way you do it.

New rule: To express gratitude quickly, send an email or SMS and that's fine. However, if it’s someone’s big gesture, do your best, because a handwritten message really has more value and never goes out of style.

Old rule: If it’s not on social media, it hasn’t happened. About ten years ago, smartphones and social media were new to many people, so filming a meeting, a meal, or an event while it was in progress, which you immediately posted, was even cute.

New rule: We should never use the phone at a desk to chat, send messages, update social media, or surf at all. And always ask for consent first before posting or tagging a friend in a post.

Old rule: A man would get up when a woman enters a room. Traditionally, all men would get up when a woman entered the room, or had to sit at their table. This was perceived as a sign of respect and chivalry. In the last decade, there has been a great cultural shift in the way we treat gender, especially at work.

New rule: It's okay to stay put and greet a woman just like she's a man. Today, many women want to see them as equals, not just women.

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I was raised according to the old rules, which are still respected in my house, and I passed that on to my family. I am glad that my parents taught me some true values

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The family is the foundation of everything in one society.

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I agree with you. If there is a fundamental error, it cannot be corrected later

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If only that problem was in behavior, when I see and hear young people addressing older people, I am sick.

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I agree, I have often witnessed the rudeness of young people, but I must admit that there are also very well-mannered.

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new times manners change but I sometimes use some old manners that would say old school.

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Although we live in a chaotic world, each of us appreciates a little courtesy.

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I stand for gender equality. Therefore, I expect both partners to behave correctly, politely, civilly, kindly. A man does not have to be a gentleman just because of his gender, we should all adopt that gentlemanly behavior and behave correctly towards other people.

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I agree with gender equality, but I think it will be many more years before it really comes to life in Serbia.

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Manners used to be much better, now all that has changed

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It was known who was a lady and who was a gentleman.

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The new rules are closer to me.I try to follow and apply them,because a good way of expression and behavior "always finds a nice place" and leaves a nice impression on a person.

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We live in this new time, so the new rules are close to us.

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