Everyone deals with similar situations differently even though we share universal emotions. Emotional intelligence comes to those who think before they let themselves feel something regarding the whole situation. I think having the concept of emotional intelligence is valid because everyone can be self-aware of their emotions, by reading their body language and internally understanding how they feel. What differentiates those with high level of emotional intelligence and those who do not have it is the ability to overcome difficult situations by managing their own emotions by helping their own to feel better in time.
For example, those who are undergone recent breakups can deal with their heartaches differently. Most people would drown themselves with food or alcohol to feel better, some would cry their eyes out and curse someone who broke them, some would not eat, go out their house and mop all day. While those with high EQ, they may be sad but will still choose to continue life like nothing happened. See the good thing out of their situation and be better for themselves. Nothing is wrong with crying and despondent but the moment you stop your life because of it and lose your choice to move on, that it not good. Being stressed and emotionally unwell happen to everyone. However, if one reason makes you lose focus on the more important things in life it will ruin your life. If one person hurt you and you choose not to care about your well-being then you are as well hurting other people that loves you. If you physically hurt yourself because of being miserable, it does not make you feel better because it will haunt you more just by feeling the physical pain you inflicted in yourself. Having to choose to battle what makes you feel down and miserable is the best thing you could do for yourself and the people who cares for you.
Our emotion is not something that we can guess or depict regarding future situations. We all react differently and that is something normal and explained by our environment, emotional support, and individual senses. An emotional state is defined by the level of real or imagined threat that individual senses. If we list basic emotions along a continuum is not plausible because there are times that our basic emotions are haywire and unpredictable. Sometimes everyone is happy, but you canāt feel it because you are undergoing an emotional crisis. Sometimes you couldāve been celebrating a victory but we canāt because we feel like itās not enough. We canāt list the basic emotions in a continuum knowing that it is not how our emotions work and it is not realistic for everyone. However, even though we can't choose the emotions we feel, we can choose the ways in which we respond through emotional awareness.
During this time of pandemic, many of us may feel the anxiety from their current situation, especially those who lost their job, those who are far from their loved ones, having financial difficulties and those with families who got infected by the virus. Sometimes even if we want to think positively, stress just gets in the way and it makes us feel bad every second thinking about the crisis we might be in. Stress is critical because it affects our mental and emotional state that it even affects our physical strength to get things done. When stress pile up because of family, work and other things, it is important to find a way to release it, some diverts stress by watching movies, reading books or eating.
But for me, IĀ feel like sadness is the best way to relieve stress. Just like in the movie Inside Out, they thought sadness only triggers someone to cry but in the end, sadness saved the girl and helped the kid open her heart and let out what makes her feel upset to the people she loves so they could understand how she feels. Sadness is one mood that we need to accept whenever we are stressed. After some crying, that is the time we feel light and better. It is okay to entertain sad thoughts and become emotional as long as after that causes us to also remember some happiest moments of our life that counteract our melancholy into contentment and joy.
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