Getting complaints about behavioral issues of my child is the biggest surprise for me. As a mom, I felt embarrassed, awkward, not sure what to do!

This is something new to me. I always got to hear, not only from my relatives but from everyone that I raised my son pretty well. He is completely screen-free, very connected to offline life. Yes, as a toddler he shows tantrums now and then but he was always well behaved.

It felt like I'm the only responsible one. But I came to realize after a day that, it's totally fine. I tried to see things from the third person's perspective. And noticed that both parties; my son's teacher and we are correct in our positions.

That's why I'm feeling comfortable talking about it now.

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My son is indeed more active than other kids but he's not hyperactive, as per our family doctor. He is very talkative and independent. He was more progressive in terms of development milestones. He usually tries to do everything on his own from the beginning like eating food and taking shower. And I always encouraged him. But it's reflecting sort of negatively on this behavior. He refuses to take any help from his teacher as well.

Another issue is his emotional resilience. He is just 4 years and 10 months now. One thing we all must keep in mind is that he is the youngest one in this class. But on the other hand, he is more progressive in terms of study. As he has never been with any other caregiver except me or never stayed in the child care center. So it sure affects his emotions. So often he is showing tantrum or refuse to take any command from his teacher as he is not used to it.

These are my observations.

One good thing is, his teacher suggested making an activity chart and giving him points/stars according to his daily behavior. I'm working on the chart. I hope that sure will help him to understand what behavior is appropriate and what is not.

I know I'm taking more stress than I should because of these issues and getting hard on my child. But I promised myself I wouldn't. I know I have to be more patient to deal with these issues smoothly.

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And for five years old, it will take him a while to adjust to a new situation. After all, he is going through a lot. Being in the school for more than 2 hours, not able to see me for the whole time, learning and processing a lot of new things, doing homework regularly. If I see from his perspective, it's a lot to take.

We all need to be patient and gradually teach him the correct behavior. There's no complaint about this progress in education, that's a plus point. Social skill - we can gradually get advanced on this.

So, what do you think? You can suggest to me something that you think is useful or your experience that might help me to adapt and learn more so I can help my little one.

Thanks for reading my post.