What does it mean to connect with someone?

It makes you weaker than you can imagine in that sweet world..

What is the bond that strongly binds one person to another? Can we see and understand a human being at first glance, like a ball of steel that looks like silk?

did we know what we were connecting to

when they asked us why we were attached to someone, we said 'because she's beautiful', or 'handsome, smart, strong, talented'; we were listing the reasons we accepted as valid for a person to be loved.

but maybe we were attached to weaknesses, weaknesses, distortions.

While we were always trying to describe 'connection' as a flight towards the heights, perhaps commitment was a surrender to the dark abysses of death, madness, doubt, selfishness, and corruption.

When we get attached, don't we always find a 'pitiful' side that others don't see, a vulnerability that will always arouse compassion in us even to those who hurt us the most?

No matter how strong, smart, beautiful and talented the people we are attached to may appear to others, weren't we worried that something bad would happen to them because of their naivety, childhood and weakness and weren't we trying to protect them?

no matter how weak and helpless our attachment to a person makes us

No matter how much it hurts us, don't we still sense a weaker and more helpless side to the person we are attached to than our own?

Isn't this what we usually intuited true?

I think strong bonds are strengthened by the great weaknesses in those we are attached to.

There is always a little pity in the great loves and great devotions, even when they upset us, betray us, we worry for them despite the deep sorrow that we think it is because of their weakness and we are worried for them. We fear what will happen.

While others see their brightest side, we see their darkest side.

The strange whirlpool created by that radiance and that pitch-black darkness draws us in; we come to their shine and get lost in their loneliness.

before I connect to someone

I'm afraid that I will suffer

once we get attached, we start to fear 'I wonder if he will suffer'; While our own sufferings seem tolerable to us, while we feel like we can endure any pain, we fear that they will not be able to bear any pain and that they will be crushed under their own pain.

Why is a person attached to another person?

Do we ourselves know why we are connected?

we find smart reasons for our feelings, but the real reason is hidden in the boxes where the mind does not penetrate.

Why do the weaknesses in those hidden boxes attract us?

our own weakness? Or does the one who is attached sees himself stronger than the one he is attached to, does he believe that the person he is attached to cannot withstand what he suffers; While attachment seems like a weakness, does the person who is attached feel his/her own strength in this commitment?

A beautiful strong weakness draws us in the darkness like an abyss of luminous blackness, it's not easy to take your eyes off once you bend over and look.

We cling to the dark, but to the bright and flaming ones.

such bright darkness can only be found in death, in depth, in betrayal and solitude.

and while others admire their brilliance, we pity the darkness and are enslaved.

connecting for him separates us from other people.

In a garden where others gather and eat the fruits, we indulge ourselves in the intoxication of drinking the delicious and burning drinks obtained from the spoilage of those fruits, with the pleasure of discovering that drink and separating from the crowds.

When asked 'why do we get attached to a person', we say 'because we like drinks more than fruits'.