Today, there is more and more talk about the power of positive thinking, and sometimes it is not enough to want to think positively - this way of thinking is learned and practiced.
The pessimistic way of thinking happens to many people and is most often learned, and it is characterized by the fact that these people think in a negative way and create beliefs about things. It is a reaction of giving up, when a person thinks that nothing he does can help him solve some things he has as problems in life. For example, they say that they will never succeed in business, that they will never lose weight because diets never act, that they will never find a partner because all partners are bad, or that they will never recover. Such a way of thinking leads to a depressed mood due to which health problems appear later, which create negative effects on our overall health psychophysical condition.
Optimism is a choice offered to each of us, and science has proven that by adopting certain habits we can change our experience of reality. So, nothing cost us to try to change our way of thinking.
These five "habits for happiness" will help you to change your view on the world:
1. Learn to be grateful
Think of three things you are grateful for. For example: "I am grateful for the hug that my child gave me before going to school, it means that I am loved." It is very important that you come up with three new things every day for which you are grateful. That way, your brain will "train" to automatically "scan" the positive things that happen to you during the day.
Gratitude changes your perspective. We build our view of the world based on the things we pay attention to. If they are negative, we cannot expect the world to be positive. Gratitude helps us build a world based on positive feelings and events.
2. Say "thanks"
Choose another person every morning and send her a message or email in which you will thank her for something nice and good that she did. It doesn't have to be your best friend or family member. Remember the instructor from the gym, colleagues at work, neighbour..
It has been proven that you will feel better at the same time, and that person will probably answer you and remind you of something nice that you did…Over time, this habit will strengthen your network of friendships, and that is one of the most important things in life. Did you know that loneliness is as dangerous to health as excessive obesity, smoking or high blood pressure?
3. Find meaning in the things that happened to you
Think of one significant thing that has happened to you in the past 24 hours. Maybe someone held the door for you as you passed, maybe you had an interesting conversation… Give yourself two minutes and write down every detail you remember. By doing this, you are mentally reviving that experience, thus giving it meaning. The positive event thus gained weight, and became a "reminder" that life is worth living.
4. Get up and get move
Engage in some physical activity for 15 minutes during the day. You can walk, run, swim.. any type of physical activity that gives you pleasure can be your choice.
Research has shown that fifteen minutes of some activity that will speed up the pulse is equivalent to taking antidepressants. During physical activity, endorphins are released that improve our mood. In the long run, exercise will make you both healthier and in a better mood.
We can adopt a clear view of the world regardless of our genetic heritage, our origin, the circumstances in which we grew up or in which we live. Optimism is "contagious." We are happier if we are in the company of positive people. Research shows that we generally like optimistic people more, trust them more and perceive them as more intelligent.
Both optimists and pessimists experience difficult things in life, but optimists do better because they cope better with it. So, why not choose to be optimist :)