Parenting is sometimes reminding of the circus. Juggling (with obligations), acrobatics, dressage, and playing clowns. When you have a husband, that is easier, but when you are alone in that circus than you have to try extra hard. I managed to organized my own circus with these few rules:
BE POSITIVE!
Look at your situation with pink glasses. Remind yourself that you got the biggest present from God. And you should take care of that little angel. And how you will do it if you are always nervous, angry if you yelling all the time? There is no way. Kids are like a sponge, they absorb every our emotion. So, try to be smiling more. Don't allow your child to see tears on your face.
DON`T BE NERVOUS ABOUT THINGS YOU DON`T HAVE INFLUENCE
That is a waste of time and unnecessary nervousness. If you can not change something, or that doesn't depend on you, just learn to accept it and live with it.
Instead of that, change focus on better things.
FIND EXHAUST VALVE
Everyone should have their own exhaust valve, especially self mothers. That can be anything you like, big or little things you enjoy. Things you do for yourself will reflect on your child. Happy mother-happy child! It is simple. Do things you like to do, that can be interior design, growing plants, reading, drawing. Your time is when the baby sleeps. Call your friends, see what`s new in their lives.
ACCEPT THE HELP
Don't be ashamed to ask for help. Friends, cousins, grandmothers, grandfathers can be very useful. It will be a pleasure for them to take a kid to walk while you paying bills, or go to the hairdresser. You must find little time for yourself.
Financial help is always welcome. Ask about your rights and use everything you can.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
In order to raise a healthy and happy child, we must be in good shape. At first, we must be full-fed and asleep. Those are the basic things. Without food and sleep, we can not function. Further, face and hear care you can make from home, too. When baby sleeps, make a pilling, put masks on the face and hair, do your nails, eyebrows, make a bath.. That little rituals make us satisfied. Be pretty for yourself.
BE CAREFUL WITH MONEY
Raising a child with only one salary can be very stressful. Sometimes we can not buy everything that kids want. So, we must be rational with costs.
Make a list of costs and see what you can reduce. Buy only the things you need for you and your child. Without expensive toys, shoes, bags, that you will need in this period. Take care you don`t late with paying bills and supply a fridge with good, healthy food. That is the most important.
While you are in a bad financial situation, don't make long-term plans. Live from today for tomorrow.
SAVE MONEY ON EVERY STEP
It is very important to know that you must be ready for the unexpected situation with a kid (they are often ill, make injuries..) and you must have some money sideward.
Open savings account for your kid. Try to put some money every mounth. Or, when grandparents or cousins give money to kid for birthday, put it on that account. That money can save you in some urgent situations.
Buy on actions and sales. You don`t need expencieve and new baby stroller. Find secondhand on internet, or make a change with other moms. Facebook is full of groups when parents who do that.
WATCH THIS AS JUST A PERIOD IN LIFE
Like old people say: "After rain comes sun". All of us have good and bad periods in life. Joy, happy, sadness, stress.. we must live with all of that. When it is hard, remember, it will come time when it will be better.
Thank you for reading my advices, I hope it will help some mother .
After rain there is always sun. You are right. Just be positive...