Love Has It's Own Perfect Timing

July 10, 2022

People who are single nowadays are now being pressured whenever someone is asking them:

"When will you get married?"

"Why is it that you still do not have a girlfriend / boyfriend?"

"Are you afraid of being in a relationship?"

"When will you introduce someone to us?"

All those stated above is what we call peer pressure, because it is around our circle who causes our pressure.

Some are also pressured because their friends are now getting married, some of them have children already and there they are, still not married or worst case, they didn't still have special someone in their lives, most especially those people who are now do not belong in calender or those who will be soon be out of the calendar, or in our Filipino language, we call it, "wala na sa kalendaryo", meaning their age can not be seen in calendar.

For all the single ladies and gentleman out there, do not just enter into a relationship just because:

you are feeling being left behind

you are being pushed to be in a relationship

you are afraid that you can never met someone with your standards.

Yes, all of us have their ideal partners in our minds. Some of us want to have someone who are handsome, someone with 4 wheels, someone who is great and is being successful in life. Someone wants a person who is God fearing, someone who knows how to respect, someone hardworking. Yes, most of us have a high standards when it comes to our ideal partner but some of them are not that patient enough to wait for that person to come in their life. The longer they do not meet / see that person the more that they become hopeless so with the fear of not having someone in their lives, they settle for less than what they do really deserve. At first, the relationship will be okay, but in the long run, happiness may turn into arguments or doubts.

People who settle for less than what they deserve most likely to question themselves a lot of "what if's" when the relationship is not going well. Because, from the very start, they ignored that red flag for the excitement of being in a relationship.

Just a little reminder:

When setting a standard for your ideal partner, consider your worth also. Do not just set a very high standard when it fact your ways of living is just average or below than that. For example, isn't it funny if a cheater longs for a loyal partner? Everyone will react if you know a person who cheats in every relationship that he / she have and wanting to have a loyal partner in the future?

How about, a person who is lazy, set a standard that the person he / she wants has to be successful in life?, Oh come on, a person who is successful will never ever be attracted to someone who has no sources of living, most people who are successful wants their partner to be successful also, or someone with a future.

Advice:

Be that someone whom you want to have, in other words, if you want someone who is loyal, then be a loyal person too.

If you want someone who is successful, then do everything to reach your goals and be successful.

Back to topic:

Loneliness should never be the reason if why we will enter a relationship, because in the long run, we will become frustrated. The happiness of being in a relationship now is just momentary. And in the long run, the happiness will not be present anymore and worst case, you will end up breaking that person's heart for not being really into the relationship. Your memory for that person is not good. It is not good to think that you are a nightmare in their life. And remember, karma is always there, what you did to someone - you will experience it too someday so that you can experience the pain you caused on someone else's life.

There is a perfect timing in everything, if you are single for now then enjoy the life of being single. Trust the process, good things are given to those people who knows how to wait.

The right person will come at the right time. There is purpose on why both of you didn't meet yet. Maybe you need to fix yourself first or that person should also need to fix himself / herself. You may never know the reason if why you have to wait, but when you finally met, all your questions about why will be answered.

Never envy those people who are in a relationship because not everyone who are in a relationship are happy, and not every single person are sad.

I read a statement years ago that states: "When I am single, all I can see are happy couples but when I am now in a relationship all I can see are happy singles" For me, what it really want to say is, if what is the status you are today, enjoy it, live your life to the fullest. So that once you will leave that state in your life, all you can say is, you had a beautiful memories about your past.

Do not rush, haste will always make waste. Trust the process. Someday / somehow everything that you wished for will now bw in your favor.