How to know if the one we are with right now is right for us?
Is compability based on differences or with the similarities you have for each other?
Some would say that opposite do attracts just like the batteries, the positive and negative attracts while if it is on the sames poles, they repel.
But how about with us humans?, is it really true that a person falls for someone who is completely the opposite of him / her?
With my opinion, it may always depend on the person, we have different kinds of personalities and so with our preferences when it comes to the person we will fall in love with.
We can not teach our heart on who to fall in love with, because it just happens. We have no control of falling in love with someone we never thought we'd never fall in love with. Love is something that we can not control. Sometimes we even fall inlove at someone unexpectedly and sometimes it is late for us to realize that we fell in love with that someone.
No matter how similar or different we are with the person we are with now, that does not matter. What matters most in the relationship is on how well we understand each other. We need to accept the person completely. Love your similarities but respect the differences that you have.
Respect is very important in the relationship, you can not completely say that you love someone if you do not respect them. Respect always come along with love.
With my opinion again, before you can say that you love someone, ask yourself first if you accept everything in that person. Because love is being open, we need to accept first their flaws because before we can also say that you love someone, you should be able to accept them as a whole, embrace their flaws (no one is perfect, everyone have their own flaws)
Before you can finally say that you love someone, you should not know really the reason if why you love them, because when you can point out the things why you love that someone then I can say that you are not really in love with that person, instead you only like them. Love has no reason, in my opinion but if we have different opinion, you can freely explain your opinion there.
Again, back to the topic. You can say that you are compatible with the person you are with when both of you can easily connect with each other, no matter how many similarities you both possess or how opposite the both of you if you can not connect with them or you can not go along with what they want to do then you are not compatible.
As you can observe, all I want to point out in my article is all about acceptance because in everything that is happening in our life, there are things we really can not change and the last thing we can do is to accept it. If you can not accept things, then that will only mean that we do no like it. If you can not accept the "not so good things" that your partner possess then you do not love her, you only like her with the good things that she / he have then you only like her, it is not called love and somewhere along the relationship, there is no guarantee that you can be together for a long time but if you both accept your flaws, then there is a great chance that forever is waving for the both you.
It is really acceptance at first since we choose to be with that person. But we can always change and improve something for the best that can as well help the relationship to grow.