Success of a Mother

July 22, 2021

The journey of a thousand miles begins from a single footstep.- Lao Tzu

There are many definitions of success mostly their success with life itself. Success at work, relationships, etc.
But for me being a mother is a complete success.

The moment I saw him with my very own eyes being taken out from my womb feels a very great success for me. Imagine, I successfully bore a very healthy baby boy. our Unico Ijo.

The success of having those sleepless nights of taking care of him alone forgotten the moment you saw his smile. Man, who would worry about anything when a precious baby smiling at you.

The opposite of success is a failure, right?

I had so many failures before or even the time I am taking care of my son. I was called different names by gossipers, people who don't know the real story behind why I am raising my son alone.

"disgrasyada" (disgraced) most people call me that. My family would defend me but I told them to stop. I don't want to add more burden to my family so I act as nothing happened and go on with taking care of my child. Of course, with all the gossiper's attention, I was the talk of the time for quite a long time.

Success in bringing him to places

I lost weight during those times, my best friend told me that my eyes lost their smile. I ignored her and keep showing my family that I am fine. I personally took care of my son even if I'm already working. I was assigned on-site first so I get the chance to go home early to take care of him. I got the chance to bring him to places I want him to see. Carrying a child is a very big crowd with no one to take turns in carrying is hard but I did successfully tour him around SM by just me carrying him all the time.

I keep bringing him along with me in order for him not to feel out of place at home for his cousins are always with their father. smiling and laughing.
I bring him to places where he can always have a good laugh, to some arcades where we play a lot of games together.

Success on making him smile every day

Smiles are everywhere when were together. We have a lot of fun even if it's just the two of us.

I made sure he got all the needs that he got.

Success over struggles

Single mom struggle is working while leaving your son at home. You can't see him for the whole day and you need to work to feed the both of you. Even if you're sick but you need to work because you feel like having a sick leave will cost you a day and it's big enough money so you'll force yourself to work.
The struggle of putting on a budget (vitamins, diapers, milk, etc) and you also need to budget your fare back and forth for the whole month.
Having overtime and out of town compulsory company team building but you can't bring your son. So you will not see each other for days. Before I always cry myself alone thinking I can't see and hug them for a day. So I adjusted to the changes.

‘I’m thankful for my struggles because, without them, I wouldn’t know my strengths.’

Strengths became my personal success

The strength of raising him alone is a success for me. I know it's still early to tell for he just turned five this month but those years I learned a lot.

My son teaches me a lot of lessons.

He became my confidante

He thinks maturely which I really don't like because I want him to enjoy life.

Success on having blessed a son like him

• His traits:
  Before the pandemic, I commute to work and come home every day. He always wakes up and watches me prepare for work and then when I set off he goes back to sleep.

• He waits for me to come home even if I always arrive late. He watches tv while waiting for me.

• He likes to have meals with my morning and night.

• He'll tell me what he did for the whole day while I was away.

• He leads in praying the "Prayer to the Guardian Angel" before going to sleep.

• Most importantly. He loves cuddles and kisses. He hugs me and always holds my shirt when I am busy around the house.

That would be my definition of success as a mother. I may be a beginner but I'm trying to learn new things for his sake. I'm willing to sacrifice anything or everything for him. He's my world after all

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