June 30, 2021
Yay! It's the end of the month again and also the end of the 2nd quarter. Christmas is approaching...Chozz Just kidding😉
Since the prompt this week is "Cheating" by Ma'am @JonicaBradley and since I prefer writing my personal experience mostly in my articles. I'll tackle one particular person who cheated on me because of a very lame reason🙄
Most women my age had Exes. So I had this one particular ex who's a pain in the neck and chose to cheat on me.
If you were once cheated in the past trust issues occur even in the present relationship you have although you didn't voice it out.
I had doubts but I risked all my doubts because I want to experience being in love again after so many years since my first ever break up. He's a decent guy in my eyes and in my friend's eyes also. I didn't tell Mom because I don't want them to worry about me anymore.
So we hang out on so many occasions. We mostly bond after my work and he also adjusts with my schedule for I have many activities outside work like my prayer meetings, member's gatherings, etc.
We've been going out for a year and I thought we were fine. Whenever we are together we always laugh and cuddle.
Some days you're in love and some days you're not. We sometimes fight and mostly the reason is he wants to be intimate but I can't do that because I need to settle my personal problem which is my trust issue. He keeps complaining about me being so reserved. He can't blame me for that actually, I was shattered into pieces after my first heartbreak and I don't want to experience it anyhow.
I do console him and told him there's a perfect time for that. Though I know "wedding" is not and will never be written in my bucket list. So after the fight back to the usual. Months later, I noticed the changes in him. He sometimes misses out on our dates and always reasons about "work stuff" I bet he loves working than spending a little time with me. Minimal text for a day until I don't receive any messages so I thought he had a problem at work. So I set us up a date to talk it out, send him a message saying we need to talk, and told him the place and time. He responded "OK" so it means something wrong.
We met at the resto as planned, and settled for dinner first. While eating I was eying him for any unusual reactions or emotions. You know most girls can actually sense if somethings wrong faster than the lightning bolt. A single action she misses out and then boom concluding he's hiding something we don't know. So while eating I check up on his work asking how was work been these days to him, or has his boss put him on a tight schedule again that stressed him out. He said it's fine and he says he's tucked at work late because of the many proposals and the quota he needs to meet by the end of the month. I did understand him with that, for I've been there done that with my work also. So I know the feeling of being under pressure and It's hard to cope up.
We talk and talk and he apologizes for ghosting me for weeks. I do understand when I heard his reasons. We keep on with our tracks in life and work. And then one day an old friend message and wants to have lunch with me so I agreed. We met and then we chatted at lunch, we talk about work, family stuff, and also sex life (RPG). I told her I'm in ZERO about sex life, so she told me about her exhilarating experiences that left me in awe. We are not young anymore I do admit that but hearing her say stuff like it's too erotic for me I don't think I can do those... lol.. And when I ask for the picture with the person she's currently doing this erotic activities with, there she showed me the picture of the man I'm dating topless standing beside my friend who only had undergarments attached to her slim body. I ask her how long they've been doing it and she told me almost a year.. ALMOST A YEAR!!! Poker face and best in acting I praised her for having quite a really exciting life. After that lunch, I message him saying I need to ask him something.
We met and I confront him, and he told me the truth. Cheating is like a poison that I don't want to drink. So, before ditching him I asked him what was the reason that he cheats on me for almost a year already, it was like months on our dating spree he's been hanging out with my friend. He told me he was tempted and I don't want to be intimate and he found it in my friend, all the things he wants to do with me he did it with my friend, and it cringes me to the bone.
Glad I didn't give him what he wants before. Sex will never be an indication that your relationship will go strong. It's lust people, not love. If you really love your partner you can wait. hayyyys
Girls, don't give in to whatever your partner asks if you don't want it.
Ask yourself first if it is really good.
Don't doubt your instincts.
Respect/Love yourself before others.
This will be my entry for this week prompt "Cheating" by Ma'am @JonicaBradley
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The rules for the writing prompt are simple:
Write about cheating
Write 100% original content
Write at least 600 words
Tag Ma'am @JonicaBradley
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