Young people expect their parents to trust them, but it is not the primary obligation of parents to trust their children, but to consider them. The more parents understand their children, the more parents trust their children.
Understanding sons and daughters comes from showing a "hearing heart." One of the Hebrew words for "understand," "shama," means hearing intelligently." Mother always has the greatest chance to be an observer during the day.
1. The Mother is the “Heart” of the Home.
The Scriptures describe the husband as the head of the couple. Likewise, a woman can be likened to the heart of a couple. The head and the heart are important both to the functioning of the body and to the efficient functioning of the home.
The notion that only the brain is thought is an antiquated term. Researchers also found that the neurons that store the memory we think of are not only in the brain, but also in the heart. The Scriptures affirm this concept; as a man thinks in his heart, so is he" (Proverbs 23:7).
Just like the heart sends important and constant messages to the brain, so the wife can express to her husband what she sees and hears, so that they can make wise decisions together. In order for this contact to take place, the husband has to arrange hours for substantive conversation with his wife about their home education program.
2. The Mother is the “Light” of Learning.
By practicing a listening heart, the mother will know what character traits, academic studies and realistic skills she wants to cultivate in her children. With these in mind, she is willing to make a list of suggestions for her husband to be included in the regular assignment list. ATI offers practical training to support father and mother with this.
The mother's position as a light is mentioned in the Scriptures: "My son, keep the commandment of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother... for the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and the instruction is the way of life" (Proverbs 6:20, 23).
3. The Mother is a “Learner-Teacher.”
Many mothers feel insufficient to educate their own children particularly as they reach high school and college levels of learning. What these mothers tend to understand is that children who are rewarded for their academic attitudes and success will quickly go beyond their parents' learning accomplishments.
ATI does not see parents as practitioners, but as active learners together with their sons and daughters. If topics come up that are beyond the knowledge or comprehension of parents, they are urged to look for them or introduce them to those that have skills in these specific fields.
Mothers are also expected to teach older children to collaborate alongside younger children. When this type of mentoring takes place, older adults not only study academics, but also improve teaching skills and start training themselves for parenting.
4. The Mother is a “Creative Recorder.”
In order to verify learning, it must be registered. There are a variety of innovative ideas that the mother may use to maintain useful notes for each boy. The "mini-book" solution is the chosen form. Using mini-books, children are taught to grasp and condense vast volumes of content in creatively made small booklets.
Children are also inspired to do more by meaningful maps, graphs and records. They can be begun by the mother and continued by the older children. In this method, penmanship, neatness, precision, thoroughness, imagination and other qualities can be produced.
5. The Mother is a “Coordinator” of Responsibilities.
Mother's first thought about home schooling is How do I teach my children and get all my work done? "The secret to home education is to creatively teach children to love work rather than to pursue enjoyment by converting everyday tasks into character classrooms.
For example, washing dishes may be turned into lessons of gratitude (doing dishes in respect for the person who made the meal), thoroughness (cleaning all dishes and utensils) or organisation (putting the dishes in the right places).
A smart mother knows that her life is full of seasons. By engaging in the lives of her children, she would enjoy the benefits of their wisdom and good character.