The Alphabet of Love ( Part 3 )

Hey…stranger. So here I am again bringing you the third part of Alphabet of Love. I published two parts of this already and if you want to check them out pray do click on these links :

The Alphabet of Love ( Part 1 )

The Alphabet of Love ( Part 2 )

I have written these articles to express what I think love is. Love is a pretty abstract concept and I think no one can really directly define it with just the words listed on a dictionary. It is more than any single idea in the world. It is so complex that people sometimes spend a lifetime finding the real meaning of it. Lucky are those who in their hearts know the real feeling of being in love or being loved. And without further jibber jabber, I will continue with the next word. Here goes:

 Natural

I believe that when love is real, when it is truly genuine, everything you do to express it to the object of your affection, all of it will feel natural. Nothing will seemed forced or “out of your way”. Grand gestures? Sure. Romantic movies kind of scene? Sure. I think it will all be natural since it will be coming from the bottom of your heart. Waiting in the rain for her to open her window, if you’re in love that will feel natural. A musical number when you are trying to stop him to board that plane will certainly feel like a natural thing to do if you are in love. Suddenly all those whimsical things will make perfect sense to you if they are happening or you are doing them out of love.

 Open

I patterned this one to Lily and Marshall’s relationship. They are a couple in the show How I Met Your Mother. I believe true love is as open as theirs. Let me clear it a bit. I am not talking about an open relationship, I am just saying that when you are in love you are opening up yourself to the other person. Your mind, your body, your soul and your entirety. And with this openness will follow a lot of open doors.

Partnership

It takes two to tango. Partners in crime. Love is not sustainable if only one person will work on it and yes, love takes a lot of work. But nothing will be too much of a burden because two people are sharing the load and the weight of it all. Love is real if you can conquer together the ups and downs of it, key word : together.

But to be completely honest I do not think that partners should really do everything together. Sounds contradicting right but it’s true? In a partnership it does not have to be 2 persons are the same, they should complement each other. It is like the weakness of the other shall be filled with the strengths of the other part.

To visualize it, let us look at Penn and Teller’s partnership. Penn is the talker and Teller is the silent doer. Penn distracts and entertain the audience with his words while Teller does the magic tricks so smoothly. They do not have the same techniques they do not have the same skills but the two of them come together in a magnificent showcase.

Quality

Since love is an abstract concept, I refuse to believe that it can be quantifiable. It is not about the years. It is not about how much you spent, time, money and other assets. I think it is the value of what you get from all those materialistic things. 10 years, 10 months or 10 weeks, when love is true the numbers do not matter, what matters is the feeling and emotions involved in it. Some relationships may last 7 years only to end in a bitter note, some relationships seem short but evidently better than the others.

Respect

Any kind of relationship only works if there is an equal amount of respect for each and every party involved. I believe that in love, no matter how close you get, the respect should not be compromised and it should not be traded for anything else. Respect should only not for each other, the respect for yourself should also not be omitted.

Sacrifice

Sacrificing for another person is the most observable and tangible form of love. Moments will come in love a person should sacrifice something in favor of his or her love for the other person. They may come in little or petty things but they can also come in huge dressing.

The love of your life lives several miles from you. You sacrifice your convenience and come home to him or her everyday just to be together. That may seem simple and basic enough but that is still some kind of sacrifice.

Passing up a chance to go and work abroad because you don’t want to part is also a sacrifice. You are sacrificing the certainty of your future just to be with the person you love. Overseas workers do the opposite of that, they will sacrifice everything to give their families a brighter future so they work abroad. Those last two examples may look contradictory but sacrifices can come in different faces. It depends on the perspective of the one sacrificing.

Hey there!

I apologize that I had to cut it short again. As I said before, I myself find long articles a bit harder to read. Plus this way, you have a bit more time to process the information presented, and you have more time to compose your violent comments before the next one drops. And I promise, that the next partition of this article will be the finishing blow to this whole series.

Thank you very much for reading, again, I would love to hear from you, your thoughts, comments and even suggestions, you can drop them off on the comment section.

And as always, cheers!!!

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