“It's okay.”
“You're just over-reacting.”
“Just don't mind it.”
These are the words I heard often when I always talk about my feelings and or thoughts. Honestly, suffering from Anxiety is NO JOKE!
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is a feeling of fear. A feeling when you can't stop thinking of something that may lead you to stress (natural body's response from anxiety). You can say that you are suffering from it when you; excessively worry, can't rest due to overthinking and experienced difficulty in sleeping, feel nervous, easily get irritated, have impaired concentration and any action or feelings that you can't stay still.
When I first started in college, I haven't been feel pressured yet I already heard my friends/classmate share their problems (family, financial, studies) when they can't hold it any longer. And through this, it makes them feel better. But, UNTIL WHEN?
When months passed during my college years, I slowly experience having anxiety. Where it's so difficult for me to sleep, I easily get tired, irritated, and always think of "what's gonna happen tomorrow". That feeling when I can't even control my mind to stop overthinking and it's so uncomfortable. There, I realized that the *"it's okay"* phrase that we used to tell someone to make them feel better is not enough after all.
Have you experienced that moment when you just cry and don't even now the main reason? You just feel emotional all of a sudden then wiped your tears and immediately think about the "why's" then give yourself a pat and just forget afterwards.
Waking up everyday is one of the reasons why I keep fighting on because I know, I still have lot to do and I HAVE PURPOSE.
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What have I learned from my experience?
GIVE YOURSELF SPACE TO:
● Enjoy things alone.
Admit it that there's a part of you whose prefer to have some lone time! Spending time with yourself in a room with all the things that makes you comfortable and secured is GOOD (for some: stop thinking about your relationship status). Don't make your self get stressful! Because for now, all you need is a ME-TIME. This is the only time for you to appreciate your self, care for your self and love for your self.
Know your Self more and try out some things that you haven't tried before or things that once you really want to do. Make yourself a bucket list!
● Heal
Have you ever hated someone? Hated your self? Is there a thing that you can't stop thinking about or did something that wasn't right?
If you ever did, fix it! If you hated yourself because you have done something wrong, forgive your self. You can't move forward if it's keep bothering you around. Also, you must know how to say sorry, not just to forgive. Never let pride ruin everything. Because in life, you can't be genuinely happy if you're not totally healed.
● Have some rest from overthinking.
Can't stop thinking about it? Give yourself a break! Do those things that can make you feel YOU. Spend time with the people you love. Avoid thinking about haven't happened yet (tomorrows). Live as of the moment instead!
If there's something that you really want to have, just motivate your self. Never think about negative thoughts because this might lead you to failure as you will lose focus. Stop making expectations, too. And ever if you get failed, move forward. Because we must learn to ACCEPT things. Let's just bring the lessons and leave the heavy emotions behind.
You better appreciate life than drowning yourself from heavy deep thoughts.
● Cry because you're allowed to.
Never hold your emotions. Let it go!
Keeping your feelings inside will never make you feel better. You must tell them what's keep running in your mind. Don't hold your tears when you want to cry. And if you're a man, it's okay. You're allowed to! Always remember that it's okay not be okay. Give yourself a hug and always remember the people who loves you or make you happy.
● Breathe and realize things.
You can do this while you are having a lone time. Do meditate.
In situations like you haven't get along with someone, it's better for you to talk after some time or later. Never speak when you're upset because you might regret what you said. Have some time alone to think. Breathe. And realize things. In this way, you can find solutions easily.
Don't force things just for you to be okay.
● Feel.
There's no thime that you haven't misunderstood things.
Have you tried keep on yourself explaining but they keep on explaining their side, too?
Sometimes, we should know how to listen. Don't always think about saving yourself. Feel them and they will do they same as we can't solve things right away if you both are not on the same page.
Keep calm. Take a deep breath. And you will find happiness.
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HOW ARE YOU FEELING RIGHT NOW?
Do this question made you think? Try to ask someone how they're doing. Asking them about how they're going is one of the simplest way to make them feel better and loved. With that, they will feel comfortable to talk about their deep thoughts and or open up to you.
If you're a parent, you should make this as practice, too. Especially when they are aging to 10 and above as it is the time that they will slowly experience anxiety. This may came from his/her friends at school (bullying). Or maybe from your family or even with his/her own self. If they are not that easy to share their emotions, don't push them to express. Give them time to think.
Sometimes, a single HUG or touch means a lot better. Even when you give someone a sincere pat, they knew that it means COMFORT.
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EVERYDAY REMINDER: Always BE KIND to others. You don't know what's behind their curtains.
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© Photos are originally mine and the content inside this blog is from own experience.
PS: TYSM to @remofm for inviting me to join in this platform! 🤗
Welcome to read, martinamatz! Finally, you're here! Cheers!
I can totally relate you your blog. It didn't happen to me but to someone who really close to my heart. He experienced the same situation as yours last year when the lockdown was first implemented. It was really hard for us since we're far away from each other and we didn't know what he was going through. I invalidated his emotion without knowing the real cause. Until he talked about wanting to leave this world. And the first time I saw him months after the lockdown, he lost some weight. He looked unhealthy. I realized that there was something wrong. So, I researched on how to deal with people experiencing it. Fast forward to today, he was able to recover and control his emotions now. His also slowly went back to normal. Mental health really matters and we shouldn't set it aside.