Oppressive Love

Countless friends and family have talked about how difficult it is to build a love relationship in the 21st century. Many ran aground in the middle of the road, because of family pressure.

In my country, matchmaking is not in private hands. Family is very decisive. Religion and race are important elements. Love and commitment are not important. Religious differences destroy the love and commitment of many partners. Racial differences followed behind him.

Not only that, wealth has become one of the main benchmarks. If religion, race, and property do not match, parents are ready to oppressive.

What is being played with is guilt and the primitive concept of sin. Children who dare to oppose their parents will be accused of disobedience, even going to a hell that never actually exists.

Because of their love for their parents, and their lack of common sense, many children bow helplessly. They live in falsehood to avoid accusations of disobedience or the threat of hell which is just an empty dream.

The impact

There are four things to note. First, with this kind of relationship pattern, the resulting pain is enormous. Many relationships that are coerced by parents end up in sorrow. An affair happened. Domestic violence haunts families and attacks existing children. The mental health of family members is affected. Stress, depression, and even suicide have become commonplace that are hidden from the eyes of the wider community.

No wonder, globally, divorce touches more than 50 percent. Marriage then becomes a futile institution that produces only suffering.

Second, on a broader level, this pattern of marriage based on race, religion, and property divides the nation. The state and its ideology are only slogans, devoid of meaning. Society is divided between small groups that are suspicious of each other. The spirit of plurality and multiculturalism, which is the most important characteristic of my country, is also in danger of disappearing.

Third, this kind of relationship pattern is a form of racism. Certain races, religions, and economic levels are considered superior to others. Racism is the curse of modern civilization that was born in Europe, and then spread throughout the world. In my country, because of the lack of critical thinking education, racism is spread deeply and widely.

Racist nations are divided into nations. Conflict and even mass murder can easily ensue if these are kept in silence.

Fourth, this kind of shallow relationship pattern is a dehumanization process. Humanity is measured solely by race, religion, and economic level. This is a heretical view that has generated much suffering and war in the past. In the 21st century, such heretical views should be thrown away.

Why?

Two things cause it. First, fear is the root of austerity in thinking. The relationship between the two is reciprocal. Plurality is terrible because it is full of uncertainty. Equality, whether religion, race, or economic class, provides the illusion of security.

Many parents fall into such narrow thinking and superficial fear. They pressure and oppress their children to live according to their wishes. This is fake love that is oppressive.

Second, all of this has more roots in the weak political, economic, and educational system in my country. The state does not provide a sense of security and does not educate its people. On the other hand, the state often becomes an obstacle to the prosperity and intelligence of its citizens. The political elite is deprived of the real interests of the people, thus making destructive policies.

As a result, people have full hopes for their families. Religion, race, and property then seem to be the main thing to maintain the integrity and safety of the family. Dare to oppose out means to dare to betray. People are then released into the jungle of the wider community, without any protection from their families.

If you pay close attention, the family is often a source of great suffering and problems in the lives of many people. Only fear and narrowness of thinking that often bind many families in my country.

Then, how?

At a broader level, if the political, economic, and educational systems are strong, then the people will feel safe, smart, and prosperous. Many suffering and social problems will be naturally avoided. People don't need to lean blindly on oppressive families. The state is ready to care for all its citizens, without conditions, and without exception.

So, the political system, education, economy, and the pattern of loving humans remain inseparable. A quality country will give birth to a quality family, which will not oppress in the name of falsehoods of love, let alone oppress in the name of a lack of religious thinking.

Love then takes its true form. It is rooted in consciousness and humanizes humans.