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Am I ready for marriage? 💐💒
October 12 and 13, 2021 When I was a kid, I dreamt of wearing my beautiful wedding gown 👰 while walking down the aisle full of flowers. Then my groom will be waiting for me and we would vow to love each other forever💍. Then we will live happily ever after. And I woke up in reality: marriages are not made in heaven. Some of them are arranged, where the girl or boy would get rebellious and run away with the one they truly love. Other wives suffer from the scrutiny and manipulation of their in-laws. The Filipino culture is toxic and I grew up in a broken family. A night ago, I asked my partner, "Do you still want us to marry?", and he said, "Yes". "When?", I asked again. Then there was silence. He was sure of me but the million-dollar question is: am I ready to get married, is marriage for me? I don't know. But does my partner deserved it? Perhaps. **What are his qualities then?** *🤵* He is **loyal**- Fidelity isn't an issue with him. He never had a girlfriend for 14 years because he was "choosy". He doesn't play games and he believes in commitment. He **respects** women- He treats his mom with the utmost respect. He sacrificed his career so he could take care of his mom during her bypass operation and therapy. I believe how a guy handles his mother is a reflection of how he'll treat his woman. He is **hardworking**- He always does his best to provide for his family. He is good at managing his finances and is willing to skip meals or snacks so he won't ruin our budget. He is a **good** man- He is honest and is always truthful about his opinions and emotions. **If we're to wed, I want it in Starbucks Tagaytay. The motifs are maroon and dark blue. The guests are gonna be eating while we are having the ceremony and I am going to dance "Despasito" with my bridesmaids when it's done. I don't want hungry guests on my wedding day, by the way.** I am excited thinking about the wedding but am I really ready? 50/50. Why the hesitations? 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️ ✨Because I expect too much and I don't wanna be hurt and disappointed over and over again. So that I could escape when I cannot take things anymore and I don't wanna be controlled or manipulated. ✨Because I don't wanna have baggage forever, just like my father to my mother. I don't wanna suffer. ✨Because I need someone to be stronger than me, not the other way around. I had been through a lot of battles already. But why should I marry? 💍Because my children deserve a complete family. 💍Because God blesses a good marriage. Because Mr. J is a good man and is gonna be a good husband for sure. 💍Because I can try my best to be a better mom, wife, and partner. 💍Because marriage is a partnership and I trust Kuya J and I can work it out. I should stop overthinking and pressuring myself for now. I am ending this article with a quote **“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.”** —Franz Schubert How about you, were you ready for marriage? Can you share some tips on how to have a peaceful and happy marriage? Do you think I should marry or not? Your honest answers and opinions are appreciated. Thanks for your time and your kindness, my friends. Please visit my sponsors' page, these guys keep me motivated. And I do hope I am still worth their trust and support. **Ngotngot,** the fyrfinex The lead image was from Unsplash.
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Ang masasabi ko lang sis, wag kana mag alinlangan. Iba pa din kapag kasal :)..
Salamat sis, tama ka.
When the right time and the right man comes you'd definitely know it and you wouldn't be in doubts as to whether you're ready or not. Quick joke... I'm the right man for you and I'm asking for your hand in marriage...yes or no...make your choice..🤣🤣
I agree my friend..Wow, such a proposal, what can I say? Lol.
You are never totally ready, there are always doubts about it. There are always ups and downs, you just have to understand each other, tolerance and mutual respect.
Thank you, my friend. I need to practice more tolerance lol.
I guess no one is really a hundred percent ready for marriage. Marriage for me is an ongoing process. Both parties just got to be committed that through the years they will vow to love, care, uplift and support one another. Commitment and understanding that each party has a responsibility to fulfill is the key I guess. heheh
Thank you for that wonderful input sis, I feel better :)
Hoping that one day I can see you publishing an article describing your wedding. You deserve that. Take your time and have a happy family.
Thank you sis, I appreciate it :)
Ako din po ay lumaki na broken family po kami. Kaya po medyo may hesitation din po ako about marriage. Pero hanggat maaari po ay gusto ni mama na magkaroon po kami ng kapatid ko ng complete family in the future. And I could say wala naman pong imposible so baka po sa mga next article nyo ay tungkol na po sa wedding nyo ang inyong article. 💖🥰
Hard di ba sis kasi parang baka magfail din yung marriage mo, I'll just pray for it.
Opo medyo may hesitation po eh pero opo pray lang baka makuha po sa pagdadasal. 🙏
Thank you po :)
Lol, growing up in a broken family can make people think marriage is useless. I know because I too am part of such a family. When I grew up that's the only time I understood why there are marriages that fail. It is not easy being faithful to one person forever. Even with other things in life if we always have the same things all the time we tend to not like it anymore. That's when creativity to keep the marriage alive is important. Good luck when you get married, hehe. Hope you continue to stay together despite getting married soon.
Thank you sis, I have been thinking about it.
First of all i visited your profile today, and was reading your other articles. One thing is that you are better writer than me. Yeah, no doubt some marriage are arranged and according to me now a days no one is serious about full time relationship or rarely couple do love marriage in my country. Mostly here also arrange marriage custom. But according to me, love is good thing but arrange marriage is not bad idea. In few days both of those understand eachother than they fall in love that love is real love and never end.
I am not better than you, we just write differently my friend :) I hope our love will truly stand the test of time :)
Thanks for your words 😘
Welcome :)
Kung hindi ka pa po ready take time po sa pag-iisip pero huwg masyadong matagal baka mainip si mister hehe
Thank you po :) di pa 100 ready eh
Same tayo sis heheh. Iba din ako mag expect at ma disappoint. Atat na atat din ako dati mag pakasal pero reality hits so hard. Hahah as of now, hindi ko muna inoopen ang topic na yan sa partner ko haha. Baka kasi iisipin niya na pinipressure ko siya at ayaw ko nun. Hintay nalang tayo ng tamang oras sis hehe. Yung tipong magugulat nalang tayo na may pa surprise na luhod na si Mr. J. 😅
ahaha salamat sa tip sis, yeah yoko ng presuure
Growing up, I saw marriage as a very sacred ritual between two people. And as I grow older, reality hits so hard that marriage isn't always love, flowers and butterflies. It's very different now than what I had imagined in my childhood. And my mama, really instilled in me to choose better. Which kinda gives me pressure to make sure that my marriage would work. Like you sis, I'm also 50/50, I think I am ready and the next thing I'm not. My advice would be to wait for the right time. You don't have to rush it if one of you isn't a 100% ready to tie the knot. Trust me, it would just reflect on your marriage in the coming years if you rush too much.
Nicely said, thanks for the advice sis.
Heheh welcome sis. Napa dalawa pala comment ko sensya na heheh.
no worries sis :)