Hey, my teenage years. In those years I was very messy and in constant conflict with my family over the tidying up of my room, are those here who say? I confess that those years were a real trouble. Yes, I had my own order and I could find everything I was looking for, not losing anything. Although I was generally messy, my defense always worked from here. But was I messy at the end of the day? Yes, a lot!
And this was supposed to end.
We all keep accumulating things throughout our lives. When we do not place and eliminate what we collect in a certain order - I mean cliché is not a neat & collective definition - they cause a suffocating mess.
In today's materialist life conditions, we are exposed all day to advertisements that tell us what is necessary to be healthy, handsome, beautiful, happy and successful: You should buy that shoe, you should live in a house like this, your wife / job should provide you with the following opportunities and facilities... You have to go, do this exercise, you must be able to speak that language. And when the energy of our geographic karma accumulates on us with the consciousness of scarcity, added to these.
Those whose age is equal to my age will remember; For example, the fact that the second toilets, also known as small toilets in homes in the 90s, were mostly turned into warehouses, and even forgetting what all these things were kept in case of necessity after a while could be an example. And even the rotting of untouched bicycles in the garages, coal-like ground floors of the buildings, including the apartment I currently reside in, the storage of tiles that will never be needed, even if one day it is decided to be reassembled, mice, lice, fleas etc. The dismantled doors that could not be reinstalled in homes for fear that insects might have settled in, were too many for that time. All of this and more can make it easier for us to accumulate all kinds of things we don't need, and because of the emotional connection we have with them, it can make it difficult to break with them.
For many reasons, we may find ourselves paralyzed when we come to the stage of deciding what to keep or what to give up. All these accumulations may be our managers who shape our lives according to them instead of benefiting after a while.
I will never forget my parents said one day about my messy room that opened my mind to me; ‘You see the state of the room, right? The more messy your room is, the more messy your mind is. This mess is the visual occurrence of his mind. How would you like to start doing something about it with your mind? ”They were quite right.
Whether we want to give or not, we may actually have emotional ties to physical items that we want to give extra space in our wardrobe and home, or we can believe in the importance of the monetary value of our belongings. The main reason hiding behind this belief in our attachment to our belongings is fear. If you ask why, because what we have are embodiments of our memories, hopes and dreams. Symbols of what we have accumulated for who we are now and the person we want to be in the future. It is our status, comfort, trust with life, and yes, love, rather than our belongings that we are afraid of losing. That is why it is not surprising that it is not so easy to quit, especially for full moons, for new beginnings, for forgiveness, for all rituals with the intention of healing, maybe just for cleansing and refreshment.
Moreover, what we accumulate in our lives by forming the basis of mess and disorder is not just limited to physical things. There are also invisible ones that cause mental confusion, which degrade our joy of life and productivity. Almost all of those we hold on are based on fear and hope, whether physical or mental. E.g; The reason why saving money is a nice act at first glance may be to get away from the fear of feeling guilty for spending money and / or to be able to live in a better future with the fear of situations where money may be needed in the future. Perhaps we continue to keep what we buy, even if they no longer work, clinging to the idea that we may need one day just to justify the spending we have made with this hope and fear.
In one way or another, something accumulates in the vicious circle of fear, guilt, hope.
Organizing the clutter of the accumulation can allow us to take a closer look at ourselves and our cornerstones of our perception of life. Picking up confusion can mean reducing the excess in the closets of our homes or minds, confronting what we haven't achieved, cleansing from the finished relationships, jobs, and the toxic effects of everything that should or may not be finished.
When we narrow the lens down a bit and take a closer look, we can see that each of us has a unique story of the mess. We define our essence and keep it at a higher level of importance and cling more to what we build on our character and life styles, we accumulate more, and leave them more difficult. For someone who defines himself through the duo of career and achievement, his certificates, promotions and awards documents are primary bonds, while the common memories and gifts in mind for someone who defines his life through the need to be loved and loyalty to his loved one and loved one can be the ones that should not be abandoned under any circumstances.
At other times, this confusion, which makes our minds blurry, prevents us from finding what we are looking for at home or in the office, lowers our concentration and makes us feel like everything is coming upon us, it can be the curtain in front of those we do not want to face. We can use this clutter as a coping method in order not to clearly see the real problem we need to deal with, not to deal with what we need to deal with. His definition is just as complicated as he is, isn't it? There is a problem we are avoiding to solve. We take advantage of clutter as a method to avoid confrontation with it, pretending that it is not there because we cannot see it in a crowd of people in which it is difficult to find something. I don't know if you have ever looked at the mess and what you have accumulated in your soul or living spaces with this eye, but not letting go and accumulating our feelings and thoughts behind our actions can make it easier to recognize and get rid of it when we see the creator of the mess and confusion.
We all have areas where there is a red line. We don't have to have a horrible experience to pull the line. Maybe a wedding gift from a deceased loved one, maybe if you try to buy something that a friend gave you because he didn't use it, and if we don't use an item that is so expensive that you can't easily afford it, just dust and clutter will be part of the clutter. I'd say let's set our limits right now.
Boundaries are also important for our feelings and thoughts about our old friend, ex-girlfriend, old workplace. The past, that is, what is gone. Holding on to these will mean building obstacles to the present, where we create the future we choose to accumulate for the sake of what we hope. That is why it is important to leave the past that we cannot change.
Just in case. Let it stay here. Can we allow all these sentences to be precautionary and to see that the extra precaution taken when there is no situation to fight and escape in the environment is loaded with anxiety? Trusting the future even a little more than it is now means diminishing anxiety and rising joy of life right now.
Your handicrafts that were started and unfinished before too long as you can not remember the starting date in the corner on the shore; You may have braids, pictures, repairs. You may have projects, initiatives. Staying in front of our eyes with that state will only trigger our feelings of failure and inadequacy. Remembering that we have the right to choose, we can get closer to who we are and become even stronger by taking them forward and completing them in priority, or turning to areas where we completely abandon them and easily complete.
If it has inspired a little, come to you in this conversation, feel free to dive into the pool of your mess. Let the mess get mixed up with your presence in the mess. Let's do an exercise to raise our awareness of what to keep and what to get rid of. The smallest free space we create may mean better mental and body health, a more confident state, more joy of life.
So what should you hide and what should you give up?
Hoarders are the prime example of the emotional ties you create with items, granted they are taken to the extreme in this case. However. I also had problems cleaning my room even with no emotional attachments to the cotton which would populate the ground. :P My mom always tried to have me make the bed daily, but recent research demonstrated making your bed is actually worse for your health, so in your face mom! :P