I Walk the Dark Streets of Expatriation
**Again, I spend the days in the streets of this expatriate in a boredom while pouring out with all my loneliness.**
These days, a German man I meet every morning says "Morgun" every time I pass.
His face sometimes scares me, why? I read a book called "Treblinka Hell". In this book, he described how Hitler tortured innocent people and drowned them in gas chambers and threw them in furnaces while they were alive.
What is described in this book is horrible. I wonder what date people had this brutality on children
But here is the truth, there is a truth that has been seen.
That's why this country frightened me. Maybe there is no such thing now, but now there is xenophobia. There are attacks on the roads and sometimes I am afraid again.
But I have beliefs and prayers in me, God protects me.
Sweetheart,
When I get home, I put my flag on the wall and the pictures on there console me a bit. Sometimes I feel so full and tired of the pain of separation that I talk to them first, that is, with pictures ... I find some comfort and then go to bed immediately. Good thing I'm sleeping. Otherwise, the unbearable pain will not keep me alive! Now if you know how my hands and eyes burn as you write these lines.
How much strength God has given people to endure. Otherwise, how to endure such pain and fatigue.
My dear, maybe I could not write these lines to you anymore. You ask why ?
One evening I was returning home tired again. I was walking in the middle of the road, I do not know how it happened, a woman and a rather old woman suddenly grabbed my arm and threw me aside, we both got away. I narrowly avoided being under the tram.
Yes, there was someone who always protected me.
Sweetheart,
On some weekends, we would go to a relative who was far away from us and stay there if we couldn't get back early. If you know, this change is good for me these days, I would be happy.
When I came to this house, it was as if I was getting my own family. there were five girls in the house.
He was sleeping in the same room with them, and if you knew, that day was going by completely different. It's like a feast day. We were already going to them on holidays. We had nobody else around here.
Already in the loneliness of the expat, if you have a relative, it was a big thing. I was getting a little bit hopeful and happy in his longing heart.
Coming to and from work continued at full speed. I was opening the workplace at six in the morning and I was working here alone until half past eight, until the employees arrived.
These two and a half hours belong to me while I was doing things in the morning, listening to a cassette, having breakfast while listening to him, watching around on the busiest street of the bazaar in this glass-covered workplace. Then my friends came one by one and work fatigue started.
Thus, the support of my friends and my whole day of work with them distracted me, so the days were a little happy.
I send my warm love and greetings, my dear, from the cold, cold evenings of expatriation. Again with that sad song for you.
Sometimes We Need To Chat With Your Senses
Everyone's thing is their own, right? That thing is also a part of us, it's a fact whether you admit it or not. I chat with my thing from time to time. While I am chatting with him, he does not make any sound anyway, and I go to bed laughing. First, I grasp it with my hand, pull it gently, and then I say, "**Look, my ears do not hear everything at some times, my dear esteemed ear, let these be earrings for you**" believe me, he listens with all his ears.
You were suddenly surprised. I got it, you got stuck with my thing. I also understood that. You thought it was something else, that is my famous thing, you are very bad, that thing is my ear, it is not what you think it is, do I ever write my thing here, shame on it! Would you expect something like that from me? I know you don't expect it.
That thing sometimes happens to be my ear, sometimes my nose, in some cases my toes, sometimes my hair, some eyebrows. My elbows, knees, pupils. We chat with my organs endlessly.
I take my eyes in some place. `` Either my eyes or even my two eyes have seen many things with you for years, but we have also seen what we do not want to see, they killed people mercilessly, they tormented women and children, what do you say to these things? '' Like a housewife, she would send her smacking drops to the earth.
Come see my feet. You are also one of my organs that I sometimes call something. Even though you sometimes take me to places that smell of sin, it is still my fault, and you rightly say, "If you didn't go, so did you, brother." Sometimes the territorial waters come down to my feet, believe me, I still love you. Even though my friends say to me "Let these feet have stinking" from time to time, I don't mind them either. "Socks smell, not feet," I say.
So you understand it, as it is, I don't have one thing, I have a lot of things, and I chat with my things when my head is broken, not spoiled, when I am happy, eating, lying down, and sometimes asleep. Understand, with my organs. At first we have no business with the organ that you misunderstood, and shame, we are not able to write it here either, do not do it for me anymore.
A psychiatrist said, "Nowadays, everybody is talking with the walls, it is okay, if you think he is talking to you on the walls, then go to a psychiatrist". Ours is that account too, I am chatting with my things, my organs, and God does not answer me for now. And imagine that they are answering, then it is the picture that we are on fire.
Let's Understand the Alarms Our Body Gives
The effects of stress, which is present in almost every aspect of our lives, on us are increasing day by day. Every day we meet a new alarm system given by our body. Burnout syndrome is one of them.
Burnout syndrome is when a person tries to do things over his / her capacity for a longer time than he / she can handle, and as a result, he / she becomes exhausted and suffers from concentration and self-confidence problems, and suffers from serious decrease in performance. Although it has been a concept in our lives for the last few years, burnout syndrome is a common condition.
One of the most important areas that cause burnout syndrome is business life. Intense work tempo and stressful work life cause the person to be exhausted both physically and mentally after a while. Everyone has a certain capacity for the pace of work and the responsibilities they can take. Working for a long time at a pace that exceeds this limit, the intense stress that comes with it, and the person pushing himself to the end to manage them cause the person to be both physically and mentally exhausted.
**Burnout syndrome occurs over time**
Burnout syndrome does not occur all of a sudden. In time, the final point is reached by passing through certain stages. While everything was as it should be, gradually the expectations from the person exceed a certain level and the person is exposed to the constant rain of demand. This person tries to catch up with work beyond his capacity for a long time, tries to do whatever is asked of him, and starts to neglect himself while doing this. It ignores basic needs.
While the responsibilities of the person increase, there is no change in his powers and an imbalance occurs between the two. This causes an imbalance within the person. In addition to all this, this person tries to keep up with everything and after a while he starts to be unable to say no to what is asked of him. This situation makes things even more difficult. Thus, the internal resources that people use to achieve their goals and fulfill their responsibilities are exhausted by this person. We can compare this situation to transforming into a robot that acts not in line with one's own decisions and needs, but with the wishes and directions of others.
**Constant feeling of fatigue, inadequacy, and failure**
During such an intense and stressful process, the feeling of tiredness and exhaustion prevails. Failure to reach the set goals and not keep up with the expectations causes disappointment and frustration. For this reason, a serious shock occurs in the person's self-confidence. In this process, concentration problems, feelings of failure and professional inadequacy, and feelings of worthlessness in the eyes of others are frequently observed. In addition, physical symptoms such as drowsiness, persistent headaches, pain in various parts of the body, palpitations are also experienced. The weakening of the immune system in this process also causes the person to get sick frequently. All this leads to a serious decrease in the satisfaction of the person from life.
**Possible to deal with burnout syndrome**
Burnout syndrome is a condition that you can control with small changes in your life. First of all, finding resources that make you feel exhausted should be the first step you take. Thus, you can make the necessary changes in the right places. Your second step should be to identify and implement these changes. For example, if confusion about your job responsibilities makes you feel exhausted, ask your manager to clarify them. Clarifying your job description will help resolve the confusion you are experiencing. However, give no to the answer more in your life and make sure you define your limits clearly.
No matter how important and prominent your work is, don't let it get into other areas of your life. Of course, from time to time, you may need to devote some of your private life to your work. However, this situation should not be continuous. Let your work stay there.
It is very important to take care of your body while feeling physically and mentally exhausted. You can achieve this through the food you eat, your sleep patterns, your walking or exercise. These little touches will make a big impact with your other moves.
Finally, as important and necessary as your job and responsibilities may be, remember that no matter what your priority is, you should always be you. If you do not take care of yourself, you will not be able to do what you want in your work and in other areas of your life. No matter how intense you are, don't forget to take time for yourself, stop and breathe for a short while.
Taking action for our happiness Our most important responsibility
Our purpose for existence in our lives is much more than saving the day, we are all high-meaning beings. That's why memorized rituals work just as well as cheating on an exam. That's why it doesn't work to repeat what everybody does without feeling anything just because everyone else does it or just because we can. While there are so many rituals available in these times of technology and knowledge, it is partly because what some of us fall in love with means nothing to others.
Whatever our choice for this year, under all circumstances, what we need is to take our own responsibility as never before. How were your school years, I don't know. Are you one of those who cheat or who cheat? Maybe you were not in either group and you were very angry with both the giver and the withdrawal. Regardless of the group you are in, you will remember that the cheating system works more easily in written exams and that it does not work with the same efficiency in verbal. After all, even though the same questions were asked to all of us, the fact that a friend of ours solved the question did not make everyone pass the class, and it could not. The place we can reach by cheating is as much as the continuity of the copy source; We all know that this is not infinite either.
It is said that rights and freedoms will be at the forefront more than ever in this new year as we enter the Aquarian age. Of course, with the prerequisite that we can protect these values in order to defend and protect them.
One of the most important goals of our lofty meaning in life is to reach our own depths. As you know, the bottom is completely silent and free from the sound of waves on the surface, birdsong, ship engines, and everything like the surrounding city noise. However, in the crowded and polyphonic world, it is not possible to easily hear the voice of the person next to us, to hear our inner voice and connect with it. For this reason, the most important part of the journey to live is the part that needs to be walked alone at times. Only then will it be possible to hear the polyphonic orchestra inside, separate the notes from each other and separate the tunes and bad sounds.
Keywords that can make all this possible; taking our own responsibility. Choosing to take on our responsibility will be the step towards transforming our lives completely and living the longed-for happiness by getting free from everything that does not make us feel uneasy, unhappy, belonging to the space we are in.
Monk **Swami Vivekandanda** “***We are responsible for what we are and what we want ourselves to be. We have the power to make ourselves*** ”he says.
Yoga can teach us to bring out this power to take our full and total responsibility in our lives. Being aware of what is happening moment by moment as we move on the mat, keeping the breath in the focus of attention, is the first step that teaches us to be responsible and to be confident in ourselves. Our bodies don't lie to us, they can't tell us. Everything that happens at that moment can be noticed by sensations and is real.
Hence the term in its own limit. Just because another friend with whom we share the class performs a pose at a deeper physical boundary does not mean that we can, and more importantly, do. Just as our classmate solving the question did not make the whole class pass that lesson. For precisely these reasons, we can only do border research by letting ourselves be heard and free from outside sounds.
Well, even though you are someone who intends to purify, do yoga or follow rituals regularly, you sometimes call yourself to yourself as in that song, "Is there something missing in my life?" do you find him asking? Even if you have a better job, a better home, a better income, maybe a better partner relationship than before, are those gnawing times familiar, struggling with insufficiency, maybe an individual feeling of inadequacy? As you enter this feeling of insufficiency, a state of deprivation that can be passed on by achieving more in life, such as photographic poses (maybe flexibility, maybe natural predisposition, maybe muscle strength, maybe exercise history, etc.) not.
Our journey of life is more about getting more, it's about knowing more and being who we really are. Our longing for more, and worse still, our dissatisfaction will never end unless we make the choice to take responsibility to be ourselves.
If we have not learned to accept ourselves, even if we somehow capture moments of happiness, we will still be ourselves who do not allow us to enjoy it. Nothing will ever be enough for us unless we choose it from the heart. And if we still catch ourselves thinking that something is missing in our lives, relationships, jobs, we'll probably be that missing self. Ourselves who are not fully present in the moment. Because happiness involving satisfaction requires that we fully participate in our lives right now.
Our need that enlightens the way of all decisions, all wishes for the previous years, this year, for all the years to come; volunteering to take responsibility for our own happiness and health as a whole. This responsibility is the only thing that will contribute to the furthest from our closest contact with the butterfly effect. Moreover, in this way, while fulfilling our responsibility in karma, we will be inviting the heightened consciousness and peace from now to the future.
**As Nietzsche said:** "Love your destiny, because that's actually your life."
We Are Trying To Carry God's Trusts
My newly brewed coffee is right next to me right now. I left my cat to the flow of a song I love very much. There are a lot of words waiting to be written in front of me. It is not clear where I will go. Here I am, right now. I am living perhaps one of the most enjoyable moments in the world. My coffee, my music and words that I know will reach you. The white page opened in front of me. I'll talk about maybe twenty years ago, maybe yesterday. Maybe tomorrow I will tell about my dreams, my fears, my worries that I could not be. But still this joy. This moment is so inexplicable for me… This coffee scent that surrounds the room. The winter breeze coming from outside
One step back, one step only. Look at your running, constantly moving, constantly talking body. Look one step back at the movements of his eyes, the shaking of his feet, his calm imitating rush, the harmonious / dissonant movements in his body.
Watch as much as you can, don't comment, don't try to ignore it.
Do you see the flutter there? Can you notice the disappearance there?
Now enter the mindroom where the thoughts are spinning, as you approach, is its noise heard from afar, as if you entered a crowded hotel lobby?
Stand in a corner and listen to your voice, your parents, your loved one's voice over and over again. Don't answer, just listen.
**What are you feeling Is it tiring? Is he calm?**
Now go out again and watch your body again, see the movements that synchronize with the thoughts. Where does your gaze go as the voice criticizing you speaks in your body? How do your hands, feet, shoulders stand or move? What posture does your whole body take?
I want to take a closer look at the pleasure issue with you today. Most of the time, pleasure seems like a big word to us. It sounds very troublesome. Perhaps, enjoying life is a very cliché concept for some of us. Despite everyone, I want to have fun with you in this article today. Let's think a little more about enjoyment.
My first question is: Is the pleasure so troublesome? So when we think of a day, how much do we enjoy when we review a normal day? For example, how much do we enjoy waking up in this beautiful house, healthy when we wake up in the morning? If we have a morning ritual, for example taking a short walk, for example taking a shower, for example hugging our children, how much do we enjoy being able to do it one more morning even though we have done this every morning?
Take a step back, a little more.
Do you see the body that cannot lift its own head?
Do you watch those who do not hear outside, listening to their own voice?
I understand your tiredness, the places where you feel helpless exhausted from the war.
I see, you see what you are alone with. Isn't it pointless and in the air to say come on out of there? I know.
Our questions do not end with this, of course, how much do we enjoy being able to walk by ourselves and be one of the lucky ones who can perform this action alone in the world? If the routine events that await us, were taken away from us, would the joy and happiness in our lives change anyway? For example, if we woke up one morning and saw that we were unconfirmed to ourselves from the bed, would we talk about our routines that didn't give us pleasure like that? When we wake up every morning, would we sigh with exasperation thinking that we are together again one more morning, if the person we love had not been with us every morning? Or would we focus on enjoying that moment as if it were the first day? At that time, what we call routine today, these moments that we can not even think about whether we are enjoying anymore, these people, these events, in short, could our lives give us a little joy and happiness?
You too go now beside your body, touch your shoulder and say; I know.
Touch your hands, arms, your whole body and relax, as if comforting a friend. Calm him, he is God's entrust to you
Watch with that compassion, watch with that value, love with that eye, quietly.
Respect the anguish of those trying to carry the trust, appreciate their effort. Remember, we all know what the stone he puts under his hands is.
Can you say I'm with you like a friend?
Does an infinite compassion flow from your heart by itself?
Could you take a look at the state of affairs "in spite of" his painful wound "in spite of his effort, his belief in himself, his war, his strength, his unconcerned state ready to go on?"
*"****You****" trying to carry the trust of God, the seed of existence, will you take care of yourself?*
Do nothing, just look.
Be there with him, yourself
Every person is a custodian. Sometimes it is difficult, sometimes it is easy to carry. But no matter what and how, love is among those who do not end their efforts and do not give up. It is eternal, matter-time-independent love.
**A bit of it is entrusted to us.**
**It is both our gift and our trust.**
**From the one who carries the trust to the one who carries the trust.**
**With reverence before our own power.**
Learning to Understand Change and Adapt Quickly
I have a good book recommendation. **'Who Got My Cheese?'** Have you read his book named? On the cover of the book, besides a piece of cheese, it says “**An effective way to adapt to change in your work and private life**”. I don't remember when I bought this book, but I can clearly say that it is one of the most influential books on change. It's thin and has a strong story inside, which you will never forget once you read it.
2020 was a great experience of change and transformation in itself. It has trained us all to adapt to change in such a way that we entered 2021 with a completely different inner power. Those who understand change and learn to adapt quickly to it will gain in every period. The good news is that it's a skill and it can be learned!
**Change is happening all the time. Be aware!**
If you begin to watch life carefully, you can see that all the great changes are made up of small changes that happen every day. I want to explain this with an example from business life. The great digital revolution we are experiencing in 2020 has actually been screaming for many years. Companies that adapt their systems to the era on time have made a great acceleration in 2020. Those who did not want to leave the comfort zone and constantly postpone the requirements of the time either collapsed or had great difficulties because they had to install the digital systems they had to install years ago in a short time like a few months.
Change is happening right now and there are big innovations that will be revealed a couple of years from now. If you pay your attention to these little changes today, you can anticipate what is coming and be prepared for the future.
This applies not only to the business world, but of course to all areas of life. For example, you know that you have been having problems in communication for a long time, but somehow you do not start working on this subject. One day you encounter the love of your life and your relationship ends in a few weeks because you cannot overcome your communication problems. Wasn't love an experience you dreamed of? Then you should be preparing for the day when it comes. Are you on the same frequency as the experience you imagined? If you are not, you will not be able to stay in that experience for a long time. You should be able to change with it. If what you are looking for is truly heartfelt love, you should be able to receive the love that is offered to you today, to give love. If that's what you are looking for, enhance your experience with love in any way you can today. Learn to give and receive love.
If you live with the awareness that change is constantly happening and you make small, small changes every day, just like life does, you can seize the opportunities life presents. It is very important for you to understand that every minute and second we have tremendous opportunities, but we are missing those precious moments as we do not make the changes we should have made long before this opportunity arrives. For those who are ready to live, changes are pregnant with amazing experiences.
**The sooner you forget the old, the easier you will enjoy the new.**
I see a lot of people I meet living in the past. Filling the present with the past is like never taking a step into the future. The past is just a part of time that needs to be visited occasionally to learn and gain a better grasp. The only time we can be creative is now because our breath and body live in the present. We realize creation with our body. Where it is not there can be no creation. The future is a collection of visions and consists of infinite possibilities. Now, with the choices we make now, we begin to realize the infinite possibilities in the future. Yes, not choosing is also a choice, and when we do not choose a different possibility, life continues to flow in the direction you are living now.
If your current life does not fill you with peace, and if you live in the past most of your time, ask every day to open up different and new possibilities: “**How does it get better than this? What else is possible?** " Ask yourself and do not rush to answer. The answer is an energy and it comes into your life in many different forms. Trust and keep your eyes open to notice the changes happening now. The sooner you forget the old, the easier you will enjoy the new.
**You will either be one of those who complain, or those who adapt to change and flow in harmony with life. The first is a boring and repetitive life, the other is with miracles. The choice is yours, and it has always been that way.**
Significant Benefit of Working with a Professional Life Coach
I think the point that makes me the most happy about my work is to hear sincere and spontaneous comments from the people we work with about the coaching processes and their impact on their lives. I did a lot of research before I started professional coaching training, so I had an idea of what coaching is. I have to admit that I was actually wrong.
Since then I have been telling everyone I have spoken to about professional coaching that coaching is not a process that can be fully understood without experiencing it. In addition, I would like to mention what coaching is and the benefits of coaching for those who think that they may need such support in their life, but who do not know or are not sure what it is.
Based on my personal experience, I would like to share that the most important benefit of a coaching relationship is that it creates a space where the person can rest with curiosity, without judgment and sincerity. So much so that thinking aloud, questioning and sometimes having difficulties in this period when the focus is only on you will help you find the keys to many locks in the process. Einstein has a saying I love, "**You cannot solve a problem with the level of consciousness that brought it up**". Here, the coach's presence reflects you, makes you aware of your perspective and helps you change it if necessary.
First of all, we are witnessing the use of the title of coach in many different areas today. Sports teachers, nutrition consultants, people who give directions to people's hands in a certain area and follow them whether they do or not are even called coaches. However, the coaching I will talk about here will be professional coaching. On the other hand, ICF (International Coaching Federation) defines coaching as “a partnership relationship with the client in a creative process that inspires, encourages thinking, and is creative to maximize personal and professional potential, which is particularly important in today's uncertain and complex environments”.
You might say, what are we talking about in coaching sessions? To answer very simply, we are actually talking about whatever you want to talk about you and your life. For example; your dreams and goals you want to achieve, your obstacles on this path, how you can live your life happier, more balanced and fulfilled, your desire to reduce the chaos in your life and put it in order, a habit / habit that you do not like or disturb, when you think you are at the turning point, issues you cannot solve, decisions you cannot implement, relationships you want to fix. These are all issues that you can solve by getting coaching.
*The holistic mentor plays an important role in the customers' self-improvement as well as in their own development. There will be tremendous changes in the individual's existence if it fully fits into the projects they plan clearly for their clients.*
By helping the client to move his current situation forward in a healthy way and to make progress in all areas of his life, it guarantees the full disclosure of the possible resource in the individual.
In all everyday matters, individuals can have assumptions that they will come from time to time without monitoring their hidden capacity. The holistic mentor plays an important role in making this potential decision, just as empowering the individual to better design and exploit this potential for the future. However, the commitment of the holistic mentor is not limited to these. If there is no arrangement in the individual's current workplace or didactic design, the person in question draws a different path based on his current situation.
Obviously, a holistic mentor does not focus on the business life of the people who take over it. It can serve by evaluating the general situation of the client from a wide variety of perspectives, such as enthusiastic connections, daily life, educational life and efficient use of time.
Ultimately, the challenge is to fully assess the customer's current position and goals and to advance the current situation in the most ideal way in line with their goals. In this unique situation, the mentors make a comprehensive assessment and deliver the optimum result for the client in a short period of time.
In addition, mentors working vividly on hesitations empower the individual to decide on the best option by evaluating the issues they are indecisive. This assumes that it plays an important role in expanding selection tools. Therefore, they ensure the permanent development of the electoral system.
The more dynamic and persuasive the client is in friendly relations will intellectually help the client make further progress in the mentor's recommendations in his life. Therefore, it can be one of the tasks of the holistic mentor in research aimed at improving social relationships.
**What does the coaching relationship aim to bring to the person?**
*-To clarify thoughts and raise awareness.*
*-To create an environment where the person is heard impartially and without judgment.*
*-To ensure that strengths are discovered.*
*-To gain different perspectives with the right questions.*
*-To increase the ability to live happily and successfully.*
*-To reveal the resources needed.*
*-To support the person to take a step.*
*-Developing self-confidence.*
*-To help the person to identify the method that goes to his goal with his own observations.*
*-To trigger the process of generating solutions by activating thoughts and to realize transformation.*
*-Introducing the person himself / herself with unknown aspects.*
**Who am I? What do I really want? How do I want to be? What do I expect from life? Do the goals I want to achieve serve my true purpose? These are important questions that we don't usually take time to think about in daily life, but that will help us navigate. Therefore, anyone who wants to know, understand and develop better can get coaching support.**
To Be Someone Other For To Be Happy and Healthy
The photos, nutrition and exercise routines of those doing yoga and meditation on social media maybe open up and encourage you. Maybe you have difficult living conditions, on the contrary, it is impossible to start and continue without that much repulsive and material and spiritual relief. There may even be times when you think all awareness and momentary rituals are exaggerated. Whether you care or find it repulsive, the result does not change. At the end of the day, you may be one of those who feel as if the secret of a happy and healthy life has been given somewhere and hidden from you.
***If so, this conversational post is for you.***
Therapists, breath coaches, life coaches, yoga instructors, meditation instructors, almost all the healthy and well-being school, and in many areas, resources, visual and print media that are or are not related to them, everyone has achieved an awareness, and we are going.
Do you think you have to be someone other than you are to be happy and healthy?
Let's stop seeing the perfect state of awareness in every moment of life as an ideal that you have fallen short of or rejected. The truth is that we are all perfect as we are. The field of awareness is quite wide and its content is not limited to sensory perception moments. For example, during a business or private life conversation with someone, awareness is more about empathy and ethics than just listening. Or when we're driving or going from place to place at home or on the street, awareness is about knowing where and why we're going.
In automatic movements without awareness, you may ask "**Why did I come here?**" you may find yourself asking. Whether it's home cleaning or office work, mindfulness is about knowledge, care and precision while working. If all these definitions have made staying in that famous moment, making the state of awareness more sympathetic, more real, accessible and more importantly useful in your eyes, maybe you can say yes to exploring the areas of awareness now. If your answer is yes, let's continue.
*In fact, all we need is for our action to be calm, steady and nurturing.*
We do not have to stop the world outside the main point of action in order to be aware. Let it stay as messy as it is. If it helps you to have music playing in the background while doing any job, if you know, perceive and feel it, keep it open and listen. Make it the object of your awareness, too. Making what we are aware of is the subject of our attention, not necessarily to see every little detail during the activity. Trying it out would have been like living life in slow motion anyway. It is a state of focusing on noticing the direction, path, and journey of the activity. It becomes an opportunity to look at what happens when we choose to include rather than exclude. In this way, we can get the chance to include and enjoy other things that we have excluded in our lives without having very deep knowledge about them.
The functioning of our minds is like other living things trying to survive. While his mind is intense and active, you may be exhausted by the downsides of this. On the other hand, if you are a person who lives mostly in the mind while your complaint continues, the stress of staying in the present regularly may be suppressing the peace promised to you, despite the insistence of the mind to satisfy the need for nourishment with the past and the future. This suppression effort is "How and when will I plan my future if I stay in the moment?" You can make your minds questioners of such questions.
If the future of the past is our present, we are building what we call the future today and planting its seeds today. Do you think that remembering that sowing the seeds of today from peace and happiness away from pain is creating the future will alleviate your rebellious feelings about this?
If you have come this far, you may be one of those who think that he has succeeded, even though there is no such thing as achieving, or he will not succeed even if he tried. Meditation may not have made you feel as promised at all. The biggest challenge may have been sitting upright rather than sitting upright, following your own breath, over which you think you are relatively in control, which should bring you to the moment when your mind becomes cloudy and your attention is distracted. Perhaps you have experienced the biggest disappointment and dissatisfaction here.
If you are a beginner to practice, realize that you are only dreaming when you dream. Be aware of your dream this time. Be with it. Then allow yourself to congratulate yourself on noticing that you are dreaming. As a result of the meditation experience, which you saw before, perhaps as an effort to be an impossible vain in city life, you are simply attentive and aware at that moment. This awareness will now give you the choice between continuing your daydreams and returning to the original object of your concentration that you never really had before.
The importance of awareness comes from the fact that it is the key to the gateways between choices, even if we think it is otherwise without it, we are only passive servants of our desires, our circumstances, our dreams, our fears and anxieties, of the myriad things that the mind reveals.
Hopefully, and maybe you've lowered some of the bias sacks on your back until you get here along the way. Well, one more mind question; Is it our last need to get tired and overwhelmed to maintain the sense of calm we can acquire during awareness when life is still difficult enough as it is? The fact that we do not want to see the unsatisfied parts of our lives and the painful and painful parts of our bodies that we do not want to be in our bodies are our main reasons for anger and depression. In fact, feelings of depression and frustration are the ideas we have about what awareness is, what it should look like, and our judgments about not being realized. For precisely these reasons, it would only be disappointing to try to control the mind with the mind again.
In fact, no thought repeats as it is, and it is still thoughts that think thoughts. Doing this is similar to the relative motion theory in physics. While you are sitting in a bus, when the bus moves forward, you see the tree standing still on the roadside as going back. However, the bus you are in is a tree rather than a moving bus. Meditation does not mean to wage war on our thoughts. Thoughts are also part of this whole awareness journey. They are absolutely no problem. The only problem is that we get caught in them and think they stop and act ourselves.
**If we are to collect it completely, perhaps staying at the moment you have already discovered, perhaps choosing to stay at a certain distance, awareness in daily life and vehicle meditation experience can be the mediator of a wider and more spacious life experience within the same square meters.**
Treat Yourself Well with Conscious Self-Care
**I want to start my article with a good question.** What did you last do to make yourself happy? So when was the last time you spent quality time alone with yourself? I know you don't have time. There are bills you have to pay, presentations you have to produce. You are in a constant rush. You have time for everything in your life, for everyone except yourself.
It often happens to me when I teach stress management. When I come to the parts where I talk about the effects of our self-care habits on our stress level in education and say that we should make taking good care of ourselves a lifestyle, I hear sentences from my clients, "Mrs, you say very well, but I don't have time to spare for myself and do good things for myself." Most people constantly criticize themselves, lead a sedentary life, not eating healthy, not getting enough sleep. This list goes on and on. So most people have time to mistreat themselves, but not when it comes to treating themselves well. So why do you think this is?
The answer to this question may be hidden in our childhood. If we were raised by a family that often criticized us as children, did not approve of our existence, did not give us the healthy love we need, neglected our emotional and physical needs, it is not surprising that when we grow up we turn into adults who do not treat ourselves very well, moreover, do not know what self-care is. If your family did not give enough attention to your emotional and physical needs as a child, now you may not be giving yourself the care you deserve. You may see it as selfish in taking good care of yourself and taking time for yourself.
If you have had this type of childhood, perhaps the reason you are not taking care of yourself right now and saying “**I don't have time for yourself**” is related to your childhood. Yes, none of us can change the past, but now as an adult you have the power to change your present. You can also do this through conscious self-care. Conscious self-care adds the concept of “**conscious awareness**” to the self-care components.
Conscious self-care is the application of a person's self-care practice with conscious awareness. Some studies have revealed that conscious self-care practices such as breath awareness can protect students from the harmful effects of stress. Conscious awareness and conscious relaxation are practices that are at the center of conscious self-care. Conscious self-care is a self-repetitive process that involves conscious awareness and reviewing the inner needs of the person and engaging in specific self-care practices that will be good for the person.
Conscious self-care consists of the following categories: physical care (adequate consumption of water and food, exercise, etc.), supportive relationships, conscious awareness, self-compassion. and purpose, conscious relaxation and supportive structure.
You can start by making a self-care plan to pay more attention to yourself and your needs. Self-care is generally divided into five categories: physical, psychological, workplace self-care, social and financial self-care. Score between 1 and 10 in all of these categories to understand how well you take care of yourself. For example, what do you do for your physical self-care?
But what are the activities you do for your psychological self-care? In what category do you need to improve yourself? The path to true happiness and well-being is through the balance of all these self-care categories. All these categories are interrelated. For example, our psychological self-care while not paying attention to our financial self-care ultimately affects our psychology. So let's try to correct the imbalance in any category of self-care and really take good care of ourselves in every aspect of our lives. Again, let's make use of activities aimed at relaxing the mind, such as meditation or yoga, to bring the concept of conscious self-care into our lives.
You may not have received the physical and emotional care you needed from your family in your childhood, but come on, take care of your adulthood and start taking care of yourself in every way. Do your mental and physical self-care activities every day. Remember, if we have time to behave in a way that doesn't feel good to ourselves, we also have time to be nice to ourselves.
Negative Positivity Adds Optimism
Optimism is hand in hand with truth and accuracy. Life is full of setbacks and difficulties, big and small. When we face all these difficulties, we give some reactions to them. There are some explanations we make in our internal system. These are all our own comments based on what we have learned before, and we are absolutely correct in these comments. All these explanations determine our behavior and the results we get.
In my previous article I said that our learned helplessness restricts our lives and perhaps prevents us from realizing our true potential to life. ***Martin Seligman***, who also laid the foundations of Positive Psychology, says that we can move from learned helplessness to learned optimism by strengthening our cognitive skills, and that this approach will make our lives easier and create better quality happy relationships.
When it comes to optimism; There is a segment that is far from reality and blindly perceives everything as positive thinking. It is not optimism to say or think "Oh, how nice I had an accident", "**Oh, how nice it is to be sick**", "**Or fortunately I was wrong**".
Optimism is hand in hand with truth and accuracy. The approach here is about being aware of what conclusions our thinking leads us to, and moving from generalizations and conclusions to a slightly more flexible field and seeing positive options as well.
You know they always say "**Do you see the empty side of the glass, do you see the full side?**" Optimism is about keeping his energy positive to see both and achieve what he wants to achieve. Because a problem with yourself, can you increase your energy by saying that this glass is half empty? Walk around for a while this glass is half empty, see what kind of feeling has prevailed and how your energy is. This is about your mood and feelings. Your thoughts, your feeling; your feeling changes the first step you take and results will change.
The glass is half full and I can see how I can fill the remaining half, okay, right? Optimism is about finding that something you can do even in a situation you don't want to happen to you. It's about not writing a disaster scenario.
**Martin Seligman** says it makes us feel helpless when our explanations of life's undesirable situations are framed by pessimism. However, by changing our explanations, we can learn to look from the optimistic framework and move the results we get to more positive. These are statements we make to ourselves. Actually the thoughts that underlie our behavior.
*How do we think about the things that happen to us and what kind of results do we get?*
You have been following a strict diet program for a while. But that evening you had an incredible desire and thought about it, ruining your diet with fried potatoes, chicken, and cola.
You are not able to do this job, you ruined everything, very weak willpower. You can't even hold a throat.
You drop the diet and become more withdrawn by labeling yourself as clumsy, or you prefer to be even more cruel to the surroundings and yourself.
***In another example,***
Your department lags behind in achieving the goals within the company and your manager complains about this situation.
Why isn't my team doing what it's supposed to do? I showed them everything. Why can't I get it to work well? I'm a bad manager, I want to get angry and shout at my entire team, everyone pisses me off, you think you're making these or similar statements to your own internal system.
You are angry. You feel bad about yourself, you shouted at everyone. Your team's motivation has dropped. You do not want to appear to your manager.
***In another example,***
You came home early from work and you caught your son smoking.
I'm going to drown him, what does this kid think he's doing. It shook my trust in him. He was saying that nothing like this would ever happen. Irresponsible and liar. I will not listen to him again, I will not trust him. You have thought about similar things, or you have already made such things as your son, you got angry, you shouted.
You were so angry that you lost yourself, you foamed with anger, you punished your son, you said you would not trust him.
Do you consider all these situations of adversity **PERMANENT** (*pessimistic*) or temporary (**OPTIMAL**)? Are you generalizing (*pessimistic*), do you think it's specific to that moment or that person? (**OPTIMISTIC**)
In fact, you switch to the optimism part by opposing thought. And it would be good for you to sit down and write all this. What setbacks am I experiencing? It is very important to write what I think, what am I doing and what are my results. Then, how can I look at this thought from a broader perspective, it is possible to create new realistic and optimistic options for yourself by calling your common sense, thinking whether this situation is temporary or general.
Opposition actually means learning to argue with yourself. You will find that realistic and optimistic statements energize you.
Let's continue with our examples. In the first example, the person who broke his diet gave up blaming himself. Whereas, if he opposed his own thought, actually switched to a new thought;
Calm down, you haven't had dinner yet and you're very hungry, you've been on the diet for two weeks, I congratulate you for that. I can make up this loophole. I better calculate the calories I eat. So tomorrow I can talk to my dietician about it and even walk for an extra half hour.
Look, this inner conversation reveals a positive energy in you and you will continue where you left off on the diet tomorrow. If you are general, if you say that it always happens and if you stick negative labels to yourself, you will give up.
Let me start to reduce my loss. I can do it from tomorrow, just as I have been on my diet for the last two weeks.
**In the second example, how can the manager oppose his own thinking?**
***It is as follows:***
It's true that my team is lagging behind. There are new elements. Could they have not fully learned the jobs? I can talk to them. I might ask what they need. Maybe my manager is under pressure from above. I can make him understand me too. Or I can ask if he sees something that I haven't seen. In the meantime, how can I motivate my team, I will work on this a little bit.
Now what would the energy of a manager change his mind like in this way?
I can calm down and talk more positively with my team. I can make them understand me, be impulsive to them and only apologize for being angry. And I can talk about how we can achieve faster and better results. In the meantime, I can prepare a separate report on what's going well for my manager. Yes, I can do that.
***In the third example,***
Yes, my son has broken my confidence, but that doesn't mean he's a completely insecure kid. I've never seen you lie to me until now.
Our communication has been very good in the past. Now it is normal for him to want to experience new things with adolescence. I better calm down and talk to him.
I managed to calm down and talk about the situation. I just apologized for being angry without listening to him. At least we talked and I will make sure to talk to him and spend time with him.
Take a look at the generality of your thoughts and how it makes you feel helpless. Write down their thoughts and oppose them, ask what alternatives to my thinking are, STOP your thinking, provide evidence, look at alternatives, and switch to a more optimistic perspective that gives you new positive options, and applaud your new way of thinking that will energize you.
Life shows the same difficulties, sadness, and setbacks to the negative and positive thinker. Positive thinkers better avoid these situations. They will fail, they may be defeated, but they will recover faster. They do not generalize this situation to their entire life. Optimistic thinking goes hand in hand with reality and always with new positive options. And by thinking about it, it's possible to move on to a more optimistic perspective. This supports you to get more satisfaction from life.
Does too much optimism always work? Could there be situations where it wouldn't work? And even are there situations where this way of thinking should not be used at all? I will share it in my next article. Stay on track.
***For more information, I recommend reading Martin Seligman's Learned Optimism.***
Coping With Negative Emotions (Shopping Addiction)
Sometimes we find ourselves buying a product we don't need, something similar at home, or something that has many alternatives. We buy the product without knowing when to use it, saying "***Maybe we will need it one day, it will work***". We usually don't need things that are received by thinking this way. However, this situation does not prevent us from taking it. So what drives us to buy things we don't need, the second, maybe the third, even though we have it?
Shopping addiction is an intense desire to buy and impulsive action in this direction. The person cannot control this desire and constantly shoppers through the direction of his impulses. The most important point that separates shopping addiction from shopping love; The person who likes shopping knows where to stop and then feels happy about the product he bought. In shopping addiction, on the other hand, a person cannot stop this behavior and what makes him happy is not the product he bought, but the purchasing situation. Therefore, once the shopping impulse has passed, there is often regret about the purchased product and behavior.
With the pandemic and online shopping, all the balances have changed. With the introduction of online shopping into our lives, there have been changes in shopping habits and the meanings we attribute to shopping. Shopping has now become an affair that can be handled from wherever we are, with a small screen and with two taps. Previously we had to allocate a certain amount of time for shopping, now it only takes a few minutes. Shopping is now easier than ever. This changed all the balances.
We witnessed the course of online shopping and shopping addiction during the clearest pandemic period. Millions of people devoted themselves to shopping in this period when we had to shut down to homes and lead an isolated life from everyone. The biggest reason for this; It was the intense anxiety we experienced and the fact that many things such as travel, sports, social activities were taken from our hands that gave us pleasure and made us relax and feel good. At this stage, online shopping emerged as an important relaxation tool.
With shopping during the pandemic period, many people tried to fill the emotional void they felt. It was aimed to deal with all the negative emotions such as anxiety and fear, and the problems encountered by taking something new. Just like shopping addiction. In shopping addiction, it is aimed to meet the emotional gap that the person feels in with the things purchased. In a way, shopping is a method of dealing with negative emotions that a person has difficulty coping with. By purchasing something, the person both relaxes and tries to eliminate the feeling of worthlessness that they feel inside.
Although purchasing something relaxes the person in the short term, it causes new problems in the long run. It causes the person to experience both financial difficulties and to feel bad again because of regret later. On the other hand, it may cause conflicts in relations with his immediate surroundings. Although shopping addiction is a difficult situation in itself, it can be overcome with the right moves.
**Recommendations for preventing shopping addiction**
Before you shop, prepare a list of needs and act in line with this list.
If you are going to shop somewhere you go, make sure to take as little money as possible. To help you, you can calculate an average amount according to the shopping list you have prepared in advance.
Going with someone who will stop you instead of going shopping alone will help you control your behavior.
When going shopping, take cash instead of credit card, if possible. Using cash will make you realize that you are spending money and help you control yourself.
When shopping online, avoid identifying your credit card on shopping sites. Identifying a card makes shopping easier, on the other hand, it gives the feeling of shopping without spending any money. This is also a very dangerous situation.
Most importantly, when your purchase impulse manifests itself, turn to other activities or pursuits that will distract you. Doing this will help you ease your impulse and take control of your behavior.
Of all the smart spending, I now firmly believe. It depends on knowing when to say enough and being perfectly satisfied with what you already have.
Despite everything, if you cannot control your shopping impulse and this situation has started to strain your life in many aspects, it is very important to get professional support.
***It will be good for all of us to spend our money carefully in these difficult times.***
One of the Best Stress Relief
When was the last time you struggled to learn something new? If I ask, I guess the majority will point to recent times. One of the obvious consequences of this period, which can be called the "*pandemic effect*" in our life flows and still continues even though its intensity has changed, was our tendency to learn new things. I know this from time to time, from the comments on my heart rate checks on my Instagram account, from the participants in the trainings, and from those who continue to work actively in my own environment.
There may be different triggers underlying the fact that large numbers of people adopt this behavior in the same sequence. The most common reason I come across is the desire to fill the time gained from the activities that were reduced during this period. An opportunity to address a topic of interest that is always delayed for some. This is a compulsory activity for those whose jobs are getting shorter, ending and preparing to work in a new field. Another reason may be that it is one of the most effective methods of dealing with stress. This last one constitutes the focus of this article as well.
Work stress is an important issue that has been increasingly emphasized in recent years and affects both the productivity of the institutions, the health and happiness of the employees, in short, the well-being. On the days under the influence of the pandemic, managing work stress has become more on our agenda depending on the culture of the institution we work with, external influences such as economy and politics, or the health conditions of ourselves and our relatives.
Those who follow my articles may know that I put a lot of emphasis on learning, and the research aspect of the work says that the last of the above strategies is most effective. There are several reasons why learning is the most effective among these strategies, each of which can be a separate subject of writing: There is no limit to our capacity to learn, that is, it is not a resource we consume. Another is that besides the benefit of cutting us off with the stress it provides at that moment, it also creates future-oriented results and gives us new tools to use when necessary. But of course they have preconditions such as desire and curiosity. Also, seeing learning as a "**job**" or a "**task**" will not provide the intended benefit - as here, to manage work stress well.
**What do we mean by learning?**
If we are going to use learning activity as a tool to overcome work stress, learning something about the subject that causes stress or learning about other unrelated subjects can be useful. The reason they both work is that the mind that goes into learning mode creates a buffer zone between us and the stress factor, separating us from the negative impact.
It is necessary for the act of learning to include a dose of difficulty, not too much or too little, to develop skills and will provide our brain with the focus it needs, focusing our attention on the problem and the solution. (For the enthusiast: The most famous theory of performance with the proper dose of strain is Csikszentmihalyi's Flow Theory.) If you think you're experiencing great stress, it would be wise to be careful not to exaggerate this challenge. If you are temperamentally prone to goals that are difficult to achieve or will take a long time, and if your expectations from yourself are generally higher than those of others, it will be instructive to set a different strategy this time. For example, trying to make lots of discoveries in a seemingly small target path by picking a topic that can be easily tackled or enjoyable to deal with.
Reflecting or reflecting is also an effective learning technique. Describing, making sense of what you have experienced in your chosen learning topic, thinking about what you have learned and what you need to learn more, and even better, writing will open new doors. You can also use the questions in a subtitle for this method of thinking. For this, it will be helpful to have plenty of observation. Making observations both on yourself and on other people creates opportunities for new discoveries. As always, it is critical to be non-judgmental in doing this, remembering that the goal is discovery. As he makes discoveries, he will provide plenty of material for making decisions, assigning himself homework, making experiments and evaluating each experiment, and reflection.
Another important point is to be able to observe our progress, regardless of the topic addressed for learning purposes. Seeing it progress gives both motivation and an opportunity to internalize.
**How can progress be observed?**
It's easier if we're learning something by attending a course or a lecture. Practices such as pre-test and post-test, assignments, exams, and measuring our knowledge and skills between stages provide this. If we are not in such a structured learning environment and we are researching, reading, or simply working on our own subject, our perspective and behavior on the subject we have chosen, we can evaluate progress by asking ourselves the following questions. Asking these questions first may provide more clarity than expected. Later, by setting time targets, asking the same questions again at certain stages will lead to the evaluation of the path traveled and to make our learning sustainable.
*-What do I want to learn / improve on this topic?*
*-What do I need to see to say “I learned”? When can I say “I learned / progressed”?*
*-What can I do differently than usual to reach my target stage?*
*-What have I tried and what results have they had?*
*-What are my unsuccessful attempts telling me to do differently?*
*-What do I have to try next?*
*-What have my successful practices taught me? How should I do it in what situation next?*
*-How far am I now from my starting point? How close am I to where I want to come?*
**Making space for learning**
Deciding to learn something and taking action is, of course, on our own initiative. However, sometimes different opportunities may arise, especially in corporate life. Such as corporate trainings, coaching and mentoring programs. While we can sometimes request these, sometimes they may be compulsory. In any case, the initiative is still on us. Thinking beforehand how we can use the time we will spend on these opportunities without paying any fees increases the benefit we will receive dramatically.
If we are empowered in the workplace, it is a very good idea to open up space for our team for learning opportunities. Not everyone may be as demanding or conscious about learning or using it as a stress management tool. People who can effectively cope with work stress will benefit themselves, will positively affect our stress level, and work and team performance will increase. A good example of leadership is to encourage people to learn, to support them in taking learning steps about work stress factors or other issues.
From a holistic point of view, if we see those in our immediate environment, as well as our family and friends, who are exposed to the negative effects of work stress, it may be a very good idea to take the lead or provide appropriate support to them.
Our proverb that there is no age to learn, like all proverbs, points to a wisdom passed down through generations. It may be a smart approach to look at what we want to learn about what subject, and choose the subject we are interested in. Because the effort we will spend on the subject of our high interest and desire will be more voluntary and our learning skills will be higher. On the other hand, if we set out to overcome work stress, but we are indecisive in choosing the subject, or if our goal is to make rapid progress and increase motivation, it is possible to make a choice according to our age group.
Many studies have found that different skills are at their peak in different age groups. Whatever your skills are at your best right now, choosing a topic you will use to learn or study can provide you with the quick results I mentioned above. For this, I suggest you take a look at the summary list below. (You can find more detailed information about the relationship between skills and ages here.) It is useful to consider the ages in this list as approximate periods, not as steadfast ages. Also, keep in mind that the following activity suggestions for each age group are only suggestions, and you can find more appropriate ideas yourself.
**18 years old:** The brain's information processing power and ability to track details are at its peak. It is the right time to learn all kinds of new information, topics Success will be particularly high in matters that are very detailed or important.
**22 years old:** The age at which the power to remember different names is greatest. Activities that involve sociability and contact with people are a good idea.
**32 years old:** learning new faces. Again, social tasks, activities and studies can be performed with high performance.
**43 years old:** Concentration and focus are rising. If long reading is required in any field of natural interest, this is the appropriate age. Activities that include listening and understanding other people can also be learned relatively more easily.
**48 years old:** The ability to understand people's emotions correctly. Influencing people, making an impact on groups, coaching, consulting, mentoring, coaching, subjects that require one-to-one work with people, support roles are best learned in this age group. Developing emotional intelligence is easier at this age.
**50 years old:** Understanding and learning new information, arithmetic skill. Good time to research and learn about topics of interest. Activities that include an account book can also be included.
**67 years old:** Vocabulary. Actions such as writing, speaking, preparing content, improving oneself in a foreign language of interest or translating can be chosen.
As we have seen in the list of Future Competencies published by the World Economic Forum, the topic of learning will not only be stress reliever, it seems that we will have a feature that we will use for our purposes in almost every field today and in the future. Hope to always remember that all the difficulties that life brings to us are actually an opportunity to strengthen this aspect.
Time to Organize the Mess of the Past We Accumulate
Hey, my teenage years. In those years I was very messy and in constant conflict with my family over the tidying up of my room, are those here who say? I confess that those years were a real trouble. Yes, I had my own order and I could find everything I was looking for, not losing anything. Although I was generally messy, my defense always worked from here. But was I messy at the end of the day? Yes, a lot!
*And this was supposed to end.*
We all keep accumulating things throughout our lives. When we do not place and eliminate what we collect in a certain order - *I mean cliché is not a neat & collective definition* - they cause a suffocating mess.
In today's materialist life conditions, we are exposed all day to advertisements that tell us what is necessary to be healthy, handsome, beautiful, happy and successful: You should buy that shoe, you should live in a house like this, your wife / job should provide you with the following opportunities and facilities... You have to go, do this exercise, you must be able to speak that language. And when the energy of our geographic karma accumulates on us with the consciousness of scarcity, added to these.
Those whose age is equal to my age will remember; For example, the fact that the second toilets, also known as small toilets in homes in the 90s, were mostly turned into warehouses, and even forgetting what all these things were kept in case of necessity after a while could be an example. And even the rotting of untouched bicycles in the garages, coal-like ground floors of the buildings, including the apartment I currently reside in, the storage of tiles that will never be needed, even if one day it is decided to be reassembled, mice, lice, fleas etc. The dismantled doors that could not be reinstalled in homes for fear that insects might have settled in, were too many for that time. All of this and more can make it easier for us to accumulate all kinds of things we don't need, and because of the emotional connection we have with them, it can make it difficult to break with them.
For many reasons, we may find ourselves paralyzed when we come to the stage of deciding what to keep or what to give up. All these accumulations may be our managers who shape our lives according to them instead of benefiting after a while.
I will never forget my parents said one day about my messy room that opened my mind to me; ‘You see the state of the room, right? The more messy your room is, the more messy your mind is. This mess is the visual occurrence of his mind. How would you like to start doing something about it with your mind? ”They were quite right.
Whether we want to give or not, we may actually have emotional ties to physical items that we want to give extra space in our wardrobe and home, or we can believe in the importance of the monetary value of our belongings. The main reason hiding behind this belief in our attachment to our belongings is fear. If you ask why, because what we have are embodiments of our memories, hopes and dreams. Symbols of what we have accumulated for who we are now and the person we want to be in the future. It is our status, comfort, trust with life, and yes, love, rather than our belongings that we are afraid of losing. That is why it is not surprising that it is not so easy to quit, especially for full moons, for new beginnings, for forgiveness, for all rituals with the intention of healing, maybe just for cleansing and refreshment.
Moreover, what we accumulate in our lives by forming the basis of mess and disorder is not just limited to physical things. There are also invisible ones that cause mental confusion, which degrade our joy of life and productivity. Almost all of those we hold on are based on fear and hope, whether physical or mental. E.g; The reason why saving money is a nice act at first glance may be to get away from the fear of feeling guilty for spending money and / or to be able to live in a better future with the fear of situations where money may be needed in the future. Perhaps we continue to keep what we buy, even if they no longer work, clinging to the idea that we may need one day just to justify the spending we have made with this hope and fear.
*In one way or another, something accumulates in the vicious circle of fear, guilt, hope.*
Organizing the clutter of the accumulation can allow us to take a closer look at ourselves and our cornerstones of our perception of life. Picking up confusion can mean reducing the excess in the closets of our homes or minds, confronting what we haven't achieved, cleansing from the finished relationships, jobs, and the toxic effects of everything that should or may not be finished.
When we narrow the lens down a bit and take a closer look, we can see that each of us has a unique story of the mess. We define our essence and keep it at a higher level of importance and cling more to what we build on our character and life styles, we accumulate more, and leave them more difficult. For someone who defines himself through the duo of career and achievement, his certificates, promotions and awards documents are primary bonds, while the common memories and gifts in mind for someone who defines his life through the need to be loved and loyalty to his loved one and loved one can be the ones that should not be abandoned under any circumstances.
At other times, this confusion, which makes our minds blurry, prevents us from finding what we are looking for at home or in the office, lowers our concentration and makes us feel like everything is coming upon us, it can be the curtain in front of those we do not want to face. We can use this clutter as a coping method in order not to clearly see the real problem we need to deal with, not to deal with what we need to deal with. His definition is just as complicated as he is, isn't it? There is a problem we are avoiding to solve. We take advantage of clutter as a method to avoid confrontation with it, pretending that it is not there because we cannot see it in a crowd of people in which it is difficult to find something. I don't know if you have ever looked at the mess and what you have accumulated in your soul or living spaces with this eye, but not letting go and accumulating our feelings and thoughts behind our actions can make it easier to recognize and get rid of it when we see the creator of the mess and confusion.
We all have areas where there is a red line. We don't have to have a horrible experience to pull the line. Maybe a wedding gift from a deceased loved one, maybe if you try to buy something that a friend gave you because he didn't use it, and if we don't use an item that is so expensive that you can't easily afford it, just dust and clutter will be part of the clutter. I'd say let's set our limits right now.
Boundaries are also important for our feelings and thoughts about our old friend, ex-girlfriend, old workplace. The past, that is, what is gone. Holding on to these will mean building obstacles to the present, where we create the future we choose to accumulate for the sake of what we hope. That is why it is important to leave the past that we cannot change.
Just in case. Let it stay here. Can we allow all these sentences to be precautionary and to see that the extra precaution taken when there is no situation to fight and escape in the environment is loaded with anxiety? Trusting the future even a little more than it is now means diminishing anxiety and rising joy of life right now.
Your handicrafts that were started and unfinished before too long as you can not remember the starting date in the corner on the shore; You may have braids, pictures, repairs. You may have projects, initiatives. Staying in front of our eyes with that state will only trigger our feelings of failure and inadequacy. Remembering that we have the right to choose, we can get closer to who we are and become even stronger by taking them forward and completing them in priority, or turning to areas where we completely abandon them and easily complete.
If it has inspired a little, come to you in this conversation, feel free to dive into the pool of your mess. Let the mess get mixed up with your presence in the mess. Let's do an exercise to raise our awareness of what to keep and what to get rid of. The smallest free space we create may mean better mental and body health, a more confident state, more joy of life.
***So what should you hide and what should you give up?***
The Strongest and Most Conscious Way to Remember Dreams
**I wanted to devote this article to dream diaries.** I think it is the most powerful and conscious way to remember dreams. Although it is very easy to keep a Dream Diary, it is often a lazy way. Especially when smartphones have audio recordings, keeping a notebook to write down dreams can be troublesome. But I must point out that it is a technique that has more transformation.
**How to keep a dream diary?**
When you wake up from the dream, write down how much you can remember. You don't need to write down to the smallest details. It is only useful to write down a detail especially if you notice it. Where your dream takes place, the time, the people you see, the emotions you feel, color, geometric shape, numbers, you can note them. Even if you can make a weekly table ready, it will be enough to fill in the parts you see when you wake up. You can try ways to encourage you to write. Apart from these, do not forget to write the date of that day while taking notes of your dreams.
Dreams are mysterious and the subject of various theories, but no one knows for sure what is behind them. A dream journal can be an excellent source of information about your head, but you will need some discipline. Once you get used to the project, it will definitely be an interesting tool to prove yourself.
The dream diary is ideal for those who want to identify repetitive patterns, remember important points to be interpreted, or simply increase their dream recall rate. This should be a fun exercise to help you better understand your subconscious world.
Sleep normally and try to dream. Remember that you want to write your dreams in the morning, as this can help you unconsciously focus on the importance of remembering what you dreamed about. Check out our dream articles for ideas on how to control and influence sleep.
Change your ringtone to whistle or something else instead of music. Sounds and singing can distract you and make you forget your dreams. If you can wake up without an alarm clock, it's even better.
- Taking notes by valuing and being aware of dreams makes you aware of the dreams,
-We get more information about ourselves as taking notes and recording dreams makes it easier to remember them.
-We make our unconscious behaviors that we are not aware of, conscious. As dreams begin to flow with more conscious scenarios, we become easily interpreted,
As we remember dreams, our mind becomes calm and calm. We turn inside ourselves.
- It is very important to write down the dates of the days you saw the dream, if you experience events that you think are related to your dream while you are awake following the day you saw the dream in the same notebook, you should also note them. This follow-up tells you which symbol means which, which will enable you to consciously notice the symbols in the dreams you later see.
If the meanings of the numbers and geometric shapes you see do not have any meaning for you, you can first look at esoteric information and then follow their connections about the events you experience.
After keeping a regular dream diary for a while, periodically reviewing both dreams and what happened in the following days will provide you with a lot of information about yourself. You should follow your dreams like a detective and try to make connections with what you experience in daily life.
**Wishing you to have dreams with awareness, I'm about to meet in my next article.**
Let's Prepare to Face the Way to Understand the Truth
I want to start my article today with a very nice word.
***No real checkmate! -Eddi Anter***
Our life is full of assumptions. We make decisions with the experiences in our minds, with the experiences, what we have heard and read. We come to conclusions. Our life is more lived than another… Our chances are maybe higher than another. The country we were born in is more magnificent than any other person. And as in these examples, we can list millions of judgments. X seems more hard-working, Y more jealous, Z more different.
Well, let's ask together now, if we have so many decisions, an opinion on every subject; Which is the subject we overlook the most, perhaps the least we think about? Yes, you will be surprised, but our answer is again ourselves. So while we have thousands or even hundreds of thousands of ideas and outcomes about others, the less we focus on our own feelings, our own renunciation, our own actions, our own failures. You will ask what we are doing, our answer is ready: We cannot look at the truth, that is, we cannot face it. Yes, we cover it up.
After all, this jealousy does not gnaw on us as a habit, does it? After all, the eparation pain of that lover we broke up with did not create a huge ball of resentment within us and we are not trying to get that grudge from others, right? We don't see ourselves humiliated, incompetent and incompetent just because we weren't chosen for that job we wanted so much, do we? The whole world is against us right? As if this were not enough, our business always goes wrong, but we have actually worked and labored enough, right? We live together with all these facts and perhaps without seeing them at all, that is, without the courage to look at them.
Imagine what a heavy burden we are under. Huge mountains are laden on our back; Our waist is twisted but we still continue to bend to the ground because we cannot turn and look at the truth. Now come our next question, is it possible to look at the truth? How do we get rid of these burdens and these confrontations? In whose hands is the truth?
When you create an imaginary and ideal world, that attention and energy dissipate. If you want to understand what is real, you have to give it all your attention, all your energy. So can you completely distract the ideal from yourself? A truly serious person who has an impulse to understand what truth and love are, has no concept in mind. It lives only in what is.
If you say you love or hate someone, it is a fact, even if it sounds terrifying. In order to examine your own anger as a fact, you should not make any judgments about it, because the moment you think of the opposite, you make a negative judgment about your anger, so you cannot see it as it is. If you see and examine that truth, it will end, but I should not hate it; If you say there must be love in my heart, then you are living in a hypocritical world full of double standards.
So truth requires being able to look objectively. First of all to ourselves. Who we are, our values, those we love and hate. To be able to face the truth without trying to hide the truth, without getting away from the truth, without embracing the unreal. While you're at the head of a brand new, clean, white page this year, are you ready to face reality, being as you are, your existence in life, most importantly, who you really are?
***The truth will always be waiting for you with the same peace, the same love and flow.***
The Colorful World Behind Infrared Lights and The Imposter Syndrome
Watching the magnificent views created by nature is one of the best ways to rest our soul and get inspired. When the magnificent landscapes offered by nature come together with the aesthetic understanding of human beings and infrared photography techniques, unique masterpieces can emerge from this magnificent collaboration.
We are here with a magnificent selection of the winning photographs of the Life in Another Light photo contest organized by Kolari Vision, where the best of the magnificent frames captured by world famous photographers are selected. What makes the photographs in this contest unique and original is that they transform the magnificent landscapes that look like photoshopped into magnificent colors with light games. These magnificent photographs taken with infrared, aerial, black-and-white and long exposure techniques / filters give you the feeling of traveling in a parallel universe. Photographs of breathtaking landscapes, which are products of the collaboration of mother nature and photographers, present images far beyond the world we perceive with our senses.
Although you have achieved many successes, everyone sees you as successful, you may see yourself as quite unsuccessful, inadequate, and if you think that you are actually deceiving people, you may be experiencing Imposter Syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome is a mood disorder that was introduced by **Suzanne Imes** and **Pauline Rose Clance** in the early **1970s**, in which the person believes they are inadequate despite their achievements and that they have achieved success by chance. In this syndrome, which is seen in **30%** of the society and mostly in women, the person thinks that his gains as a result of his efforts and diligence are accidental, he is actually not a successful person, that he deceives people, and does not deserve success and people's appreciation.
**Causes of Imposter Syndrome**
The primary cause of this syndrome, according to Suzanne Imes, is the pressure of success in the family. Children who have grown up in a success-oriented, critical and perfectionist family structure think that they do not deserve their future success and the praise they receive.
Although Imposter Syndrome is similar to perfectionism as a concept, the most important distinctive symptom is the belief that the person has achieved unfair success in this syndrome. It is always thought that one can do better in perfectionism, but one does not think that one deserves.
People with Imposter Syndrome hesitate to speak in public, avoid answering questions because they are afraid of not knowing the answers to the questions. This fear causes distancing from social environments and loneliness over time.
Imposter Syndrome is a condition that can be treated with regular psychotherapy. However, it is important that the person first recognizes this problem and wants to take steps for change. Developing empathy, self-confidence and self-worth skills are the most common methods used in the treatment of Imposter Syndrome. If you think you are suffering from this syndrome, you can reduce the effects of Imposter Syndrome with a few applications:
*-Don't judge yourself.*
*-List your achievements.*
*-If you think your achievements are fake, try to find evidence of this.*
*-Mistakes are instructive. Learn from your mistakes but don't let them affect your life.*
**Review what people think of your achievements and take it seriously.**
Let us be inspired by our Role Models and increase our motivation
I wanted to write on a very striking subject. *Who are your role models? Who inspires you with their life stories and achievements? Who has the feeling that "If he did it, I can do it"?* The term role model was first used in **1957 by Robert K. Merton** in a research on the socialization of medical students.
**Merton** claimed that in his research, individuals compared themselves with the reference group included in the group they wanted to belong to. After the use of Merton, the term role model has become a term that we often come across.
There are many definitions of role models in the literature. Role model behaviors are people whose personal characteristics or some special qualities they have are admired by others. According to another definition, a role model is a person who is "**imitated and desired to be like**" and "**perceived as an example or valuable**". Our role models can be people in our immediate environment or famous people we don't know at all.
According to researches, role models can increase motivation in a person. However, some research suggests that seeing ourselves as impossible to achieve the success of the people we choose as role models can damage our self-confidence. To prevent this from happening to us, we should prefer to use their achievements to motivate ourselves rather than comparing ourselves to our role models. Role models are generally divided into two. Positive role models; In other words, role models and negative role models with positive characteristics that we want to see in ourselves; that is, role models with negative traits that we don't want to see in ourselves. It is worth mentioning that I am only talking about positive role models here.
*If you wish, you can prepare a list of your role models to take advantage of the motivational effects of having role models. How Does?*
Write at least three names that you see as role models for yourself in a notebook.
*What features of these names do you like? Why did you choose them as role models for yourself?*
What characteristics of your role models do you want to have? Would you like to have their discipline, determination or diligence? Why do you need these role models?
I also declared the year **2021** "***The Year of Loving Yourself and Making Life Better***". Come on together to love ourselves and make the world beautiful.
Answer all these questions and then reflect on your answers. Preparing ourselves a list of our role models can inspire us to cope with life's challenges, motivate us, lead us to advance in our careers, and remind us that we are not alone in this world. Thanks to your role models, you can better understand yourself and your goals in life.
**Among my role models are people who, despite being born into lives full of impossibilities, have not given up and have always succeeded in carrying themselves forward and higher. I wish you days when you reach your goals inspired by your role models.**
Love Starts With Hugging Ourselves
***Are there things that you can't even say to yourself?*** Talk to yourself first about whatever you like or dislike. Start by accepting your feelings as it is. Whatever you feel, embrace yourself and hug you tightly! You're starting to heal now, don't worry!
How many times does a person experience an event that he calls a turning point in his life? How many times does he lean against himself? How many times do you trust someone? Aren't they all concepts that can vary from person to person? Sometimes you hear and feel such things that your perceptions change. You yourself are surprised at how strong you are in spite of yourself.
This is life! Of course, human beings need people. Nobody wants to be alone. We are all social beings after all. But sometimes, don't you think that people's egocentric attitudes, selfishly pro-self-interest habits, and their self-surrendered state to the primitive feelings within themselves are too flat, undeveloped, and vulgar?
In my opinion, the best thing you can do at such times is to steer yourself as much as possible. She should be alone for a while, she should think about everything. Because a person can filter only when he looks at himself and distinguish between right and wrong. When you think about it, if you decide you don't get it wrong, whatever you feel is absolutely correct. Because I think people can think wrong, misunderstand but cannot feel wrong! You will never forget how anyone made you feel. I don't think feelings can be so wrong.
I think one should get as far away as possible from whatever makes him feel worthless, and remember once again how valuable his own self is. It means that no one who does no effort for you deserves the value you give to the other party. But of course I think there is a very fine line here.
Of course, love is not a reciprocal phenomenon. You accept and love some as they are, where they are, the way they are. Again, we do not have the choice. Because you don't love someone or someone by saying "**I will love**". Love comes on its own. It goes out by itself. Love always makes the choice. We just feel.
That fine line is evident here. At the point where you feel that you do not value you, you may continue to love again, but at the point where you feel worthless, maybe all the good feelings in you begin to blur. As a result, you become neutral.
Of course, I've always tried to explain something based on love in social relationships. But loyalty and love to the family, and the love experienced in love take on a completely different shape. I don't think I can express that love too much. Because if only words could suffice him...
Your tolerance coefficient is much higher in everything related to your mother, father, spouse, child than in social relations. Especially ****LOVE**** is a completely different kind of captivity. Whenever you can free yourself from a love, sometimes love turns into love at that point. You love it as it is, as it is, near or far. This is a much more complex issue. Their intensity varies from person to person, they are very different.
And now, purging all your emotions, return the momentum to yourself. If we can direct our feelings in the face of all the pain that we inflict on ourselves, wouldn't we once again realize that the real happiness is hidden only in our thoughts?
**Who can make us feel worthless unless we want and let us in?** Are you aware of the power, light, sparkle and infinite beauty within you? Besides, if you don't value yourself, who can see you as valuable?
Now I don't know how old you are reading this. But just take a look at your life like this. Maybe you were hurt too much, maybe you were despised, maybe you were scared, maybe you endured a lot of wreckage. But the greatest good you can do to yourself is to remind yourself of the value of your own self by staying "**right now**" as long as possible! No loneliness can scare a person who gets along well with him!
Whatever you have been through, accept the events, people, your mistakes as they are and forgive them! When you forgive everything, you are free and light. The more positive you think, the more positive you will be. When you are positive, everything good will be attracted to you. As I've always mentioned, this is the invisible law of nature!
Then hug yourself tight.
First yourself, then all loved ones who care about you.
Thank you for the many beautiful people in your life!
Forgive, love very much, feel, stay in the moment!
And thank yourself for everything.
Look, see how everything will be better.
**With love...**
Seasonal Affective Disorder and Circadian Rhythm Optimization
I go into depression mode from time to time. This may be according to the season. Are you depressed? You're not alone! Less daylight hours and colder temperatures affect the body's circadian rhythm, your natural internal clock that regulates everything from energy and sleep patterns to mood and appetite. Less sunlight and more time indoors brings along various biological and physiological changes in his body. The happiness hormone can cause the decrease in serotonin and the suppression of the melatonin hormone, which allows you to fall asleep easily.
The body is a complex interconnected system in which each organ, metabolic process, and physiological function play a role in overall health. When your hormones are out of balance - especially those that regulate mood and sleep - your metabolism, digestion, and mental health can also suffer.
Seasonal mood disorder presents as feeling depressed at this time of the year, difficulty concentrating, problems falling asleep or staying asleep, low energy and feeling sluggish. By recognizing these symptoms, you can take action to regulate your natural clock, prioritizing self-care that calibrates your health inside and outside. If symptoms persist, talking to a healthcare professional can help you manage your symptoms and relax.
**How does the body's internal clock work?**
Your circadian rhythm works on a 24-hour cycle and not only affects how you wake up and fall asleep, it also helps maintain your body temperature and digestive system. This internal clock is regulated by a group of neurons forming the upper chiasmatic nucleus, which functions according to light and environmental cues in the hypothalamus. For this reason, waking up at sunrise and falling asleep when it gets dark is considered our natural process.
It's responsible for releasing hormones like cortisol that help you wake up and stay awake. It also takes cues from the environment to organize your internal system. Warmth, for example, helps you cool down while sleeping and warm up while waking up at night, so sleeping in a cool room is often touted for its sleep-promoting benefits.
It may seem daunting to synchronize your body clock with the seasons or optimize your sleep cycle with an early shift start, but starting with a few key lifestyle changes that address these issues will help you feel much better during the winter months.
***Five ways to optimize your circadian rhythm this winter season…***
**Provide a consistent sleep time**
Establish a bedtime routine that lets your body know it's time to relax, whether it's a cup of warm soothing herbal tea, reading a book, or turning off your phone at least an hour before bed.
Your internal clock works best when your body perceives a regular routine, so it's important to get up and go to bed at the same time each day (or as close to the same time as possible) to find a healthy sleep rhythm. Taking melatonin before bed can also help if you're having trouble falling asleep, but as always, check with your healthcare provider before starting a new supplement routine and make sure you're doing everything right until you come to supplements.
**Exercise regularly**
Good sweating not only increases your heart rate and strengthens the cardiovascular system, it can also help you sleep healthier. Research conducted by the University of South Queensland in Australia; exercise showed that sleep quality improved significantly for those who did strength training, especially those who did not do strength training. At the same time, exercise increases serotonin, the happiness hormone, and this can help with the mental and emotional health problems a person may experience if they suffer from SAD.
Establish a regular exercise routine, whether before work in the morning, at lunchtime on a lunch break, or after work as a way to relieve the stress of the day to help your body balance between your active and rest hours. Establishing this regular routine helps your body clock better determine when to wake up, eat, release essential hormones, and go to bed.
However, be careful not to exercise in the 1-2 hours before going to bed, as this can make it difficult to get a good night's sleep by being overstimulating. Sticking to the awareness that all of us, which we define as bio-individuality, have different diets, exercises and lifestyles, you can find the most ideal for you by trying and get support from health and lifestyle experts.
**Limit your caffeine intake**
While morning coffee can give you the energy you need to start your day, too much caffeine (especially late in the day) can damage your circadian rhythm in the long run. Caffeine is a stimulant produced in the pineal gland in the brain that delays the secretion of melatonin, the natural sleep hormone. Many people metabolize caffeine differently, largely due to genetic factors, but mostly due to caffeine's effect on melatonin production it is recommended to limit caffeine consumption to the morning hours.
Alternatively, you can swap coffee with other options that still contain caffeine but don't affect your sleep too much. As a few examples:
**Matcha:** The whole leaf of green tea is ground and ground into a powder rich in antioxidants and amino acids. It also contains L-theanine, an amino acid that can alleviate the nervous feelings you get with coffee and promote calmness without lethargy.
**Green tea:** Green tea made from the same plant as Matcha contains significantly less caffeine per serving. With green tea, you can also take antioxidants such as epigallocatechin gallate, which plays a role in preventing free radical damage and aging.
**L-tyrosine:** Known to aid alertness and focus, this amino acid provides the same effects on heart rhythm as you consume caffeine without its addictive ingredients.
Because mental health is closely linked to the health of your circadian rhythm, creating healthy habits that support a synchronized and harmonious inner clock can be beneficial for your mental and emotional health. Having occasional moodiness or tiredness doesn't mean you have seasonal depression, which is a constant depression and low mood.
**The winter season can be difficult for anyone, especially during a global epidemic of loneliness. Applying small but sustainable changes to your routine, such as going to bed 30 minutes early each night or trying to get out for 10 minutes of sunlight each day, will affect your health both in the short and long term.**
I don't Spare Enough Time for Myself
**There are many areas where I spend most of my time during the day when I consider my family, friends, work, and phone applications.** Doesn't it happen to you either, at the end of the day, when you go to bed, you suddenly think of that book you forgot to buy, the sport you promised yourself but still could not do? One day, a week, you know, a month has passed, but you just couldn't do it. Maybe there was a decision you made at New Year's Eve that you were keen to make, but February is over, you haven't even started yet.
Whether it's a New Year's decision, a daily wish or a need, we often throw our own needs into the second or even the third plan. Days and months pass when I say “I have to finish this first, then I do”. And by delaying our requests, we find ourselves blaming others for unhappy or things we didn't do after a while. I couldn't because everyone at home expects something from me. I couldn't because I was overtime. I couldn't because I didn't understand how time passed while watching the TV series.
Because the list of ours goes on and on like this. Sometimes these can be real causes. But let's be realistic; Do we see what we need as our priority? Or do we ignore our own and then use excuses while trying to help others' needs?
When we look at the situation of ignoring, we can see that we are often unaware of our own sensations. While we cannot listen to our needs during the day, the reason that comes to our minds when we lie down is a little bit because of this. That is to say, we only realize how we are in bed and can listen to the sensations in our body. Some people may not even experience this.
I also blamed something for a long time. It took me years to see that the reason I couldn't do it was because of me. A period when I was unhappy and I couldn't understand why, when I started researching the reasons, I saw that I was always giving out my energy. My article in which I described my period in detail: Can your life energy travel freely in your body? I was not creating space for myself to feel my own needs. After realizing this, I gradually began to create intervals during the day where I spent time on my own in order to understand my own desires. Sometimes this was a cup of coffee I sat quietly, writing a diary, meditating, doing yoga (**especially yin yoga**), and sometimes sitting for five minutes doing nothing.
While the spaces I have created over the years have varied, they all have helped me see what I think, feel, want and need. The meditation practices I have been doing for the last seven months have also strengthened the space I opened for myself and accelerated my understanding of my own needs.
Although I am doing something else as I sense these needs simultaneously, I also fulfill my own wishes. Because I know that if I don't do it, it will have a negative impact on my current job.
These requests are sometimes a simple thing like rest, taking a short walk, eating dessert, sometimes not immediately returning to messages; sometimes it can be a more complicated situation such as practicing yoga or changing the nutritional routine. But the common result for all of them is that when I went to bed at the end of the day, look what I would do today I didn't do it again; I could not spare time for myself again because of this. I am not actually saying no to others unless I ignore my own wishes; I just started saying yes to myself.
You can also say yes to yourself by creating small spaces to hear your wishes and needs and listen to your emotions. Life is too short to be unhappy and to hold others responsible for it!
Let's see what kind of needs you have, waiting to be heard by yourself, will come to the surface? How would you like to start by saying yes to that thing that has been in your mind for a long time?
Establishing the Balance of Import-Export (World of Contrasts)
A subject I have wanted to write for a long time is the balance of taking and giving. It is an issue that can include the whole of the world. The basis of life, the secret of happiness and existence lies right here. Life comes to us whole. So how do we face it? While we focus only on what we give, we unfortunately do not see what we get from life. We complain about what we force into life while focusing only on receiving. When the balance of giving and receiving is disturbed, the scales of life come into play and balance it.
If you look at life, you will not see anything that is not opposite. **Light-dark, hot-cold, good-bad, death-birth.**
What do you easily take into your life? What are you having trouble getting? Perhaps the place you have trouble getting is where you need to approach lovingly and change your perspective. Our receiving side is our mother side. It is the left side of the body. It is where we can stop, feel, and approach with love and affection.
How do you get the experiences from life? Is it in anger, anger, cheerfulness, complaining, or incomplete and faulty vision? Look at your relationship with your spouse. To the balance of giving and taking there. Every partnership is based on balance. The balance is disrupted when one side takes too much and the other has to give too much. Is it easier for you to give or receive?
Giving is our masculine side. How do you transfer your life energy and potentials to life? What are you giving to life? Complaint, effort, anxiety, passion? How are you there while giving? Are you really doing something out of your mind or out of a desire to get something in the end?
The constant desire to receive is what you think is missing in you. Why don't you get enough? Why don't you eat what you get? Can you give without taking? No. Can you take it without giving? No. Then see. GIVING and GIVING are one. You get an education and you pay money in return. Is it forcing you to buy or give here? You live in a house, buy a warm home and pay rent in return? Is it forcing you to buy or give here?
- When you focus on what you constantly give, you don't see what you get from the universe.
- When you constantly try to buy, you always have to give (lose) something. It could be power within, it could be harnessing potential, it could be ideas, it could be money, it could be love and respect for yourself.
- You lose more when you constantly try to take it. Because you're walking away from your perfection. You think you are incomplete and faulty.
- When you receive continuous education and information and don't use it, you miss out on pure knowledge from the universe from the fullness of the mind.
- You get sick when you give too much and speed up in life. And the system says activate the field side. The love-compassion and the stopping side.
- Or when it stops too much the universe says to you "***Come on move and start somewhere small***".
**In short, life comes to us in its entirety. The important thing is how we meet him.**
Recommendations for the subtleties of the apologetic ritual
**I used to think that this problem is just me.** Many of us are complex and different feelings of apologizing. Some of us have to apologize except for our colleague and our perspective due to this external intervention is perhaps the basis of the basis, and some of us learned to feel better after the apology. After some of the apologies, some have had a shame before they apologize. There were people who never apologize to each of us had never apologies and even those who are proud of it. According to them, it was usually about weakness and vulnerability. Most of them were afraid of a great fear of being hurt.
In our age, it means **"apologizing"**, with the definition of dictionaries **"accepting an error without defending their own actions and regret"**. This modern definition describes "accepting" as the basic elements of apologizing **"emotionally affected"** and **"vulnerable"**;
**Do not accept**
Apologetic is a process that is "ritual" with its full sense. When we get a wound in the moral direction or when we give it, we start to lose our real face. The person who has made the mistake and the victim should be able to lower the side that falls wrong to re-enable their balance. The adoption of that wound will take place that damages the bonds between the wrong-minded party. It is ritual to get all the responsibility of the action without an excuse for the thing to apologize to the real mania.
**Emotionally affected**
Acceptance of responsibility also means that the guilty part is noticeably affected by their doing. This experience is called **"regret"** and **"shame"** in the studies on **"apologizing"** in the field of social sciences.
Bill Clinton's Monica Lewinsky Scandalian, American journalist Mary Mcgrory said, "We can deal with lying or adultery, but we cannot agree with the adulteration, but it is especially captured and not regreted after being compressed in the corner," how exactly the element of the emotional affection reveals that it perceives.
**Vulnerability**
It is the most important element to be able to apologize without defending personal actions. In addition, this vulnerability includes respect to the acceptance of the apology. It also provides whether the sincerity of an apology is a measure of the yeglucia.
Psychologist who studies at Ohio University Roy Lewicki and Robert Lount Jr. With the Eastern Kentucky University Member of Eastern Kentucky University Psychologist Beth Polin, as a result of the research he has made, is also scientifically demonstrated. Lewicki and colleagues showed that the most challenging apologies have six different content. These;
When we do not comply with the social norms, when we consider the rules, when we do the mistake, we are apologizing when we are lying, we actually agree that we know what the right behavior is and he will continue to go after that correct. This way the opposite side feels safe. The reputation of our hurt is again built. It helps that the injured party knows that you know that you know that you are your mistake, they can feel better and refreshes their confidence on themselves.
Repair of fraying relationships, it is the most beautiful result that a sincere apology can provide healthy. Conflict is a serious source of stress. Effectively to be able to apologize, the conflicts between persons and the negative stress that they create. You will notify people that you are not proud of what you do and do not repeat this behavior will mostly make your relationship with yourself.
The question of whether apologizing is appropriate is also important. If the thing you do has made the pain for someone else, it is a good idea to apologize if you are unintentional. But this should not mean that you should be responsible for things that are not your mistake. For example, you can express regret that you are inadvertently inadequate someone, but if you really feel that it is no way of knowing that your actions will hurt them, you don't need to be slipped here to an area that crushes more yourself here.
Taking responsibility should also point to indicate what you believe are wrong. It is important for your own limits to specify what you believe that you believe in you are not wrong. It should be remembered that an apology may also contain a simple statement such as **"Sorry for this way"**. Sometimes apologetic is not to admit that you do something wrong with the ill. Instead, it may also be limited to the acceptance of you hurt another person.
Apologies that contain empty promises for the victim party or create manipulative consequences for the wrong side can also be seen in the flow of life. It is a very bad idea to apologize by making promises that you cannot keep or fulfill just to achieve the balance and harmony at the moment. Also, if the other person expects something unreasonable or impossible from you because of your mistake, or if you are directed to apologize even though you have no guilt, perhaps you may be taking too much responsibility by apologizing. When we don't do something wrong, or when we take responsibility for someone else's fault or a problem that we haven't caused or can't control, we start to slide into a dangerous area.
Beginning to recognize the reasons behind your trying to apologize is indispensable to your personal boundaries and well-being. Sometimes you may have become the person who apologized too much. Excessive apologies sometimes come when a restaurant order goes wrong; It means "Sorry but this is not what I ordered." Sometimes to a counseling officer at a hospital, “I'm sorry to bother you. It is to approach by saying “I have a question”. Maybe we can add to these examples apologizing to the customer waiting behind you when your transaction takes a long time due to the cashier's fault at a grocery store. Always "Sorry", "Sorry", etc. you are prone to using expressions;
You want to be seen as nice and kind, you are too concerned about what others think, and you don't want to upset or disappoint others. If you have an inner voice that speaks badly about yourself, you may realize that you are constantly causing problems and acting unreasonably and now that you are in a dangerous area. Thus, it becomes easier to remove yourself from that area without getting more injured.
*- You have such painful and high standards for yourself that it may not be possible for any living thing on earth to meet these standards, let alone yourself. However, as long as you don't meet your standards, you may start to feel constantly inadequate and need to apologize for every little thing you've done wrong.*
Sometimes we apologize for feeling uncomfortable or insecure and not knowing what to do or say. In fact, we may be trying to make both ourselves and others feel better. There may be moments when we feel responsible for the mistakes or inappropriate behavior of others. This situation generally stems from our inability to differentiate and be an individual. Instead of being two separate persons, we may be acting as if they are one unit. It should not be forgotten that no matter who the person next to us is, we are not responsible for their actions. Owning someone else's behavior and apologizing for them will also cause these people to persist in their problematic behavior.
*- If you have been apologizing for a long time or have been listening to other people's apology since you were young, your nervous system may have memorized this behavior and unconsciously, and your automatic response may have turned into apologizing.*
Someone who constantly apologizes begins to miss moments when a truly apology is needed. His confidence in himself is shaken and after a while he may even become apologetic for taking up space on earth. This type of approach is also a devious way of basically criticizing yourself and always focusing on the needs and feelings of others.
Apologize; It's not about losing your essence, admitting defeat, or being a manipulative tool used to control one another. It's about repairing pain, wounds, and relationships. Just as there are some wounds you can't fix by saying you're sorry, there are other types of wounds that can only be repaired with an apology. This is the power and also the necessity of apologizing.
*If you are in the process of asking for forgiveness, which is far from being fake and you want to fulfill with all sincerity;*
You should be careful not to use the word **"but"**. This word can automatically cancel an apology and almost always reveals a criticism or an excuse.
You should focus on your own actions, not the other person's reaction. For example, **“I'm sorry you feel hurt about what I said at your meeting last night”** is not an apology. Instead, **“I'm sorry for what I said last night. It was insensitive and unnecessary ”**is a more appropriate way to claim your own behavior.
A true apology is not overwhelming. You should focus on accepting the feelings of the hurt side without overshadowing them with your own pain or regret.
A true apology doesn't get stuck with who is to blame or who started the incident. Simply saying **"Sorry for my role in this matter"** can help.
A real apology should be supported by restorative action. Obviously, it will not do you much to apologize with great showiness and then continue the behavior you apologized for.
A true apology should not serve to silence another person. **"I apologized at least 10 times, so why are you still bringing the issue up?"** When you say, you're actually looking for ways to free yourself from a difficult conversation and conflict.
You shouldn't offer a genuine apology just to feel better if there is a risk of making the painful side feel worse. Not all apologies are the same. Trying to compensate may be part of your healing process, but if the other person doesn't want to hear from you, you must find another way to heal.
***It's been a little long post. Sorry for my mistakes, goodbye with love.***
Everything Repeats But Nothing Is The Same
**Again, I had a different experience.** I experienced Action ***Nadabrahma meditation*** through the online video platform Zoom. I shared our silence in the dark between 07:30 and 08:30 every morning with a group of 25 people. It was a small step for humanity, but a very big step for me. 21 days to persevere in something? For a long time it hadn't been something I wanted so much that I could do. First of all, thank you very, very much for the strong field it holds.
Even though I sat in the same meditation during that one hour period for 21 days, I experienced a different each time. I've always observed. I stopped and observed. Immediately after the whole process was over, I came across a sentence like this: "**EVERYTHING REPEATS BUT NOTHING IS THE SAME.**"
I bought the sentence, placed it on my bedside. Because this is the most tremendous thing that this process has told me and made me experience.
We wake up every day to the same day, to the same things, often it seems to many of us that the days are no different from the previous one. This can lead to mild depression, distress, and hopelessness in us.
I realized that even though it looks the same every day, it is never the same. If you only knew how my heart was relieved. I wish I could put it into words, but it is difficult. Sometimes things are very wordless. ***Does this happen to you too, this state of wordlessness?***
Of course, my every day was not the same excitement. Sometimes I thought I couldn't stand sleep, sometimes I couldn't really stand it, sometimes I couldn't hold my body still, sometimes an hour passed like a minute, and I remember the last two days clearly: I was more impatient and I started to get bored, I was in the okay mode. While I was in that feeling of boredom, I was defeated by the questions that passed through my mind to wonder how long it was. This time I saw something very different. Being bored was actually to cover up the potential that could come out of there. Closing your eyes tightly; to become blind, to close your ears tightly; it was deaf to the moment! To say I was bored was to cover up the infinite potential at that moment and leave it in the dark.
I understood better that I had to give up immediately because I was bored, instead of giving up, we had to stay there and stop. We need perseverance, continuity and work so that we can dig things thoroughly and see the gold underneath. Especially curiosity. I realized that it is the only thing that connects me, perhaps more precisely, to human life. "I wonder what will happen in my life today, what will I witness?" saying, open your eyes to life.
2-3 months ago I came across an absurd drama series. The lead boy and girl had gone to a restaurant. It was a place where the boy went every day, so it didn't make much sense to him, but it was the first time the girl went. The girl was mesmerized by the view of the Bosphorus. The girl looked at the boy in astonishment, how he could not see the view before him The boy replied, "This is the view I see every day, nothing different." The girl then said: “You think I look at the same view every day, but it is not like that. Passing ships are changing, the direction of the wind blowing is changing, the leaves it touches and the direction the leaves fly are changing. Maybe not the same birds every day. The birds are changing. Clouds are not the same clouds, they take on completely different shapes every moment. Nothing you think is the same is the same. Think again and try looking like this if you want. "
This line has been stuck in my head ever since. In my life, I was the leading actor who stopped looking around with prying eyes, saying "Everything is the same after all." These words of the girl struck me that day, and now I started to understand what he meant with the experience I got from meditation. In particular, I am not saying “**I understand**” because the word I understand is starting to seem a bit big for me now. Now I feel like I have to digest well in all my layers so that I can say I understand. For this reason, I can say that I started to understand, but easily.
That's how it is today, dear reader. Where did we come from again. Our journey is beautiful and it seems to be getting more meaningful every day. To many meanings we will share together.
***Stay bright, my friends...***
I Changed My Perspective For The Most Beautiful Colors of Life
**Perspective can completely change an event and situation.** It can add vibrant colors to a picture, or even make these colors black and white. Although it is very difficult to see the positive situations in this difficult period in the past, in the pandemic, it is very important to know what we have and to be grateful for, to make affirmations, to change our perspective and to equip the picture with more vivid colors.
My advice to you so that we can affirm, take a sentence of your own and repeat this sentence internally before your every routine behavior. It will help you get into a habit after a while. For example, my sentence My body and mind are right beside me in the difficulties I will handle for life. I am conscious of this and I am not alone, I have my total self. Every time I repeat this sentence, I focus on the impressions and feelings it evokes in my heart and my whole body. I focus on the peace it gives from my feet to my head, slowness and calmness.
When uncertainty is intense, such as the period we live in, we may witness an increase in stress and anxiety levels both in ourselves and in our environment. Even daily relaxation practices, meditation etc. Even when we do, it is possible that our stress levels are still high during this process. The reason is that external conditions are perhaps more uncertain than ever in our lifetime. Stress is actually necessary for us to act at times. However, its excessive intensity is seriously tiring both our body and our mind.
In fact, when we say sigh, we are talking about a very natural behavior that we often witness in animals and humans. While breathing in, breathing again immediately and exhaling slowly to evacuate all the air. *****Huberman***** suggests doing this practice several times. He says that taking two breaths through your nose and then exhaling through your mouth instantly calms you. The reason is this; Excess carbon dioxide in the blood puts us under stress, so sighing immediately balances the ratio of carbon dioxide and oxygen in the lungs and bloodstream and triggers the activation of the calming parasympathetic mode.
It allows you to remove carbon dioxide well, thanks to the reduced carbon dioxide we feel calmer and better. Also, this breathing can improve learning and memory.
If you breathe more than you are exhaling, your energy and alertness level or autonomic arousal level will generally increase. So don't breathe deeply when you're stressed, it could be one of the wrong things to do. Remember, we want to get rid of carbon dioxide. Most of the stress response is due to failure to regulate carbon dioxide. So especially give long nasal breaths.
In the form of breathing, holding, exhaling and holding in equal periods. For example, inhale for 3 seconds, hold your breath for 3 seconds, exhale for 3 seconds, hold your breath for 3 seconds. You can do this for a few minutes at any time while you are in an activity that you are not speaking to. Box breathing keeps people at a balanced ratio of oxygen and carbon dioxide, so while you are awake you can calmly focus and create a great mind & body balance to do business.
In this way, my actions, situations and events sound more vivid, more colorful and more enthusiastic.
Affirmation is not to see a negative picture different from what it is. I invite you to my affirmation. In my affirmation, we do not change the picture, we change our perspective and adjust the landscape from our perspective.
***Get yourself a sentence, embrace that sentence, and transfer it to your every action.***
I'm Here Right Now I'm Alive and I Exist
**There's always someone closest to us who doesn't come into contact with him, and he's always in our smallest social or family circle. It triggers our emotions, our reactions to our processes.**
If our relationship with our own body is weak, we begin to experience lows in our lives, which may deepen further and leave permanent marks there. Yes, wounds can heal, just like trees with grounded roots. They are strong and self-healing. They feed on the soil with their roots and grow stronger. Grounding also ensures that the tree has *flexibility* and *self-healing* ability; Thus, the tree can adapt itself to the winds of change without being uprooted or uprooted.
I want to give a brief overview of a different topic. Although there is a wide variety of applications, there is only one main topic that covers them all and they all meet under this title; It's about training the mind to stay in this moment, that is, to stay in the moment by bringing attention to breath, mantra or thoughts that come and go… The aim is to change the relationship with our thoughts, so that we can create more space and silence in our mind without being consumed by them. Thanks to this space, we can make room for new ones, and we can hear what we really want and our needs thanks to silence. Voices and our stories about past-future that increase voices and compress our space. Stories of our mind can drag our lives from here to there. Over time, the more we meditate, the less we start to pursue thoughts.
"**Meditation changes the way we think**" says neuroscientist *Sara Lazar* from Harvard Medical School. Over time, we begin to understand more clearly how our minds work and make choices that can further support our lives. Lazar's study, published in 2005 and one of his first studies, found that more gray matter - nerve cells - formed in the brains of those who meditated for 40 minutes a day for 3 to 28 years, especially in parts of the brain where we have features such as planning, concentration, cause-effect and adaptation. realizes that growth is happening. This difference is also noticeable when compared to other people of the same age who do not meditate. In their research, it turns out that a 50-year-old person who meditates has more gray areas than the brain of a 25-year-old.
Gray matter in the brain contains the vast majority of the brain's neuronal cell bodies. Gray matter is found in the hippocampus and is involved in sensory perception such as sight and hearing, memory, emotions, speech, decision making, and self-control. Higher gray matter presence has been associated with increased learning abilities and improved memory, along with an increased sense of personal ability. As gray matter increases in the brain, IQ begins to rise. In another study in 2011, he noticed that people who meditated regularly for 8 weeks had a thickening in certain areas of the brain. Improvement is noticed in the learning and memory, and empathy and compassion parts of the brain. At the same time, there is a shrinkage in the amygdala, which gives the fight-and-flight response. This makes us less stressed. It is observed that one of the most important effects of meditation is that the decline in cognitive ability due to aging in the brain stops and even increases in elderly individuals.
"**How that happens?**" As for the question. The important thing here is that when we meet with ourselves, our contact and awareness is upon us. Of course, we will not always meet ourselves, this is like a game. Dating and dissociation game. Whatever emotion, event and process we come into contact with, separating from that emotion, situation, meeting with ourselves, with the breath we take, remembering the sentence "**I am here now, I am alive and I am too**". When we fully feel the mass of the body, the severity of the problems, traumas and events in our life will change a lot for us.
Reconstructing Memory with Recall Therapy
**Our memory has a different spiral structure. How can we be sure that a memory we remember is the same as it really is?** Current neuroscience studies show that you unwittingly reconstruct your memories of events that have occurred in the past to match the images you currently have or prefer.
This information may sound irritating to you, but it has functional aspects as well. In a study, children who had a very problematic home life and stayed in a psychiatric clinic for a while were interviewed after 30 years, and it was found that those who had a more stable and traditional life remember their childhood "**more normal**". To put it another way, these people reconstructed their memories of their past experiences through their present situation, thereby reducing the impact of negative events on them.
All this information also explains why psychotherapy methods that are effective today are effective. Because when clients are asked to tell about their past, they can reconstruct their memories in accordance with the framework drawn by the present by going backwards from the current situation (or, more accurately, calling the past to the present). In a way that supports this information, he says, “**It is not entered into memory like entering an archive**”. Our relationship with our memory is different from our relationship with an archive. The thought that we can enter our memory like an archive and get what we want is a very naive thought. To think that we can take our memory in our lap and look at it like looking at an album is a sign that we do not know memory at all. Memory has a dynamism. The records of the memory do not stop where they are. Records affect each other. It is affected by what happened and what happened. Records are transformed and formed by various effects. They are deleted, they are rewritten. Memory is both different and more than what we recall.
Memory and recall is always a constructive action. In other words, factors such as your past experiences, the information you receive after the event, perceptual factors, and even the desire to remember certain events more than others affect what you will remember.
In studies on eyewitnesses, it has been found that the later conversations of the eyewitnesses with each other about the incident distort personal memories, people have difficulty in distinguishing their own memories from the memories of the other, and those remembered tend to be in common. There are many interesting studies that show how remembering is impaired and mistaken in eyewitness situations. While eyewitnesses include situations where events of a particular significance are witnessed, we are actually all witnesses of our own or the lives of others. In this context, studies in this area also give an idea about the normal functioning of memory. Eyewitness studies show that what people remember may be different from the original event and is reconstructed by filling in small gaps in the plot by inference.
To summarize, you are unwittingly reconstructing your past memories to fit the belief system you currently have or prefer. Eyewitness studies also show that what people remember may be different from what actually happened and that small gaps in the plot are reconstructed through inference. Anyway, the techniques we call psychotherapy work because the brain and memory are made in accordance with this working principle.
Recall Therapy is a holistic therapy technique synthesized with the useful points of many therapy approaches, which I have developed based on my 15 years of professional experience and training. It is a technique that focuses on the working principle of the mind (**nervous system**), is based on trauma and is focused on the source of the problem. In a Recall Therapy session, first of all, your life story is listened to. Your life story until today constitutes your "**timeline**".
First of all, in your timeline between the ages of 0-7, the emotional environment you grew up in and your relationships with your parents are determined. Since the development speed of the brain (***neuroplasticity***) is very fast during this period, the effect of what is experienced is also strong. Because anything that happened during this period and left a trace can appear in the same scene in the future and cause you to have various problems in business, relationships or health. Usually "***unfinished business***" with parents awaits resolution during adolescence and adulthood.
While doing these, event, person, body and object methods are used. The incident method is the first and easiest way to overcome a problem whose history is known. In the event method, the problem is narrated by "recalling". This event can be any event that takes place at an unexpected moment such as trauma, crisis, and then makes you feel emotionally alone, helpless and worthless with events that life is not like before. Accordingly, the flow of the mind is interrupted by an event, and the mind repeats the same event to draw attention to the problem and continues until the problem is dealt with. This is also called the "**event of existence**". It is recorded in the timeline of the mind before the event, as the event of existence, and as the echoes after the event. The echoes after the event are like repetitions of the event and the scenario remains the same even if the people, setting and environment change.
Nowadays, with the development of technology, we have some important information about the basic working principles of the brain. Especially the fact that every time we recall an event from memory, we re-narrate the memory with our existing emotions and knowledge is very important. As I mentioned above, this is the main reason psychotherapy is healing. In conclusion, I want to ask you, if your brain is constantly changing (**neuroplasticity**) whether you like it or not, and you re-narrate your memories every time you recall, why not turn it into a story that works for you?
***I wish you days that you are healthy and whole.***
Man Learned The Concept Of Time In The World!
***There is a saying that I love very much.*** Man met time! With time flowing non-stop from the moment he was born. With time that drops white on your hair. By the time he runs and tries to catch up. Over time from autumn to winter and straight to spring and summer without waiting. He felt time in every cell. He gradually felt the loss of strength in his bones, witnessed his ability to reproduce, and finally breathed! He was with him at that last moment of time, as in his first moment.
And man met with time. The year was made up of 365 equal days in total, and this planet, orbiting the Sun, was trapped in its own orbit in the time scale as it held a time around the Sun. Man asked: **Can time be stopped? Can it be found more than once at the same time? Can time be slowed down? Can aging be prevented?** Because that unique concept of time continued to exist before Christ and after Christ as long as man existed.
Man also found remnants from many years ago, perhaps also the traces of those from other lands and other planets, always bringing the same question to his mind: ***Was time really one-dimensional and flowing from the beginning to the end, and was that enough? Was it possible to travel in time?*** If there was a button and we touch it, would it be possible for us to go to a time where we didn't actually exist, like a frame from Back to the Future, that is, to push time forward or backward?
Time is such an important concept in our lives. When we say "It flowed like water", when we could not understand what the moment we were living in and when death stood before us, "**How did time pass so quickly?**" the famous, irrecoverable, unruly, unstoppable time we call.
Now, let's try to understand the world time and time concept, which is one of the most important elements of human life, from the Divine Ordinance and the Pen of the Universe.
We have said that the time scale in the beyond and in the upper planes does not correspond to the time of the world and that there are big differences between them. Indeed, the time scale and cognition of the plan, which is in charge of the will of the world, cannot be compared with the simple understanding of time in the world. For example, within a second of the earthly time scale by our measure, all of the long-term jobs in the world that centuries have not been enough can fit. An example of this, while very simple and rude, can give people an intuition is dreams. This is also the case, especially for those who drowned, living in the finest detail in all stages of their lives in the last seconds.
However, we should never forget the following point; the world-specific understanding of time is not incomplete, inaccurate or inadequate for the world. The value of world time for the world is complete and perfect. That is, the realm of time in the world is the real measure of the development of world matter for the world. And it is unnecessary and even harmful for people to compare their perception of earthly time with time forms that span the universe, while learning about the technical mechanisms of the world. Because the big difference is; The negligence of a colossal universe mechanism makes the simple architecture of the world as small as possible impossible to understand and sweeps the realities of the world away.
There is a limitation in the cognition of world time. In the time of the world, there is an obligation for certain points to follow each other periodically, at certain moments. Again, every reality has a beginning and an end point. However, high time comprehension shows great differences in this respect. And these differences are undoubtedly the result and necessity of the cognition values of this time being very rich and comprehensive compared to those of the simple time.
This realization has such a variety of fine material combinations that; The vibrations emitted from these have attained the time scale characterized by a great speed and scope that cannot be compared with simple perceptions. According to these realizations, the past, present and future situations in the timeline do not have to follow a sequence in one direction, one after the other, as in simple perceptions. In higher realization, all these past, present and future states are linked as a total to a single being.
Perhaps the concept of time is not a concept that goes from point A to point B in one direction as we all know. Perhaps at a different level of consciousness it is possible to bend time, rewind time and even move forward.
Perhaps, like our other limitations that exist in this world, its time and limitations are drawn for human beings, perhaps it is just a point of view or an error of ours as human beings. Maybe every place, every person, every moment, every situation that we feel like we have met somewhere in time is indeed our experiences that are suspended somewhere in time.
***And man met earth time at that moment, and from that time time began to run!***
The beauty of the possibility of meeting
As I stepped into the year 2021 as a much lighter, more at peace with himself, I also accepted that I had to live with one feeling.
***Have you ever felt so helpless? Or your very dark days?*** I had a moment like everyone else when I said "There is no transformation from here", "My life will always go the wrong way." And of course, as we've all experienced over and over, all of these were emotions, and they were all temporary.
The presence of the sun that warms the sky after every rainy day reminded me of every morning of the night. Hope has always been there. Those who follow my past articles know that I often learned unique lessons from my negative moments. Everything that makes me who I am today is that, made up of memories that I once described as "**negative**".
Sometimes I was wrong. I sometimes witnessed that many of my feelings that I thought passed did not pass completely. Some of them I swept under the carpet, some I froze to say "I'll look at it later." The year 2020 has been a year for me to throw away the dust I swept under this carpet and clean everywhere. What is not, what is there, I cleaned everything, I got what I needed, I accepted it with love, I said goodbye to those I didn't need.
What a heavy and full word, isn't it? If I were to summarize my life in a few words, I think the word longing would appear at the top of the list. I look back at how many exams and difficulties I have overcome, I could not cope with longing. Still in the middle of my life, an enormous throne is settled, sitting in all its glory.
As if it was not enough that my favorites were always away and I couldn't see them every time I wanted to, we entered a completely different challenging process. It has now become a luxury for all of us to be together and to embrace our loved ones whenever we want. This time, we met a brand new longing process. Of course, this, like everything else, is temporary. Days that will leave their place to better memories will be with us. And we will no longer be able to meet some of the things we miss, we will remember them in our good memories. I know. When all my misses surround my heart, sometimes I realize that those days are over and I tend to fall, I keep looking for a way out.
The best way I found for myself in all these challenging moments is to listen to beautiful music that touches my soul, to turn the moments I live into pleasure and to relieve my emotions that are ignited for a moment. It is precisely when I was completing the first month of the new year that a healing song came into my life for these feelings.
The longing in me translates, a lump in my throat every time I listen to it, tears in my eyes, which makes me believe that the "***Possibility of Reunion***" will definitely come true one day. The flame of longing that says "**There is hope**" in each tone is embodied with notes.
This song, which I have been asking for forgiveness for what I have not been able to embrace in the past, and which I have longed for, holding on to the possibility of embracing to the heart and feeling its taste in each tone, should not be exclusive to me, it should be a little hope for all of us in these difficult days, we all know the value of today, longing for the past. This time I went to the keyboard, thinking that it should be a means of commemoration.
For this reason, I would like to present to you this work that combines everything I try to write with exquisite verses and nourishes our soul with its music. There is a lot to be said, but I am afraid that what I say will be incomplete.
*So what is the* "**Possibility of Reunion**" ...
It Is Possible To Hug You From Far Far Away
***Hugging is one of the most powerful emotional moves in the world for me.*** When we look at the last year, if I say that the biggest deficiency in our lives, and perhaps the thing we miss the most, was hugging, who can deny otherwise?
Hugging and sharing our feelings with those next to us is the first thing we do when we receive happy news, when we meet with someone, when we feel sad and want to cry, when we experience all the emotions that come to mind.
When was the last time you hugged someone, do you remember? Frankly, I don't remember much. The pandemic affected our lives so much that how we missed our friends, our family, hugs, isn't it?
Worst of all, aren't we where we started now? The only difference from March 2020 is the calendar leaves of our lives, don't you think?
Do not look at the course of the article. In this article, "**What can we do, how can we deal with them?**" I will not consider such matters.
**I just want to share a few feelings with you today.**
I said hugging, you know at the beginning of my article, do you think hugging is only physically? Or can you hug your loved ones, whether they are from a distance or not? In this context, I don't think the distances are very important. If they're still alive and they're still in your life, believe it, it doesn't matter that they're right next to you. Just make them feel your love for them with your sweet tongue and the value you give to them. They already receive your beautiful energy, even from a distance, and they feel at least as good as hugging you. In short, what I want to tell is, find a way both in the real world and in the virtual world and hug your loved ones. A little advice from me.
As for me, I am sure that when all these days we live are over, I can do it in abundance and I will be able to quench with my loved ones, I have no doubt about it. However, in this life, there are two people that I will never hug again and whose smell I will never be able to hear again. Only those who experience this can understand how my heart hurts.
One of them is the only mother I have known in my life and I will probably never know this again. It has been 3 years since you passed away from our lives. It turns out that I have learned from you to be strong despite all the pain that we have experienced, even without noticing it. I am grateful for that. I love you more than everything.
**I would like to end my article by giving a reminder to those who lost their loved ones. Of course, it is the greatest pain in the world to lose someone you love very much, but believe me, if you want to alleviate this pain a little bit, visualize their happiest and most peaceful moments. You can be sure that this will be a "big" benefit in order to continue life.**
**Stay with love.**
Moving Away From Governments Will Improve Cryptocurrencies
****I do not mind their suggestions to current issues.**** People do not take into account the words spoken lately. Things go in cycles, falling and flowing in the long run. If you get the chance to learn about these patterns, the future might get tons of clearer.
In the United States, just like everywhere else on the planet, there is a rebuttal assessment of the government. This was initiated in overdrive since the crashes due to COVID. However, we have to be clear, this is a pattern now. Activities such as the appointment of Donald Trump and Brexit show that individuals no longer tolerate the government and legislators.
This is increasing as time goes on. Joe Biden started working in many problematic conditions. The level of individuals in the US and around the world questioning the legitimacy of their organization is enormous. It probably won't make much of a difference, because as referred to, it's important for a larger model anyway.
At this point, we have a Harvard Economist, putting that title at the top of the class of individuals in vain and shaking that Central Banks will never allow Bitcoin to standardize. Over time, we have a person in a reputable organization that shows how confused he is.
To start with, fewer people often think about what the Federal Reserve is saying or doing. Individuals are tired of the pressure that is essentially taking place. The Fed's regulations served to widen the hole with wage and abundance inequality. 97% (or whatever it is) may not really care what the Fed thinks.
At the same time, the possibility that Bitcoin is standard misses the whole reason for cryptographic money. Bitcoin will become standard once enough of Wall Street is bought. That's where it goes. Bitcoin is not "**the money of individuals**" at this point. Meanwhile, he met his need by paving the way for much more.
In this case, it is not Bitcoin that individuals should look at. All things considered, it's a huge number of different tokens installed and supported by the usage. Here we see that the talent of a terrifying Network Effect that spreads to all the various recesses of the Internet is in danger. At the point where it became standard, as said, it is over.
**Obviously, this Harvard Economist can't handle this.**
All of these focus on a boom for cryptographic money. Where individuals doubt public authority, capital follows it. Thus, the security markets, which collapsed at that point in Japan and the EU, see huge external flows. This money has to go somewhere. Over the next years, where do you think this will go?
Values are a clear decision. Stock exchanges should see an important course if channels other than open obligation occur. However, another area likely to move into action is digital currency.
This is a situation that can be huge. If cash starts to enter the business, it will be combined with the normal Network Effect generated by customers. Many think we are getting closer to where countless DApps are beginning to attract ordinary people's attention. This can open the entryways for great customer development and this will help give a benchmark incentive to the various markers addressing the applications of interest to individuals.
The test is that individuals view cryptographic money as monetary rather than a novelty. This is what the Harvard business analyst is saying is like the Federal Reserve does not allow Virtual Reality or 3D semiconductors to form. It really has neither rhyme nor reason.
Undoubtedly, Bitcoin can be audited and controlled as there are only 21 million to be delivered at any point. All things considered, the digital currency does not fall into this classification when taken as a whole. Today and in the future, anyone with an Internet union can create a token in various regions. Accordingly, it is nonsense to stop symbolic creation now.
At this point, we see that it is extremely unlikely that individuals will stop entering the developed / virtual space. This is the focus of the digital currency, not traditional monetary foundations (or governments).
When traveling for two or three years, all things considered, the more individuals begin to diverge somewhat from the likelihood of management being beneficial. Universally downsizing is currently incredible. It doesn't matter which party is in which country, they all tell a similar story. This is something individuals will no longer represent.
It is this burgeoning trend that liberates individuals down to digital money. As individuals realize that they are not working for the greatest advantage of public authority, monetary results become fundamental.
This initiates forward-thinking activities of government officials and national financiers, none of which worked. Eventually we get economies that are significantly more involved with abundance inequality and even more concerned with the absence of trust.
When the state default begins, it moves to a whole new level. In the next 5 years, there will be nations around the planet that do not fulfill their monetary commitments. This will really hit individuals who are most dependent on public authority. The Greeks were just the beginning of what would happen. My guess is that we see a much larger person in Europe getting the features here.
***There is an idiom in change: the mold is your companion.***
Here we can clearly see that the model does not support governments and national banks. Loan fees for long-term US bonds are expanding as of now. This is an obligation instrument where interest rates cannot be restricted by the Fed. Then the market expresses concern about the government, as a rule.
This is not a trick, but a conservative hypothesis. It is about the progress of the capital. This tells the whole story. The shift towards gold, which started in September 2019 during the Repo Crisis, was a precursor to what was coming. As of now, we're seeing a tremendous increase in the cost of collections on everything from labor to old cars.
It is only a short time before capital starts to move into different crypto spaces. At the point where the current monetary situation explodes, this place will be seen as one of the shelters. ***Wait for more...***
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