You are a unique person.

We are people who like to be with other people who are fun, I think I've rarely heard bad things said about people who are witty and liven up groups since they are the ones who always come up with something funny and everyone celebrates.

We may be sad, or negative people, but hearing someone funny makes us happy and makes us want to get close to them, because despite the sad and troubled life we may live we all want to be happy.

How to be happy is the hard part, there are people who wait for some things to change in order to be happy and others wait for a particular person, thinking that without that person they cannot achieve happiness.

We all go through sad moments, difficult moments, but the detail is not in the special circumstance we face. The detail is in how much time we spend immersed in the internal conflict we face.

But through my own situations I have learned that no outsider is responsible for my happiness, or my peace, or my desire for self-improvement. It's all within me. It's all in the effort I put into things to solve them, to make a good work plan and to survive.

We have friends in life, to go through our best years of life and not have met someone who deserves to be called "my friend" is really sad. We all have at least one person we have met who has given us enough reason to call him or her our friend for life.

It’s different in cases where we believe that someone is our friend and we didn’t see the signs that he was a person who took advantage of us, that when that person found the ideal moment, he/she betrays us. Let me tell you that that person, although he seemed to be our friend, never was. He was simply an opportunist.

A person with principles, with clear feelings does not wait for someone to let his guard down to betray him. In fact, a friend is the only person other than family who will be truly concerned when your plight calls for it.

I am a truly fortunate woman who has been blessed throughout her life to have more than one friend, people who have been with me until they can't be with me anymore and still continue to be with me. May God bless them forever.

But we will always encounter toxic people, those who always doubt your capabilities, they are always complaining because that is their ideal way of life. They always say that they have bad luck and that nothing works out well for them.

 If you yourself are able to say that nothing goes right for you. Dear friend, let me tell you that you are your first saboteur in life, because then the one who listens to you without really knowing you, will rejoice and repeat that as many times as he deems necessary to lower your self-esteem. This way he will always have you under control.

I remember the story of the two frogs that fell into a well. When they were down they decided to jump and jump to try to get to the top.

The frogs outside who heard the commotion in the well peeked out… And after a while many frogs were crowding around the top of the well.

First they said to the little frogs…

  "Jump, jump harder, so you can get out!"

And so they continued to motivate the little frogs up to get them out of the well.

One of them was more excited than the other. There came a time when one of them was getting tired and the little frogs at the top, who at first encouraged them to keep trying to jump… got tired too, and it’s then they changed their words.

Now they said to the little frogs…

"Don't go on anymore, don't jump anymore, give up. You're just getting more and more exhausted and you won't be able to get out."

One of them stopped jumping. She no longer felt encouraged to continue, but the second little frog kept on jumping, while the other little frogs above were already telling them.

With their arms raised and their mouths wide open, they screamed: "Stop, stop, stop, don't go on".

But you know what? The little frog went on and made it. She reached the top, she was able to get out.

At the top, the little frog arrived very exhausted and looking for her earphones on the floor, which she had dropped beforehand, she then proceeded to thank the other little frogs for having given her so much encouragement to keep on trying.

The little frogs looked at each other in surprise and said “Sorry but we weren't encouraging you, we were yelling at you to stop because you would never make it out, but we are happy because you made it by your own decision and not by ours”.

It was then that they all realized what a mistake they had made. The other little frog was down in the well, physically and mentally exhausted, because this little frog heard them, and decided not to keep jumping.

This is when I ask myself. Who made the decision to stop jumping? It was the little frog in the well. Even though the frogs above told her not to insist, she made her decision. She should not blame anyone.

That's life. People can tell us many things but we are the ones who decide whether to continue or not.

It all depends on our interest, on our strengths in wanting to move forward. The drive we have to try to achieve the goal.

We will meet many frogs in life that will tell us not to move forward in a difficult situation, but that is not the best advice.

Follow your dreams, pursue your ideals. Don't just take the words of the bunch of frogs around you, fight and get stronger, rest if you want, but don't stop. Always remember that you are a human being, not a machine and that you can faint.

Stop then, think better on your options and then continue with your plan. Maybe with better ideas than the ones you first had, but in the end the goal is the same. Completion will be the objective.

Achieving happiness because of an achievement doesn’t really have a proper name, but it still is and will be your achievement and for that, congratulate yourself, you’re a winner.

From the moment you are born you are a winner. Don't let anyone belittle you. Give yourself your value.

I hope my life experiences serve you so that you can reflect on them and decide to keep going forward in the daily struggles, even if others tell you that you can't.

I'm @gertu13 from Venezuela.