Tolerance and envy.

We learn by listening to what people have to say, sometimes we tend to think that people can't teach us anything because we consider them to have a low level of culture or because we consider them to have very little knowledge of the subject. But compared to what do we think that person can't teach us?

Wouldn't it be better to listen to what they tell us and then try to understand? Two things can happen, the first thing that can happen is that we consider him ignorant because he is giving an opinion on a subject he doesn’t know about or because he has very little information on the subject or because the information he has is wrong. The second thing that can happen is that we realize when we hear what they say that we are the ones who are wrong or mistaken about what we believe or take for granted.

Tolerance is an important factor in our relationship with people. Sometimes we refuse to accept people as they are, it may be the case that we dislike something in the individual's personality or in the way they speak or say things, this is when we mentally close ourselves off from accepting these people and are not very receptive to them.

We must learn to accept people as they are, to respect their flaws or mistakes. Nobody wants to be disliked by another person. No one wants to make mistakes to hurt someone or to affect another person. It all depends on our perception and whether we take it personally.

We have to stop thinking that everyone is conspiring against us, to make us fall and then trample us when we are lying on the floor. It’s better to think that many people are not really interested in us, probably what happens is that they don’t really want to get involved in what happens to us. Each person has their own life, their own confrontations, so sometimes it’s better to think that people don't have time to make a plan against us, much less waste their time in wishing us ill.

It’s common for people to be envious of other people's achievements but that’s not a bad thing. As long as that envy is not to destroy the work that another person has undertaken. Healthy envy sometimes stimulates people to want to work harder to end up doing a better job, that’s a good way to grow without harming anyone.

It’s not that there is a bad envy or a good envy. It’s never good to have this feeling to strengthen our personality, but there are people who take to an unhealthy extreme the feeling of wanting to get things easily when they see it in the hands of others and may even think that person got it without any effort. Or they may think that the person in question has many more resources to achieve success than they totally lack. They may also come to believe, under the stimulus of envy, that they are more deserving than the other person. This is unhealthy and you should not allow it to dominate your life.

Instead we have a feeling that helps us to try to surpass ourselves when we see that other people at our same level and with tools as good as ours can get benefits that we can achieve. Even if we give more effort to our desires, this is when the saying "the student surpasses the master" takes effect. We must always think that we can obtain benefits for our personal improvement if we give more effort to our work.

We have the capacity to stop our greatest mental torments. Our mind is set up like a computer. I mean that our brain can clean our stored files of harmful thoughts or fears. Our brain has the capacity to reformulate our thoughts towards growth, towards success and not towards our destruction.

It’s up to each one of us to try to find the best way to get ahead in life by taking the necessary tools to produce good thoughts, to eliminate fears. The best way to eliminate our fears is to face them. When we can make strategies to face our fears they will gradually be removed from our brain and in their place there will be new ways to fight against them and thoughts of power and domination on those fears, which will have its price and its reward.

Intolerance and envy sometimes embrace each other. The rejection of some people may be embedded in our thinking as a weapon of defense against people we see as more successful and therefore we do not tolerate their presence. Either because if we accept them we will be accepting that they deserve everything they have and that is precisely what doesn’t allow us to get close to them.

Learning to accept others and to stop having the feeling that we cannot achieve our goals is an arduous but not impossible path. Learning to modify toxic thoughts for healthy ones makes us healthier people and more capable of achieving success.

These small doses of good wishes, defense mechanisms and ways to move forward in our lives are ways that I have adopted in the course of my life. I present them to you with no intention of harming or upsetting anyone, simply with the desire that someone can take it and follow it if they feel it is right for them.