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Guilt is a feeling that destroys us very deeply, looking for the causes of our defeats in others is not healthy for our organism. Every time we waste our time blaming others instead of introspecting and truly looking for our failures, it’s a mistake that leads to more frustrations and more mistakes, therefore you will continue to blame anyone or anything that you believe was the reason for your failure.

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There is no such guilt in others, everything is in our best or worst way to solve the situations that arise. It will always be an excuse, for example, to say that someone invited you to do something and it went wrong, therefore you believe that the guilty person is the one who invited you but I’m sorry to tell you that that person is not to blame for your actions, unless your hands were tied and you were coerced to that effect. Otherwise you must take responsibility for having accepted the invitation to join an event where anything could happen. If what happened was an unwelcome event you have the responsibility for the consequences of it, if what happened was a gratifying event, you have the right to congratulate yourself for your wise decision.

It’s very difficult to get rid of this feeling because we have been taught from an early age in a culture of guilt. It’s a form of control that we often use to manipulate people or situations in our favor.

If we learn to use this feeling so deeply rooted in our mind to our advantage we will understand that this feeling is only in our mind and that if we can understand that nobody is to blame for anything we can simply remove from our way of living one more obstacle that does not allow us to grow properly.

The fact is that every event we do or every particular situation we live has a percentage of failure or error, we will then use this mistake as learning to strengthen the experience and acquire greater knowledge and we don’t need to look for who was to blame for a bad project. If it was someone external like a colleague who suggested it or if it was yourself for whatever reason you can think of who decided to do that event.

By eliminating the feeling of guilt we take with it a determining factor that prevents you from assuming responsibility again in search of success, because your mind will no longer be limiting itself but experimenting to achieve success. You may go back and keep trying and you will repeatedly make mistakes but you must keep on experimenting. Of course with each mistake you must look for the cause of that failure and go back on the next experiment to try for success.

When you succeed in eliminating the guilt factor about someone or yourself you open many avenues for personal growth and you can simply feel how the energies you used for that negative feeling now give you more opportunities to fill your life with creativity and possibilities to fulfill yourself as a person. This possibility is not without mistakes but it’s enabling you to accept the consequences of your own actions and to be able to move forward in life to achieve success.

Guilt has always been and will always be an argument to manipulate masses or people who are exposed to think that they really have something to do with the external factors that govern an event.

Personally in my life I had a lot to do with thinking about my guilt for having been raised under this factor as a method of manipulation, it was not until much later after studying and acquiring some knowledge about what it means to let this feeling dominate you that I learned that everything I assumed as my guilt was orchestrated by other environmental and personal factors to avoid the achievement of a personal or community goal.

Nowadays when I accept a risk I do it with the awareness that if something does not work out well it’s because I didn’t study carefully the possible consequences of what I was doing and I also know that I have to keep trying with an open mind because there should be another opportunity and with other more specific and favorable parameters to achieve the happy culmination of my project.

If you still believe that you are to blame for bad events, bad situations or bad personal experiences, you should look deep inside yourself to find out what was your mistake. Because guilt excludes you from looking for solutions while knowing the mistake leads you to look for solutions and not fall back into a bad situation or life experience. Mistakes lead us to feel the failure and these lead us to climb steps to overcome the events of life. Whenever there is a mistake made there is a feeling of failure that should lead us to our own overcoming.

It’s not the same to say yes, I was at fault as to say yes, I made a mistake.  By saying "I was at fault" you are typecasting yourself in a feeling of prostration, but by saying "I made a mistake", you are trying to return to a better situation that will allow you to get out of the mistake and therefore to reach your personal improvement. 

This is a very broad topic that I wanted to introduce in your minds to somehow help people who have feelings of guilt and that they can get out of those feelings and then think of ideas to overcome themselves.

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As for me I don't often felt guilty because I'm very honest 😅 Yeah I don't want to lie and I always speak the truth. As of now I don't feel guilty but the anger in my heart never subside 😔. But I keep on trying to manage it😇💚

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Anger has to do with not being able to forgive. And this is also a very big burden on your body. You must fight against it. Sometimes you must forgive yourself and then forgive others in order to no longer feel anger but peace in your heart my dear friend.

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Yes, we grew up being influenced by the guilt card. Teachers, parents, most used the guilt card method to hopefully scare the kids, which is sad now that I think about it. It should be a self realization of mistakes done, and work to rectify them and that is the best way to improve ourselves.

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Yes, you are right, my friend. We were always manipulated with that feeling of guilt to keep us in a margin of manipulation.

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Yeah just maybe I can't really forgive as of now😅 hopefully I may be able to😔

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Yes, forgiveness can be learned. Maybe your wound is still healing or you are still going through the grief caused by the anger. But you know what? try to eliminate it from your heart because it is toxic and slowly destroying you inside. Free yourself from resentment and life will bring you many more blessings than you can imagine. It can be done, forgive, and it is not about forgetting but it is about you not having hate. Just take it as another experience and something that happened for you to continue to grow and shine.

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Yes Thank you. But it's really hard as of now the fact that it's been two years😔 Those hurtful words engraved deeply in my heart. It's very hard. But hopefully someday I will be able to. 😇💚

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I wish you really make it, and work on it. You are a great woman and you deserve to have all your paths open to success. Without any obstacle in your heart that prevents you from being free to develop your great wonderful self inside you.

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