People can sometimes have more than one personality in one body and mind.
To have a stable mind is to deny change. In an environment where everything changes, it is normal for opinions to change. To remain steadfast is to deny evolving and changing conditions.
When those who make decisions in the light of emerging evidence make a U-turn in their decisions when additional evidence emerges, this is a change in their decisions, not in their personalities.
Recent history is more effective than past history in bringing about change... as in determining food that has gone stale; two-day-old food is better than three-day-old food!
To say that if you get along with me I will keep your secrets, if you don't, I will reveal your secrets, is first and foremost a betrayal of the change in thinking... and a threat. Threat is one of the earliest forms of censorship.
... because as long as the threatened person submits, he cannot speak/write as freely as he wants.
Keeping bedroom secrets as "private moments" during marriage and revealing bedroom secrets after the marriage has broken down is a despicable undertaking to say the least...
And to use the excuse of 'because the marriage broke down' as a justification for this is an admission of 'I am stupid'.
At the core of the narcissistic attitude is a lack of character and an attempt at counter-censorship. The real reason is the message to come back to me.
Someone who constantly says "I don't lie" or "I don't like lying" at the beginning and/or in the middle of a sentence is someone who lies a lot.
It can be thought of as someone who presents himself as anti-censorship is actually pro-censorship. Or someone who is anti-interest feeds on interest.
Lies are sweet chewing gum and people like to chew them all the time. Creating perception starts with spreading the lie. When the truth is embellished with bits of information, it becomes a lie that becomes harder to detect.
When any truth is added that everyone can easily understand, no one questions what comes before or after. The idea that if there is a truth in it, it is the truth.
Communication is a two-lane road and lane violations lead to fatal mistakes...
...or turn the road into a dead end. This will be determined by "the way we behave.
If the marriage (!) has ended, destroying bedroom secrets instead of revealing them is the beginning of the right behavior. Establishing communication in its own lane is the next step...
...or the simple choice to ignore the people concerned by cutting off communication altogether.
To do none of these things is a folly too big to be explained by egotistical and narcissistic behavior.
Not everyone who says they are in favor of freedom promises freedom!
Anyone who says he is against censorship does not promise free speech!
Not everyone who says he hates lies is telling the truth!
People can sometimes have more than one personality in one body and mind.
One person can really have multiple personalities. I have a colleague who changes several times during the day and lies in accordance with her interests. 😊