“When Pure Intensions Went Wrong”

Honesty is one of the things needed most especially in any relationship to keep each other's trust. When things fell off out of our control, things might go broken. But honestly, at some certain moment, you may face a hard decision of to just keep your feelings or say the reality of what you feel.

It's easy to say to be honest, but it's hard maintaining it. Easy said than done it is.

Communication is one of the most valuable aspects to keep a connection successful and strong. This applies to anything with bond, family, friendship, workforce, or in love.

Regardless of the busy days, you're facing even one thoughtful message can change your mood. In a husband and wife relationship, both need to keep in touch with their partners no matter how tired, occupied, or stressful they are. You may not know it, but those are the best times to talk with your spouse. If you're getting through a hard day, talk to your other half to avoid misunderstandings.

One of the greatest mistakes of couples is dishonesty. It's not only about cheating, you can be dishonest even your intentions are pure. And that pure intentions may turn into anger and disappointment when you failed to be honest with yourself and your loved one. You may not notice it, but every time you give him an excuse about something you thought insignificant, you're pushing him away. You're pushing him away from the truth and will leave him unanswered questions in his mind.

Even a simple excuse can mean a lot, can make a situation worst. A husband went home tired from work, and a wife exhausted attending the house, both were overworked, and as well as their minds. If good communication isn't present at that moment, dismay may build-up.

Even one hurtful word can ruin everything and can cause trouble. That what makes a couple think that things are better kept than said.

Sometimes we tend to chose not to tell the truth so we can't worry our loved ones about our undertakings. The intentions are pure because of love and because we care, however, not all things may fall from our will. And in the end, when we received hurtful comments from them we'll just get disappointed and anger will soar until silence remains. That's how our genuine intentions may fail.

We all want to be understood, to be care for but mostly fail to tell the truth deep inside.

Being honest isn't only about telling the fact, but it should come from the heart within. Tell the things you truly want to speak of. Listen to your heart, and set all your worries, and uncertainties free. If you won't tell those words to your significant other, you may regret it one day, that you didn't get a chance to hear a word from your spouse about that matter.

I just realized how important to tell the truth, being honest with my feelings to my partner. Though I'm having a tough day daily, I sometimes forget that he had gone through hardships too. That he's stressed not only to make a living for us but to keep our family well-loved and happy. And that holding back is never good.

Sitting down and having even a simple conversation with your partner means a lot to your bond. Set aside the resentment, bitterness, and anger for a moment, take a deep breath and think of the happy times and the hardest times that you overcome. It's just a problem, after all, misunderstandings can be prevented and survived only if you have an open mind and heart to listen to one another.

Sometimes, we might forget how precious our spouse to us and may fight about some small or big things, but we should never forget that we used to dream or prayed for them, to be a part of our lives. There will be days on which you see your partner as the most wonderful person you'd ever meet, and there'll be moments where you see him as the worst. But that's the truth about life living together, you can't always get butterflies, you may face storms and swallow your pride. But that's because we're just humans and we fell in love.

Promises always give hope that fills our hearts with gratification for the things we haven't discern yet. But never say your promise just to make your special someone feel happy for just a short period. Do as you say, do what you've promised, if you say you will be there, do it. If you say, you will do this, accomplish it. Avoid making broken promises, nobody likes that. Your intention might be good at the start, it may go wrong when you're inconsistent in fulfilling your promises.

Sometimes you may utter words without thinking first. When you're happy or overjoyed and tend to say positive things easily yet sometimes when uncertainty and feel of anger filled your heart, you may speak out harsh words that you. And in time, you'll just realize the impact of it when you have seen things right in front of you falling apart. That one of your fears is happening and you don't know what to do. Only you'll realize how your actions may influence your bond.

When your pure intentions went wrong, think again of the motive you are about to bring up. Always remember that people and difficulties can coincide inevitably, that's a part of our lives here on Earth. It's just up to us on how to deal with and handle each crisis. We need to be strong enough to face each challenge from our emotional undertakings or even from the cruel world outside.

Don't hesitate to say your honest feelings. It's a lighter feeling to say it before it's too late than having it regretted one day. And if your pure emotions gained criticism, it's easier to see and change some of its sense if necessary.

Are you being honest enough with your partner?

Though you might think some of your feelings are better left unsaid. Always keep in mind that honesty is always needed for your relationship to last and strengthen the trust and the bond that you two have. Be open with your feelings, even on small or big things. It's not only being true to your other half but being with yourself too.

Live your life in reality and not in fantasy, in imaginary events that you put up just to make him happy for a while. Let your pure intentions be the purest in telling your sincere feelings. Sit with your partner and talk about the things that worry you, tell him you're tired without blaming him. Don't just think of yourself, think and unfold things that he has gone through hardships too. Always have an open ear and heart to listen, don't just dive to conclusions right away.

That's why other genuine relationships failed because of misunderstandings.

Only if they try to listen to one another and both help each other to figure out what went wrong with their relationship, maybe they could save it. If not, at least they have fewer or no regrets.

Never let your life live or live with regrets in the future. Learn from those and regret no more. We only live once in this world and may not know what tomorrow will bring. We can not foresee the future so always make your today the best of your life. And choose to be real not only to make your love proud and comfortable for a moment but choose to be true to make him happy that lasts forever.

Written by: @eommaZel ✍🏻🥀