“How You Deliver Your Message is Always Crucial”

October 14, 2022

FRIDAY

Words are powerful, and one’s mood or one’s life could be affected greatly by how and what words someone will utter to them.

Even just single words matter and how we deliver our thoughts to someone matters a lot too.

Recently, we, the parents of the Kindergarten where my son was enrolled experienced a ‘not-so-pleasing situation where two parents exchanged sentiments that for me should be done privately.

They exchanged messages and accusations with their reasons for some matters regarding some of their obligations at school.

One parent presented herself to be the janitorial and will be paid monthly. She must clean the room after dismissal and make sure that it will be ready for classes the next day.

Since classes are divided into two sets, Set A (morning) and Set B (afternoon), the parents of the morning classes complained that our co-parent is not doing her duties right since the room whenever they arrive in the classroom is dusty and could be the reason why kids are easily getting cough and runny nose as they alleged.

Maybe, the parent who is assigned to the cleaning duties heard their complaints or somebody told her about it because she suddenly burst out of emotion in our group chat.

I was shocked by what I read in the group chat and I guess some parents too.

Their concern was the dust, and the excuse of the janitorial parent was, they could re-wipe the tables in the morning because dust might come up at night, especially during weekends when there are no classes for 3 days.

‘Trabaho mo yan, binayaran ka namin!’

(It’s your job because we paid you!)’

One parent, the president of the homeroom, insisted that it is her (the parent who presented as the janitorial) duties and responsibilities because she was being “Paid”.

I know her point, but the way she conveyed her statement to our co-parent for me was a bit crooked. Though she was paid, she doesn't deserve to be treated that way. They could tell her politely or nicely if they have concerns about her cleaning.

Also, knowing that the classroom is located near the fence, near the roadside, I know that dust might reach the room and would be impossible to abolish fully.

The parent insisted that she is doing her best and doesn’t mind her sweat just to make sure that the room will be clean. She also claimed that some parents could testify to her and see how she does her obligations.

But the president added that nobody asked for her sweat, and it's her job.

Until they exchange lots more and more messages up to the president asking for receipts that she seems doubtful, that for me, is still possible to be discussed peacefully and privately.

So, because of the incident in the group chat, the class adviser called up for a meeting that was supposed to be this 8 in the morning (Friday). She was even shocked at what went on in the group chat since she was busy teaching the whole day and have read the messages after classes.

However, I didn't attend the meeting because no one will look after my secondborn son who is having a runny nose presently.

I don't know what happened to the meeting this morning, but for me, it's better that way so this would be cleared and resolved properly.

Things became worst because of improper communication and choices of words. The way they delivered their messages to one another was very unsuitable since we are now parents, we should know how to be respectful to one another and we didn't even know what our co-parents are going through at home or dealing in life.

They could’ve approached the teacher instead and told their concerns so misunderstandings could be settled rightfully. Or they could discuss their problems privately instead to avoid a bigger issue.

Yet, they could have used proper words with a little consideration of the feelings of the other. It's just the way how the one who delivered her messages turned out the situation into a hot discussion.

I know, sometimes, because of disappointments and some stresses we are facing, we might utter words all of the sudden without thinking what would be the effect of this, however, since we are all human, we should always be considerate and never forget to be respectful towards others whoever he or she might be.

That's why delivering your message should have reasonable words and sensitivities in dealing with other people. Not because you just feel you are superior to them, you have the right to be arrogant and show them that you are ahead of them. That's not it, be compassionate enough and be careful not to cause complications or mistreat others, and should think twice before saying a word to somebody.

Because of this incident, I somehow feel sad that even simple things or problems become big deals to other people. I don't know but I feel sorry for the parent who presented herself with the job because she badly needs funds too.

It's not about who is richer or about money all the time.

Try to be kind too and widen your reflection and think about the other people around you. We all never know what someone is going through, we don't even know their stories or what they are encountering in their day-to-day life, am I right?

We should never forget that it's always free to be humane. 😉

That's it for today, I hope you all are good. 💚

Best regards, @eommaZel ✍🏻🥀