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In a community full of gossips and rumors, can you tell which and who are valid?
It's a gloomy day and the neighborhood was calm. Everyone was busy with their chores and day-to-day obligations. It's just another day to be spent just like any other days we had here in the community that I am presently living in.
Yet, behind this peaceful look and smiley faces, there's a hidden character of each inhabitant.
Today, an incident happened between my neighbors, I'm not trying to become a gossiper here but I'm trying to emphasize what to do and how to avoid certain situations about gossip.
Honestly, I'm a person who does not like to talk about others without their presence. I truly hate to be a part of spreading the gossips. Simply because I just want to mind my own life instead of the others'. As I don't want others to look out for mine.
Yet, gossip is inevitable, especially I'm living in a community with a lot of “Human CCTV” or gossipers.
These people are fond of talking about and listening to rumors about their neighbors and other people. And for me, these people are full of enviousness, jealousy, and not satisfied with their lives. Probably they're bored and sad with the things and the life they're having.
It was almost 4 pm when I heard different voices shouting. At first, I thought some children were playing on the basketball court, but I was wrong. I just heard more yells and screams. There's a commotion in the neighborhood.
I went outside to see what's happening because I'm curious and still concern about the happenings in the neighborhood. I saw two of the residents were yelling at each other pointing their fingers at one another and both of their children were beside them, watching.
And the reason for their fight was gossip.
What shocked everyone was when the other party brought a knife. Glad, some people put them to calm.
Someone called the police to report the incident since there's a deadly weapon being used.
After that, I don't know what happened next, but I just scratched my head and went back inside to continue my chores.
Gossip would never offer you peace of mind, nor a quiet life. This instead will give you a life full of suspicions, uncertainties, and will trigger misunderstandings that may lead to broken harmonies with somebody you know. Just like in the neighborhood, a used-to-be peaceful place becomes miserable when gossips and rumors started to circulate like a virus.
When I was young our neighborhood was serene, full of children's laughter. As we, the children were too innocent we never realized what made our community full of outrage and envy. Yes, since then we have heard screams, yelling, and inappropriate words from the neighboring homes. And the main reason for misunderstanding?
It's the gossip, and I realized a lot of people and their relationship with somebody was ruined because of it.
Because the words that had been uttered out of heavy emotions can't be altered anymore. Those words could leave an enormous impact or a crack between both parties, leading to a damaged connection in between.
I won't believe in gossip easily unless I heard it personally between the individuals involved. And since I was a kid until I turned at this age, I never partake in any gossips here in the community, and it's the reason why I have good relationships across the neighborhood.
Yet, I can't give my trust handily to anyone I meet unless I know them personally that they're completely trustworthy.
I am being polite much as I could, as long as no one will disturb my peaceful life, I'm good.
For me, that's the decent thing you can do to avoid taking part in rumors in the community. I know there are times you can't escape from listening to gossips, but whatever you heard and whoever it is, just ignore it. As long as it's not yet valid, don't believe in gossips easily.
Some gossips could be true yet most of them are false accusations with extra bits of additional stories. Yes, because some gossipers are good story makers.
Before taking any actions, make sure that you'll never forget to be civil as much as you can. No matter how hurtful and worse the rumor they're spreading about you, always stay calm and be civil. Through this, your dignity and respect will speak about you as a person.
Just like what happened in the neighborhood as of today, avoid shouting and yelling. Because screaming and shouting won't help, instead, it will add more fuel to the fire and might cause a lot of misunderstanding.
If the gossiper won't like to settle with you and do inappropriate things, such as holding deadly weapons, the pinpointing and shouting is getting worst, it's time to call for authority. It's also best to talk in coordination with the officers in your neighborhood for settlements.
Listen to the side of the other party until they're done, and start to explain your side.
No matter how bad the gossip is if you know in yourself that you're with the truth never allow the gossip and your negative feelings to chew you alive. It's not about the gossip anymore, it's about how you react and respond. Your actions will justify you.
Also, avoid people who are fond of talking about gossips as long as you can. Your circle will take a huge part in your perspectives. So if you're in a circle of gossipers, you'll probably be closer to gossips too.
That's why mind your own business saying was brought about, simply to indicate that it's better to mind your own life than minding of the others’. Peace and stability are more reachable when you're caring for your own life.
Gossips and rumors, I guess, will always be a part of the community. You will never know who's valid between the people around you. And which of the stories are true, but you can always ignore them, be mature, and wider your perspective.