Gestures of forgiveness.

Hello my dear friends, today I have started the week in a better mood than last week, for those who follow me on Read.cash you know that last week I was a little upset with my youngest son because his behavior was not appropriate, considering that he is in full studies and time flies by and we do not know how to take advantage of it.

I listened to all your advice, it really helped me more than you can believe, I learned that my son is at a difficult age, that I should listen to him more and that he deserves his space and I should not invade his privacy or his decisions.

For my part, I think that keeping quiet helped me a lot, finally peace returned to the house, order and joy. I know that in every home there are moments of difficulty, but it is in us to know how to face the difficulties and wait for the storm to pass.

Yesterday afternoon we went to mass, all the neighbors had been summoned for this activity by the relatives of my friend Romelia who died a month ago. In that mass the ashes were going to be blessed and then placed in a special place.

Our guide and pastor, Father Pedro, from the Jesus the Worker Church, gave us a beautiful sermon that spoke about forgiveness, it could not have happened at a better time such a beautiful message that made us all reflect, especially my son and me.

Father Pedro told us that if we wanted to live in peace it was better to forgive and let go of all those burdens or grudges that we feel.

And that in order to learn to forgive we had to take into account certain steps that would make the path easier for us.

First step:

I choose forgiveness and not resentment.

When we feel resentment in our heart it is difficult for us to take the first step to forgive, but if you choose to forgive you will feel free, without complications, without ties.

There was something that made me reflect even more on this part, Father Pedro told us that the word rancor came from the word rancid and for us that word means that something is bad, is damaged, rotten.

Well, the person who feels resentment is poisoning himself, he is hurting himself and causing himself harm, while the other person who is making him feel all these emotions is perhaps calm and happy.

I choose compassion and not revenge.

Many of us find it difficult to forgive because we choose revenge, since we are children the world teaches us that we should not let anything or anyone, that if we are beaten at school or in the street we should respond in the same way.

When we choose revenge we become a worse person than the one who hurt us, on the other hand if we forgive we are telling the other person that my happiness does not depend on you.

Forgiveness is an overcoming of the old testament, that is to say, that in the old times there was a law that said, "An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" but instead since Jesus came to the world he taught us to forgive and in fact his love for us was so great that he died on a cross for the forgiveness of our sins.

Third decision: How to forgive?

I choose to grow and not stagnate.

It is not necessarily necessary to forget what was done to us, we must forgive but it is good not to forget because in this way we do not repeat the experience, that is to say that we do not make the same mistakes. Forgiving helps us to move forward, to continue, to move on.

There are people who forgive but they are stuck because they continue to make the same mistakes.

Father Pedro told us that a clear example of this point is in marriage. When an infidelity happens and although the wife says that she forgives her husband's infidelity and pretends that nothing happened, but the truth is that every time she can, she claims it back in every discussion.

To forgive is to tell the other person that although he wanted to destroy me and hurt me, I have decided to forgive and continue on my way.

Fourth decision:

I choose humility and not pride.

If we recognize that we have also sinned, that we have failed others and that we are not perfect, we are being humble of heart. We should not believe that we are perfect as if we never committed any fault against another person, as if we never judge and criticize others, that pride and pride does not allow us to see clearly what is really happening.

I choose God's strength and not my strength.

At this point I realized a very true truth, that by our own will we will never go to the other person who hurt us or hurt us to clear things up and forgive us. But on the other hand, if we let God act, and we pray with faith asking him to fill us with his spirit, we will surely feel that impulse, that strength to go to that loved one, that relative or that neighbor and simply talk and forgive to continue with a happier life.

Life has never been easy, said the father, not even when we were born was it easy because we are born in a stormy birth, in the midst of tears, blood, sweat and tears. We are born hungry, naked and cold. Nobody said that forgiveness was easy, but if we understand that God forgives everything and that we must let Him act in our hearts it will be easier.

If we pray for those who persecute us and those who slander us, you will feel peace in your life and you will be able to move forward to a full life. Talk to God and ask him to help you and teach you to forgive.

5 things, 5 decisions and solutions that God presented to us through Father Peter in the mass:

Do not hold grudges, do not be angry and do not hold grudges against anyone.

Do not fall into revenge.

Grow and do not stagnate, leave the past behind, heal, free, forgive is to leave the past behind and focus on the present.

Don't think you are better than someone else, don't think that you don't fail, because we don't know when we are going to make a mistake.

And lastly, pray, talk to God and tell him "Lord, I can't do it alone, help me to forgive".

Now I am happy at home, after mass my son and I reconciled, we forgave each other and decided to move forward. I trust in God to continue being a good mother and help my son in this process of life.