Don't let anyone or anything affect your self-esteem, be proud of who you are.

I would like to begin my writing today by telling you that God created us to be perfect, Yes friends! If you have heard the phrase God created us in His image and likeness! Then you will understand me.

Every day that we begin our life is a new beginning, we are born again and we should feel invaluable and that we are full of capabilities to succeed. We should not be afraid or ashamed to recognise that we were created by God to succeed and to be very happy. 

I definitely believe that we were born with all the possibilities to succeed in life. We are all valuable and we should not allow anyone or anything to tell us otherwise.

Today I want to return to the subject of self-esteem, it is a topic that is being very much touched lately among my family, as my beautiful niece Emily (19) is going through a difficult situation that does not allow her to love, value and accept herself as God brought her to this world. I think the world, people, social networks and many bad things damaged her mind and now she suffers when she looks in the mirror and sees herself horrible, fat; out of respect for her I will not post any picture, but I can only tell you that she is the most beautiful girl in the whole world.

 This issue has led me to talk to many mothers who have adolescent girls, to be vigilant and not to allow anything or anyone to cause any upset to their loved ones.

 I understand that if we do not manage to have adequate self-esteem we will not be able to get ahead, we will not be able to have good emotional, loving or working relationships, in each of the different spaces in which we develop on a daily basis.

No matter how much we have treated Emily psychologically and with nutritionists and specialists in the field, we have not been able to get her to heal completely, but even so we do not give up and we continue to fight day after day with our love and our attention. 

Today more than ever I want to deal with this issue of self-esteem, I want to investigate and learn, so I will not leave my girl alone and I will continue to look for tools that will help me to get rid of those demons that have got into her head.

 I am convinced that if we improve our self-esteem then everything around us will improve; yes friends, everything changes for the better, improve the way you see the world, improve the way you approach it and improve the way you use your qualities and abilities, then we will be more productive and have more possibilities.

How to improve my self-esteem?

First we must be aware of the thoughts we have, that is our inner dialogue, it is that voice that always speaks to us and is telling us things; I remember that my therapist used to call it "Crazy Radio" and other experts call it inner language.

Well friends, what happens when that crazy radio does not turn off and only says and repeats ugly things, and makes judgments and negative criticisms. The truth is that we have all gone through this and we live constantly pointing at ourselves, criticising and belittling ourselves and we do not realise that with this action we are hurting ourselves and we feel that we are not capable, that we cannot, that we are not worth it, that nobody loves us and that we are only a nuisance.

Have you ever thought and analysed this point for a moment? Breathe, take a minute and think about what you are saying to yourself, how you are treating yourself. Did you know that everything you are, is what you project to others?  Yes friends, everything you are and feel is what you convey in each of your actions, good or bad.

The second thing to improve my self-esteem would be to know what my qualities are and based on this to reinforce them every day. Don't be afraid to recognize yourself as a good, loving, respectful, courageous, sincere, friendly person, if that's what you feel and practice, then it's a good thing and hopefully every day you can reinforce them and take them with you to every place and enjoy what those positive qualities generate.

That's what they call "self-love" so don't stop telling yourself what a good human being you are and what you have formed within you. It is also true that we have limitations, defects, that we make mistakes, yes, but we also have possibilities and potential.

So it is important that from today you recognise yourself and if you haven't done it yet, start looking inside yourself for those characteristics that define you and make a list of them. Bring out that spiritual side and feel full and proud because you were created by the hands of God.  

Look, in life, we will always get many people who will criticise you and will want to make you feel bad, they are people who love to hurt others and destroy with their tongue, so when you get people like that, do not let them invade your thoughts, do not let them make you feel less.

 Finally, I invite you to improve your language when talking about yourself to others, when you do this, speak in a positive way, highlight all the good in you, "I am a positive person" "I am a generous person" "I am polite" "I am kind" "I am a hard worker". Stop saying ugly things to yourself, instead show others how much you love yourself, how much you accept yourself and how much you trust yourself. 

People are used to putting labels on others, whether they are fat, skinny, donkey; don't let them put any label on you that offends you and doesn't do you any good. When someone wants to do something like that, give them a hard time. For my part I never allowed nicknames to be called on me, nor on my children. I remember when my son was born, a man in my neighbourhood wanted to call him a nickname and I immediately stopped him and didn't allow anyone to do that to him.

If you have problems with your mirror, or rather with your body, we must be clear that we must improve our diet and our physical exercise, not so much for the aesthetic aspect, although it is true that it is very important, but do it for your health and to feel good about yourself.

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