Do you feel lonely?.. Don't.
Sometimes we feel alone. We don't want to share it with the people around us. We've all been through times like this. But as we grow up, our awareness increases and we begin to learn to deal with it but some of us have a hard time overcoming this problem Loneliness is a normal, human experience. But loneliness, when uncontrollable, can be bad for your physical and mental health. Some studies have found that loneliness is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
Whether you feel a little lonely at home from time to time or experience a deep sense of loneliness when you are alone at home, it is important to handle the loneliness in a healthy way. Here are 10 things you can do right away when you feel lonely.
1. Acknowledge You Feel Alone
Don't waste your energy fighting or trying to suppress your emotions. Everyone feels lonely sometimes.
And feeling lonely doesn't mean you're lame or weak. It just means you are human.
2. Develop a Plan
Sometimes you just need to fix a problem. Other times, you need to figure out how you feel about the problem.
Consider whether the best way to handle your feelings of loneliness should involve solving the problem (by communicating with someone) or figuring out how you feel about the problem (taking care of your feelings).
If you're feeling lonely on a Friday night, and you have friends or family members to call, you may decide that the best way to resolve the issue is to contact someone. For example, you might find that talking on the phone helps, or you might invite someone to spend time with you.
You may feel even more lonely if no one answers when you call. Only then can you consider tackling the problem from a different angle. Instead of trying to connect with someone in these situations, address how you feel about loneliness.
You can choose to engage in a healthy coping strategy that makes you feel better. Drawing, knitting or taking a walk while listening to music are just a few examples of solitary activities that can help you cope with loneliness in a healthy way.
3. Connect with People from Your Past
Sometimes it's easier to connect with old friends than to make new ones. Perhaps you've lost touch with your schoolmates in high school or college over the years. Or maybe you have a cousin you don't talk to very often.
You can call them right now and ask how they are doing. You can talk about how much you miss them and want to see them more often.
You may find it easier to connect with old friends, people from your old neighborhood, or previous coworkers because you already have things in common.
4. Join a Group or Club
In addition to potentially connecting with people from the past, you may also want to meet new people. See community events that might be available to you. From book clubs, playgroups, sports groups, and business groups, you'll discover there are many ways to connect with people around you.
You can use the internet to see what kind of activities are available in your neighborhood or within reach. Join an event that suits you and try to meet a few people. You'll find that attending a few different events or joining a few different clubs easily helps you meet more people.
5. Read a Book
Reading a book helps you get into the minds of the characters or writers. This can help you understand how other people think and bond with them so you don't feel lonely.
You can also choose a book that you would never normally read. Whether this is a novel or a self-help book, it will help you gain new perspectives. If you don't like reading books, you can still feel the same effects by listening to many voiced books.
6. Find an Online Forum
One of the great things about the internet is that you can connect with people from all over the world. With a little search and a few clicks, you can find people with similar interests, problems and goals.
From rare collectibles to unsolved mysteries, you can search for forums where people discuss topics of interest to you. You may find that talking to other people about things you're passionate about or things you enjoy helps you feel more social, even if you've never met them before.
7. Learn Something New
Whether it's a new language or a new skill, getting excited about something you've learned can help you feel better. It can also open doors for meeting new people.
Sign up for a cooking class, box, or go to an online training site and take a class in your area of interest. Thus, you can both add something new to yourself and communicate with people who are dealing with the same fields.
8. Get a Hobby
Taking up a hobby that can be done individually or collectively can positively affect your mood and help you live in the moment. This means fewer bad thoughts about “being alone forever” and less reflecting on negative events from the past like “I can't believe you told me that.”
If you don't have any hobbies, make acquiring one a priority. Try different activities, from fishing to pottery, until you discover what you love.
9. Do Good
Doing nice things for others can help you feel better.
Whether you're attending an official community fundraiser or deciding to do a favor for a friend, there are many things you can do for good. If you're having trouble finding something you can do, you can contact local charities, hospitals, nursing homes or animal shelters to find out how you can volunteer or offer help.
10. Get Professional Help
If you're struggling with loneliness and don't know what to do, you may want to seek professional help. Talking to a psychologist or psychiatrist can help you make more meaningful connections with people and explore strategies for coping with loneliness in a healthy way.
Thank you everyone.