Do we know how to forgive, What is Forgiveness Meditation?
Do you have a nature that immediately holds a grudge or can you push everything aside? Life is very strange, when everything is going well, an unexpected event comes up and expects you to say something. You will either hate it or act like it never happened. What we do in both. But I think it's more important for our soul to pretend it didn't happen, to forgive.
A friend of mine said that he used reiki to heal himself and it was beneficial. I thought that whatever was beneficial to him might be beneficial to me as well, so I decided to take Reiki. This is how the adventure started :)
The Reiki master at the place I went to suggested that my heart chakra was very small and that I should give Reiki there specifically. I did as he said. I gave myself Reiki on a regular basis almost every day. I relaxed a little with the peace of being doing something for myself. But I wanted more. Because even though the pain of anger was lessened, he was still inside me in all his majesty.
After a while, I attended another training given by the Reiki master. At the very beginning of the training, we asked “are there people in your life that you hate and cannot forgive?” she asked. Me and many others like me raised our hands. He said; “You will forgive! If you want to attract abundance and abundance into your life, you will forgive. There is no other way!”
We all objected; “What, take all the sadness and be deprived of abundance and blessings, and as if that weren't enough, you have to forgive. What kind of justice is this! It is never, ever unacceptable!”
He said, “Hatred is a very strong bond. You cannot be free until you break this bond. If you want to be free, you will forgive.”
But how?
“To forgive, all you have to do is sincerely intend to forgive,” he said, and suggested that we do the forgiveness meditation he taught us every day until we feel that we are 100% forgiven. The good thing is, we didn't have to tell the other party that we forgive, or we didn't have to deal with that person again and include them in our lives.
Reluctantly, I decided to do it. As I took a step on this path, the universe had prepared nice surprises for me. And so I continued through the forgiveness process without looking back.
As far as I have observed from my experiences, I can list the stages of forgiveness as follows:
Intense anger and excessive resistance to forgiveness
intend to forgive
The tongue says that it forgives
The heart says it forgives
Even if you forgive, the past still hurts more
The past no longer hurts
Being aware of the spiritual experience of the past and the good behind it and saying “it is good that it happened”
If you continue to communicate with the person you forgive and you see that he feels guilty towards you, make peace with the past enough to console him.
Being able to easily share this experience with others
Unconditionally intend to always be forgiving for your next life.
Realizing that there is really nothing to forgive
If you remember, I said in my previous article that forgiveness is inevitable for "Loving Yourself". You ask why? Because when we are wronged and hurt by others, we blame ourselves the most and we cannot forgive ourselves for what happened to us. We say; “How could I be such a sucker? How could I allow this? Why couldn't I stop? Why couldn't I foresee? Where did I go wrong?"
This is why we must first and foremost forgive ourselves completely and deeply. You can reach the forgiveness meditations that I have compiled for you from this link.
Anger and hatred are such a heavy burden that your eyes squint from the extreme pain and strain it causes you to carry it on your back. While you are trying to move forward, you cannot even see in front of you, you do not know in which direction you are going. The only solution is to get rid of these burdens on your back. Only then will your eyes be opened and you will finally be able to see the truth.
Thank you for reading.
