what we think is best for our child may not be the best at all

Parents always want the best for their children. We have our opinions in everything. We use our experiences as basis on how to guide and teach them lessons. If we don't think it is right for them, we get involved and stop them even if it means destroying their happiness.

I cannot say that I will be a good mother to my son. No one even knows the meaning of a good mother. The idea is too broad and we have to consider a lot of factors on that.

I am the same mother as any mothers out there. We all want the best for our children. We gave our everything including our world to them. We are even willing to sacrifice our lives for them. Yet, we think that these are not enough because they deserve more. That is how much we love them.

But, do we really know what is best for them?

Even if they are our bloodline, we still have different ideas and opinions. They may be smarter than us or they may have considered factors that might affect them in the future. They can disobey us. They can get mad at us for trying to control them or for trying to let them do the things we were not able to do when we were at that age. Because in the end, we don't really know what they're thinking or what they're feeling. It is their life. We are just guardians, shoulders and supporters.

Also, children tend to hide the pain they are feeling either the ones they felt at home, school or any places. Your child might tell you one thing but for sure, not everything. Let me ask you, when you were young, did you share everything to your mom or dad? Did you tell them that you were bullied, insulted or betrayed? No. Because you don't want them to get involved.

So please, parents, I know it is hard every time our children will keep things from us. Let's try to understand them, respect their decisions and keep them close at all times.

Let them feel the pain, make some mistakes and have bad experiences because this is how they will grow and mature as a responsible individual.

Let me include this in my article. I have always wanted to share this with someone. If you want your children to be doctors or lawyers, you can share it to them but don't force them if they don't want to. You could've been a doctor or lawyer yourself. Don't push your dreams to your children.

If your child will tell you that they want to become a businessman, let them think that way. Don't tell them they're too ambitious. If they will tell you that they want to be a bartender or historian, don't tell them that their dreams are too small or that it's not practical.

Let them dream their own way. Let them find their own path. Who are we as parents to tell our children that they are dreaming too big or too small? We are just their mothers. They are capable of anything. Instead of telling them they're dreaming too big or too small, let's support them and help them make it happen.

Let them find what makes them happy.