How's everyone here? We have a gloomy day and it reflects too on how we feel. It's reacts to the emotions we have, the most difficult part is when we reminisce the past that happenings in us. The most thoughts we have in mind if it's a gloomy day are the sad ones. Maybe because it brings us the melancholy of the weather.

How Friendship Starts?

I have many friends virtually this time, but before I had many friends from my classmates in highschool and college. But as time goes by it's only greetings of occasions we have a communication with. No more talking of how's your life now? How did you feel this time. Maybe because we have each other's life to handle and face everyday.

I have this friend of mine, she's the wife of the friend of my husband too. We became close because they rent a room in my husband's house in the city.

Actually, I do the first move by chatting her on the Facebook messenger and there the start of our friendship. We became close, I find time to chat her, at first we are in the same phase because she doesn't have a child at that time so we can relate ourselves with each other, but later she got pregnant and having a her first born son. We find time to attend to the christening of his child and my husband is also the godfather to their son.

We became really close, I remembered when they went here at home she hugs me back I'm surprised that they went to our home for a visit, I thought it's only her husband. That was lasted I think 3 years of chatting on messenger because they lived far from us too, so the only communication is chatting unless they come here for a visit.

Friendship Are Being Tested

It was December 2018, when I suggested my husband to have a little gatherings for the family, like having a Videoke night for husband's family, and he was into this too. So I'm excited from that time asking permission from my husband to invite Lottie and he said yes. When I invited them, Lottie needs to to home in their hometown in Bacolod City with her son, but the husband will be left here at Iloilo because of work.

So Lottie suggested to invite her husband though they were not here, I invited the husband at first he didn't reply if he will attend to the Videoke night or not.

I again invited him the day is where the Videoke night will be happening, later at night is the Videoke night.

I still don't have an answer from him so I just ignore that matter. When we are at the venue I don't feel well because of my mouth sore is aching, I can't enjoy the foods in front of me. There were no signal of network inside the venue, so the nephews and nieces of my husband keep going out because they were monitoring their updates from their social media.

Before I forget though Lottie's husband didn't reply to me I told the address of the venue and he has his motorcycle for transportation.

So I don't bother to check my phone if there were updates in my Facebook plus I have an aching mouth sore. When going home I was surprised of the messages I received all cursing to me, I was shocked and it was Lottie asking me where is the address of the Videoke night why i didn't reply to her because her husband was trying to go the venue of Videoke night.

So I replied to her that I'm very sorry I haven't saw the messages I explained myself to her but she doesn't listen to me all she heard was herself. I cried from that night and my husband was angry with them. Why they put the blame on me. Because Lottie told me that her husband was trying to go to the venue but don't know where's the address but telling them I chatted the address to him earlier but he's the one who doesn't reply to me.

Friendship is in the Edge of the Relationship

I felt so lost from that night, I'm the person who's very sensitive in any situations, I don't want someone will hate me. And the painful part is, she puts the blame on me, telling me that it's time to end the friendship at first it was really hard for me because I'm used to chat with her every day. But she messaged me that she's sorry for the words she spitted to me. I accepted her apologies too. But I distant myself from her, time to time she's the one who message me first I replied too but that was not like before.

I'm quite but I can remember all the words she told me. At that time, she will tell her problems to me, and that's where I'm soft again because I pity what her husband is doing to her And our friendship came back little by little as it was before.

But Communication has to End

These recently, it was March 2022 when my mother in-law died, for they are the family friend, Lottie and her husband attended the wake and our mourning had lessen because there are people who had stayed for the wake of my late mother in-law.

After the wake Lottie again quarelled with her husband and Lottie message me about her husband without my knowledge I didn't know that her husband can monitor our conversation.

I'm surprised her husband message me that I'm the who pushes her wife to stay away from him. I don't reply to him instead telling Lottie about it. Lottie and I decided not to have a communication anymore and telling me that though we end up our communication I'm still her friend by the heart.

Until now we don't communicate, my question does Friendship really ends? Or still you have a place from their hearts.

Thank you for reading my article.